Please don't think less of me. - But I need to share this with everyone.

Insanemomof3 wrote: James and I have decided to split up. He has full custody of the boys (long story from long ago) but will let me see them and talk to them whenever I want.

We sat down last night and talked A LOT. We have NOTHING in common anymore and our relationship is not working. We tend to fight more than anything. I love him, and he loves me, but we feel that that is just not enough. We need to have some common ground and we just don't. Opposites don't really attract...not always.

We are splitting on good terms though. Friends first and foremost. That is important to me. And him I think/hope as well. If we keep trying to make this work, it will end badly and we don't want that to happen.

I am moving to Montana. I am going to get to know my daughter again. I hope that no one judges me for this, and I hope that you are all still friends with me. I don't want to lose you guys either. But I needed to let you know so that you knew.

I love you all, and I will still be around. I hope that I am still welcome.

My heart is breaking right now, but I will get through it. I have cried so much. I am miserable. But I know this is for the best.

CantWait replied: Best of Luck.

My3LilMonkeys replied:

PrairieMom replied: I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm sure times are going to be hard for a while. i hope that things work out for you.

ToriTrouble replied: Good luck. I hope it works out for you, sincerely. Sometimes life is just so hard.......

moped replied: I am sorry you are going thru all this

We are always here

gr33n3y3z replied: Sorry to hear that
Your still welcome here

Daisymom2 replied: You are doing the best thing that you can for your children. They won't be happy if they see that you guys aren't happy. Everything will work out the way it's supposed to be. You are a wonderful mother not to put your kids thrru constant arguing and fighting.
I'm new but please know that I am thinking about you.

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Denise, we love you. Who am I or anyone else to be the one's to judge you or your decision? Marriage is hard work, and I understand that it doesn't always work out. I know that you tried hard, and that you want the best thing for your children. You are a great Mother, and I just hope that you will be able to continue to see your children, and your other daughter.
It sounds like you & DH are on the same page. You both want the end this in the best way possible, and support your children through it. I'm glad that this isn't ending ugly, and you both are civil. That's the best thing for your children. Fighting all the time, like you said you were, isn't good for them or your relationship.

Have you considered seperation? Time to see a marriage counselor? If there is still love, there is still hope. Again, this is your choice. And no matter what you choose to do, don't ever think that I will think any less of you. I want you to be happy.

Big hugs to you! And know that I'm here for you, and I want to support you. Anytime sweetie, just PM me.

Ann

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Denise you are in my thoughts and prayers right now. What a big decision you had to make.

I think no less of you, hun and you are always welcome here! You're a great mom who is just doing what is best for her family right now.

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luvmykids replied: Denise,
First of all . My heart breaks for you just because I know as a mother this must have been a decision beyond difficult.

Secondly, I in no way think less of you or judge you. Only you can make choices for you and your family and I trust your judgement.

I wish all of you the best and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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MommyToAshley replied: So sorry for all that you are going through. It's your and your DH's decision to make, no one can judge you for that. It's good that you can be friends, that is so important to your children.

I wish you the best, and of course you are welcome here. You are more than welcome, you are part of our family and you had better report in and let us know how you are doing!

Edward's Mommy replied: I'm so sorry you're hurting right now!! I'm sorry that you and your husband are spliting up, but I think it's WONDERFUL that you're doing on friendly terms. That will not only be good for your children, but in the end you still have a friend. I hate to see people divorce, but it makes me very happy to see a divorced couple still go on as friends! I hope everything works out for you and we will always be here for you!! Keep your head up!!!

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jacobsmama replied: Hang in there and we are all here for you!

~~*Missi*~~ replied: I really don't know why you would think anyone would judge or not be friends with you because you and your spouse made a decision that works best for you.

I hope that everything works out. I think you are doing the smart thing if its not working its not working. Its better to be "friends" then "enemies" right. Especially with children....
I give you props and hope that all works out for you and your husband. Also I hope that you have a good move and quick healing. Even thou this is a decision you made, you will need to heal. Hurry back to us
We are here no matter what.. judging is not our job!
Good luck and

MyLuvBugs replied: Why on earth would we judge you sweetie? You're just so sweet, it breaks my heart to hear that you're having to go through this. But at least you're doing it maturely. Just remember to keep the communication lines open throughout the process, and to remind your boys everyday that you love them. You're in my prayers.

kayla's mama replied: First of all
I would never judge you. You are always welcomed here. Hang in there sweetie

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry it didn't work out for you sweetie!!! Things always work themselves out for the best.. for the most part anyways!! please keep in touch with us!!

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am glad that you are remaining friends for the kids sake, and not bitter enemies. Of course you are still welcome here Denise, anytime! We are here to listen always.

BEST WISHES on getting to know your daughter again, and strength for you.

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry what you are going through. I don't think anyone can judge you.

You are always welcomed here.

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Hillbilly Housewife replied: Denise - my heart is breaking for you!! I hope things work out in your favor!

Your little ones - will they meet their sister eventually?

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: Denise I am so sorry you are going through this. I would never judge you and am here for you anytime you need to talk.

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry, sweetie! I hope everything works out

kimberley replied: i am sorry you are going through this but it sounds like it's for the best. i certainly would never judge you.. we all have our skeletons. i hope the move is positive and you and your dd reconnect. we are here for you.

booey2 replied: I would never think less of you. You are only doing what is right for your family and yourself. Take care. Sorry you are going through this.

Bee_Kay replied: I am sorry this is happening. The pain is apparent in your post. I don't judge you at all. I think that parting ways on good terms is very important to children. Best of luck

My2Beauties replied: to you. I am very sorry and we will not judge you at all.

Insanemomof3 replied: THANK YOU. You are all so supportive and I love you guys SO much for that. I need you guys to help me through this. I am such a wreck lately. I am good for a while, then it hits me like a ton of bricks again.

I will be leaving for Montana on Friday. But don't worry, I will post the DAY I get there. I will still be around being the insane person that I am.

To you all. You are GREATEST friends and I thank you for that.

fashionmumofboys replied: Sorry to hear you are going through this, but at least it has ended in a friendly fashion with your DH and you two can still be friends.

I wish you the best of luck and strength through this.

Lots of

mckayleesmom replied: Good Luck to you sweetie...I know you have been sad and torn for some time now and I hope this is a good step in becoming happier...for both of you.