Please tell me im not a horrible dayhome provider.

mummy2girls wrote: One mom in my dayhome goes to school fulltime but also takes occasional work shifts. I alwasy told her that im here and will take care of her son if she works. BUT I need the work schedule and school schedule in advance( she gets 2 weeks in advance with all her scheduling) so if it runs into something i need to do then we can figure out somkething and mabys he can get someone to pick up her sonf rom here. Well Today is a welcome BBQ at Jennas school for the P.A.C ( parent advisory council). Me and Marcus have both decided to join the council and get involved in her program and schooling. they meet the second monday of each month at night( babysitting included for jenna). Well this mom came to drop her son off and said to me i have to work tyill 630 so i wont be here till then. i looked at her and said well you didnt give me advance notice. I need to be at jennas school tonight for a BBQ and a meeting. the BBq starts at 5pm. She was not hsppy with me...

so am i a horrible provider?

luvbug00 replied: No you had pervious arrangements with her to let you kow. But lars and i did the same thing with our PTA so he can go if i can not. I wouldn't see anything wrong with marcus going alone if need be.

did you keep the child?

moped replied: No you are NOT!!!!! She didn't give notice and you made plans - what did she expect!!!

It's all good!

And look at marcus joing the council!!!!!

mummy2girls replied:
nope i didnt keep the child. he is getting picked up at 430 by his dad. I am going to teh PTA. I know marcus can go alone but i wanted to go to the welcome BBQ and jenna is really looking forward to both of us going.

luvbug00 replied: Oh i wasn't saying he SHOULD go alone but if i didn't know if the mom threw a big enough stink that would force you to stay home.

MoonMama replied: with what others have said. You are a wonderful provider!

gr33n3y3z replied: No you are not

mummy2girls replied:
oh i know thats what you meant hun!

Calimama replied: Nope, you aren't. Enjoy Jenna's bbq tonight!

Kaitlin'smom replied: if anything htat mom was rude assuming you had nothing better to do than sit at home watching her kid

CantWait replied: Not at all Shelly. She should have notified you in advance. Don't worry about it.

A&A'smommy replied: NOPE not in the least!!!!!

lovemy2 replied: Nope - I would say if it wasn't an emergency on her part - which obviously it wasn't since she knew in the am then she needs to pick up her child as regularly scheduled - especially since you worked it out with her to give you advance notice when she is going to leave him longer..............

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Jackie012007 replied: not at all! I work in a dayhome and there is this set of parents who always try to take advantage of us in ways like that, I hate it!! All they have to do is call ahead, she didn't so you definitely didn't do anything wrong!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: No way shelly. You made an arrangement.

lisar replied: No your not. She should have gave you advance notice.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I think you are being very generous with this parent and you had an agreement. You're doing fine!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Horrible??? NOT AT ALL!!! This is HER fault she assumed it would be ok and didn't give any notice. I also could not stand it when parents would assume any time would be ok and would "tell" me what time they would be coming instead of "asking" to stay later. When someone would tell me versus asking, I'd say no on purpose to prove my point or remind them that they need to get prior approval if later hours are needed. Just because you are home you are not everyone's 24 hour service. You have a life too. It's out of respect.

dylansmom01 replied: Not at all.... She should have gave you advance notice.