Please tell me im not alone!

mummy2girls wrote: aron refuses to change jennas bumb. It frustrates me because now he refuses to take her overnight until she is potty trained.

part of that is just a lie to get out of taking her but why wont he change her when she is over visiting. Poop diapers i can understand but just pee diapers... im not understanding!


i always bug him because he first says when she is sleeping through the night ill take her, so when she finally started to sleep 10 hours straight he now says when she is potty trained..

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm sorry you are going through this! I don't know what to say other than to ask if you have a custody arrangement with him? It doesn't really sound like he really wants to commit to being a parent! I just wonder if something happened to you, what would he do! Fathers like this just make me so mad! My sister went through this with her ex-husband. I used to go over and babysit when and he would be home, I never understood why he didn't do anything! It's his child too! I'm sorry I don't mean to upset you! I hope things get better for you!

coasterqueen replied: Ahh hun, He needs that good swift kick in the bum!

I agree that it doesn't sound like he is committed to parenting. I'm not sure if you can convince someone to be either, unfortunately. I wish I had something to tell you, but I don't. I have a friend similar to Aron and he only does things with his son when it is convenient for him no matter how much his son begs to be with him. I guess just take what he offers and hopefully one day he'll open up his eyes and see what a precious gift he's been given.

And you are not alone because we are here for you.

mummy2girls replied:
OPh your not upsetting me at all... well she lves with me fulltime and he just visits her once a week.. So i guess i have custody??

momof2girls replied: I agree with the above posts.
MY dh has always changed diapers I think its crazy for a dad not to.
WHen your a parent you cant just do it when its convienent for you.

Does he do anything to help you out at all?
Im sorry but from the things you have posted he does not sound very supportive at all!

Josie83 replied: That made me really anoyed, your post Shelly! how rude of him - he needs to grow up! If he's old enough to be a parent he's old enough to change a nappy! There's good and bad sides to everything! MAybe he just doesn't deserve to have a daughter as lovely as Jenna. Sorry if that sounded harsh but he's obviously upsetiing you (and it can't be nice for Jenna) - he needs a kick up the backside! xx

booey2 replied: Hugs to you are definitely not alone. My DH still doesn't like to change diapers and only changes them if he has to ie: if I am not around and they make a poopy one, other than that he leaves them a lone til I am around. He does do a lot of other stuff with them, he just isn't very good with babies and as they are getting older he is getting much better.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I do change most of Kaitlin's dipers, DH does not mind the wet ones, but when it comes to the dirty ones I just do it, I hate the hacking sound he makes when he has had to change it, I always fear he will puke on her so I just change her.

But it soundss like he is being selfish, what will be his excuse when she is potty trained? He needs to spend more time with her if he wants the bond.....grow up and take responsibility for your actions Aaron!

mummy2girls replied:
he helps financially...so i am thankful for that...but thats because ive been a b*&^% towrds him when he refused to give me money at the begginning. If i wasnt so persistant then i would still not be getting money ....

he is emotionally there for jenna but just does not want ot do the physical part. such as diapers, cooking, bathing...etc. He just cuddles and hugs and plays with her.

mummy2girls replied:
Aron was the same way with jenna meaning not very good with babies. But she is now almost 2 so that is why it is frsutrating me... she is a very independant little girl so there isnt much work to taking care of her:)

booey2 replied:
my DH still hesitates to change a diaper if I am there, he really only want to deal with after 3 yrs old

mummy2girls replied:
i know...i think his next excuse will be when she is able to feed and make herself stuff on her own...

I just wanted one night to myself. where i can go to a movie with my friend and out for a nice quiet dinner without a 21 month old screaming and throwing things:) and then the opportunity to sleep in till 10...

she goes to bed on her own and sleeps just wonderful and she is so easy to care for. I guess im just jealous that he is able to do those things all the time and able to lseep in till noon...

Oh well.... i knew going into this as a single mom will be hard....