Primary form of dicipline - What primary dicipline do you use?
DJCyber wrote: Please list any other forms of dicipline not listed here.
Ken
lsjulee replied: Hey you don't have a "all of the above" category.  Depend on situation, I'd use either or some or even all at one time. 
MomToMany replied: I didn't vote because it depends on the age/cognitive level of the child. It's impossible (and completely unnecessary) to punish a child who doesn't know right from wrong.
My older boys (11 & 9) know right from wrong (most of the time  ), and if they do something wrong, we will have a discussion about it. We will talk about what they did wrong, why they did it, and what they can do if they are ever in that situation again. I will usually have them do extra chores around the house, or DH will have them do work outside (like haul wood for our wood stove, and have them stack it in the wood shed).
Now Ethan (who's almost 5) doesn't know what's right and wrong all the time. He's still learning. As long as no one got hurt, I don't see it as that big of a deal, but we do talk to him about why it's wrong on a level that he will understand.
Hannah is only 2 1/2 (almost), and it's her time as a child to learn about the world, so if she does something wrong, it's a learning experience. She doesn't get "diciplined" , but re-directed. And like I've said, unless someone gets hurt, it's not that big of a deal. If someone does get hurt, we will briefly talk with her in simple sentences about why that's wrong to do.
I don't believe in physical punishment. We need less violence in the world as it is.
Kirstenmumof3 replied: We use the Time Out and Grounding! But our grounding more a removal of privileges. With hitting and biting, it's ZERO tolerance and the are immediately sent to there rooms.
Boys r us replied: I voted other. B/c I use different techniques, different times! Never spanking and trying to avoid any yelling at all...we mostly use timeouts or redirection for Braedon (2 yrs) and for Tanner(8) mostly suspended priveledges.
My2Beauties replied: Yes you definitely need an all of the above button on this one!!! It would depend on the situation at hand. Hanna is only 11 months old so none of the above would work except a firm NO and then she looks at me says Nooooooooooo and shakes her head and conitnues to do it  It's hard not to laugh because for right now it's still cute.
DSD Desiree is 8 so she gets talked to and grounded.
jolene555 replied: i voted other, because i don't discipline as much as preoccupy. when she's doing something she shouldn't, i just get her attention to go elsewhere. since georgia is all of 9 months old this works quite well. i do say no, but that's the extent of that.
5littleladies replied: I could have used an all of the above one also.  For the older girls we tend to use loss of valuables and grounding, and with Brianna we use time outs or we send her to her bedroom.
redchief replied: Priveledges first, followed by temp. loss of a valuable for serious or repeated infractions. Time-out stopped working when they got to be about 6.
ctymom replied: I chose loss of privileges. In reference to my older kids since not much I can do with my 11 month old except say no. lol I've tried the time outs when they were little.
Pamela
MomofJandB replied: Many of the above! I agree that age has alot to do with the type of discipline. It's also important to know what will make your point. My DD responds best to grounding and my DS responds best to time out. Different kids, different situations, different punishments!
I've also realized that in difficult situations that maintaining my control helps to keep the situation from elevating. When I lose it, so do my kids and they are the ones to get in trouble. Sometimes I'm the one who needs a time out!
I have issues with my 8yr old DD. We butt heads alot! Lately I've been using everything in me to not lose it with her and it has really helped! She has responded well. So, I believe that redirection or ignoring certain things can work in everyones benefit!
momof2girls replied: I would have to say for my dd that is 9 taking away TV, video games, turns her into an angel, or not letting her play with friends...
time outs worked when she was lil
so far with Kiley nothing works but she is pretty good!
Josie83 replied: I'm lucky, Cassie's really good (at the moment!). Usually a no is enough for her, or threats of telling daddy, that stops her in her tracks! We usually explain to her why things are wrong, whether or not she understands is a different discussion! I don't shout at her, I never would while she's so little. I think it would just scare her and not achieve anything in the long run. I've never hit her, but sometimes taking her by the arm and physically putting her somewhere else ios a good idea, without huting her obviously xx
A&A'smommy replied: We say "no no" and she most of the time smiles and moves on but if not and ONLY if it could hurt her FIRST we try to distract her with something "better"
to do and if that doesn't work I gently pop her little hand. But like Mollie if is isn't going to hurt her I just let her do it 
loveydad replied: It depends. With Kel and Vince, they're a little too old for time out so they get sent to their rooms. I also do this "Chips" program...heres what it is essentially:
When they kids are good, they get little slips of paper with money designs on them. The slips of paper are worth .50 cents or a priveledge (time alone with daddy, xbox time, ect) and they also lose them if they're naughty. It works well.
Here's some of the ways they can earn money:
- Helping with a younger sibling
- Picking up without being told
- saying please and thank you
- being polite
- helping daddy or Tav
- keeping their rooms clean
- taking tracy to the potty
- etertaining the twins or Andriana or Peter
Here's some ways they can lose money:
-Going into Henry's room without permission
-making a huge mess
-making a sibling cry by doing something mean
- teasing, fighting, pulling hair
- causing trouble at school
- yelling or being too noisy after 3 warnings
- being rude to Tavia
- being rude to daddy
- lying
- not doing what they're told.
It works remarkably well. I don't do it for Tracy or any of the younger kids - they're just too young to understand. Kel actually saved up enough money to buy an action figure. Vincent usually blows his. And i haven't really had a problem with them expecting tickets- I mean at first they did, but they're learning just to do nice things just because - and they don't always get tickets for that.
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