Put in my notice

zdk753 wrote: I had no choice but to put in my notice at work yesterday. I am being nice & giving them a month. Mon. night my MIL decided she didn't want to watch my kids anymore & refused to even watch them long enough for me to give a notice. Right now my dad is doing it, but he can't do it for too long (he's very sick). I have no one to watch my kids for me & I can't afford day care. The cheapest place I found wanted $900 a mo. I don't even make that a mo. I hate having to leave my job, but in a way I will be glad to be able to stay at home w/ my kids again.

This was the last straw, as far as I'm concerned, w/ my MIL. I really don't care if she ever sees my kids again. I know that sounds mean considering that she is their g-ma, but she has never been to any of my kids' b-day parties. She calls them & tells them to get their stuff ready & she will be there in a few to pick them up. Then she never shows up. When I called to tell her about Kailynn getting bit she proceeded to blame me & hung up. She has yet to call & check on her. She doesn't even know how bad it was as far as if she just had a scratch or her whole face is gone. The way I see it she doesn't care about my kids so why should I care if she sees them.

holley79 replied: I hav ea MIL that is just like that. Annika is a few days shy of 6 months old and we have NO pictures of DH's mom and her together. Some people are so weird. It drives me batty.

TheOaf66 replied: well i don't blame you, I have seen situations like this before so I would not go out of your way to get them together, my guess is your kids can't be to close to her so phase her out

C&K*s Mommie replied: IMO, you should not go out of your way for them to see her, but you should not cease all contact when she does try to see them.

aspenblue1 replied: That is so difficult. I hope she comes around for the children's sake.

luvmykids replied: I'm sorry, it's a terrible feeling when someone who is supposed to want to be part of your childrens lives doesn't want to. I know you hated to give up your job but I really do hope you enjoy the chance to stay home with them!

ashtonsmama replied: I'm sorry your MIL is being so difficult. I really am lucky to have a great relationship with mine.

jaytrevjax replied: I'm so sorry! My MIL treats me kindof like your's treats your kids, but she really does love my kids, so I feel very blessed!

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry. My inlaws are the same way. The last time they spoke with the kids was almost 2 years ago. Hope she comes around, and I'm sorry you had to quit your job.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: How frustrating that must be. I'm hope everything gets worked out.

redchief replied: I'm so sorry about what you're dealing with. I can't help but think the dog bite and this are somehow related. To me that's simply unacceptable.

zdk753 replied: Since I don't know if there is a way to quote more than 1 person in a post I am going to do it this away.

my guess is your kids can't be to close to her so phase her out

Kailynn is still young so she doesn't really understand. She knows that is her grandma & she loves her. Dylan is starting to realize what is going on & Zachary knows. He even tells me that she is a liar. I really don't think it's going to affect them one way or the other if they don't see her again.

but you should not cease all contact when she does try to see them.

If she calls them or comes by to see them than yes I will let them talk to her or see her. Considering though I can't remember the last time she called & the fact that I have lived in this house for 2 yrs & she has yet to see it I don't really think that is going to happen.

I know you hated to give up your job but I really do hope you enjoy the chance to stay home with them!

I do. This is the first job that I have yet to find an excuse not to go. It makes you feel good when everyone asks you how to do something b/c they think you know & are that good. Everyone is hating it that I am leaving. The good thing though is if I find someone & decide to go back I automatically will get my job back. It is going to be nice though to be at home w/ my kids again though. I miss being able to just get up & go to the park or look for bugs. Right now I am rushing to get ready for work & than I am too tired to do anything w/ them when I get off.

I can't help but think the dog bite and this are somehow related.

In a way I guess you can say they are. If she would have watched my kids for that day I more than likely would not have made the agreement w/ Veronica to watch her kids while she went out so she could watch mine that day.