Question about nurses - if I dont like the way they are

lisar wrote: Okay here is my dilema. I went up to the hosital last night I got there at like 8:30pm. (i am allowed in whenever I want) They had Raygens feeding tube pulled so tight that she was crying it was pulling on her lil face. They had fed her thru it at 6pm. So I know no one checked on her from 6pm till 8:30pm when I got there. With her being in the Isollete they cant hear her if she is crying. When I saw the feeding tube pulled that tight I was pissed. I took it down and picked her up and calmed her down. (which i am not supposed to do but didnt care at the moment) my sister was with me and went and got the nurse. Then i got an attitude with the nurse cause I didnt like it. Was I wrong to be mean. I dont think I was and she didnt say anything to me about picking her up. I kinda felt bad afterwards though. I just wanted to get everyones opinion on it and see what yall thought. Thanks.

Lisa

Insanemomof3 replied: I think that in that situation I would have done the SAME thing. They should be checking on the babies more often. JMO

I think you were right

MommyToAshley replied: I think you were actually nicer than I would have been. Not only would I have been furious that the tube was too tight, but also that they had not checked on her for over 2 hours!!! She's still in the hospital for a reason, and I can't believe they would let her go that long without checking on her. I would have a chat with the nursing supervisor. Who cares if they get mad at you... your child's well being is the most important thing.

lisar replied: thank you. And actually I have an appointment with the supervisor. I found out that they let my inlaws hold the baby one night and I was mad about that. they are not allowed. And me and my inlaws DO NOT GET ALONG. My DH defends me all the time over them. They dont like the fact that I have a 4yr old that is not there sons. Me and DH have only been together since she was 2. She is all he knows. They didnt like the fact that I had a child out of wedlock. So we dont get along because of this reason. I have also made it well known that if they cant accept Lexi then they cant accept Raygen.

Lisa

luvbug00 replied: ditto. I raised H*** with the nursing staff when Mya was there after her premi birth. PM me if you want to talk. I think you handled it just fine.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I think you did the right thing. That is your baby and she is in the NICU they should be checking on her A LOT. Don't feel bad at all. Glad to hear you are going to the supervisor!!!! GOOD LUCK!!

Jamielou replied: I would have done the same thing... You handled it a little better than i probably would have....

jacobsmama replied: Being a nurse myself them not checking on the baby is completely unaccepatable. They NICU has enough staff to tend to each baby 24-7 or should have. You were right for being upset I would have been myself and that is coming from a nurse. Your daughters care is the most important thing she deserves to be taken care of well.

JessC replied: YES, I would have definitly done the same thing too, they need to check on babies more often, especially when they are preemies.

mckayleesmom replied: I would have hit the roof.....Poor Raygen...Hugs and kisses to her

mummy2girls replied: k first off..you did the right thing!

Second of... i was in that postion before and i know how upsetting that can be. When jordan was in the Peds ward..the nurses there were not nice. One would not come when the alarms in his room went off. I had to go out and actually get one nurse that was just sitting there to come and see what was wrong. Then one nurse had no idea how to do an irrigation on him so I had to show her. If i wasnt there i dont know what would of happened.He was having siezures and the nurse would not go and tell jordan doctor.. so by the itme she did finally tell him he had gone all night having them...And many other things just added up to the death of my son:(

About the inlaws holding her... GRRRR i know that feeling. Long ugly story but jordans daddy was with a GF when jordan was in the hospital and his gf would call the hospital when i wasnt there and get information from the nurses that should not of been given to her. I had strict orders that only me and certain people can get info not my ex's GF!

She is your dd you have every right to feel concerned and every right to be mad.. expecially if your baby is not being watched as well as she should be. I will keep you and your dd in my thoughts!

JAYMESMOM replied: You have every right to be upset and I would keep that appointment with the nursing supervisor. That was unacceptable. I would also be upset about the in-law thing. A parent is one thing but if they had been told ahead of time it shouldn't have happened.

lisar replied: My inlaws dont go up there anymore. I made them mad. They wanted to take turns going up there. And however I dont have a schedule I go up there when I want. And its always around feeding times so I can feed her. So they dont go up there anymore cause I always show up when they are there and they have to leave cause I wont. I dont give them much of a choice in the matter. I still have the appt with the supervisor today I will let you know how that goes.

Lisa

redchief replied: I'd have taken it one step further and reported the incident to the nurse's supervisor. No excuse for that! Especially in a NICU!

lisar replied: Well I talked to the nurse supervisor today and she was real nice about it. She completley understood why I was mad and apologized for it. I also told her who the nurse on duty was and everything. She said she was going to have a talk with her and that she would not be able to be Raygen's nurse again. She said she might even write her up for it. As for other people holding Raygen (the inlaws) she said that they will get wrote up for that cause it is a big no-no in there. It was a doffrent nurse that night. I was also informed by the dr today she can come home tommorrow or Wednesday. I am so happy. Thanks everyone.

Lisa

Josie83 replied: You have every right to be annoyed and make a complaint!! to you xx

sunshine girls replied: Hey, Im a nurse (havnt worked for 5 years though, but I worked for 7 years). I think what you did was right, i worked in a childrens ward for 4 years and it's so important to make sure things like feeding tubes are comfortable on small children. If I were in your situtation I would have done the same thing. I think its a form of neglect, when i worked I did everything possible to make sure kids were comfy and in no pain. The stress of being in pain, especially for a baby, is something they definatly don't need when they're sick.
You did the right thing reporting it, hopefully this nurse will be more competent in the future.

PrairieMom replied: It is important to know that you always have the right to request that a nurse doesn't take care of your child. Being hospitalized is a very stressfull thing for everyone and having nursing care that you don't trust really compounds the stress. I'm sorry you had an Icky time with that nurse.