Raes post got me thinking....... - Have and for how long

moped wrote: have you left your children? FOr a holdiay? or work? etc?

We are going on a cruise and then spending 5 days in Florida with a freind of mine, originally we were taking Jack and then realized it would be a much more relaxing holiday without and my mom was bugging me to let her stay with him - which is great, she is awesome, it is me that i am worried about!

PrairieMom replied: I left the boy with his father for 3 days, and I am planning on doing it again at the end of March, but I am really dreading it. He has never been left without one of us tho.

coasterqueen replied: We left Kylie with my parents for 3 days in July of 2004 right before we got pg with Megan. She thought we were going to leave her for good and was so scared to stay with anyone for a VERY LONG LONG time after that. Soooo, that was obviously the wrong thing for us to do, lol.

I promised my parents that when Megan turns one and is sleeping better at night they can have both girls, right now they only take Kylie when she wants to stay.

Edit Dh and the kids always come on the work trips with me. There was only 1 or 2 times overnight that Kylie stayed home with DH instead.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Christian has stayed with my IL's for several days, on two different ocassions. We knew she was in great hands, and she can adjust quickly too, so we were completely okay.

ediep replied: I've left jason with DH for 3 days I'm doing it again in a few weeks for a girls weekend at the beach.

We have both left him overnight with my sister or my mom

BAC'sMom replied: Brandeis has stayed with FIL before in the summer time. I think the longest was about 5 days. The other two kiddos have never been away from me.

mckayleesmom replied: Mckaylee was with dh and my sister for 4 days when I had Russell...that was the longest time...And Russell just overnight once.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh you are going to have a BLAST!!!!! I'm so jealous!!

We've never left Ethan (I just realized that) He's never spent one night away from us. Maddie stayed with my parents for the first time when she was 10 mos old (other than just overnight visits when we lived around the corner from them). She was there for 5 days while we went to NYC. And she went for a week in the summer once or twice.

I would love to send them to my parents house this summer for a week, but Scotty won't let me. I think they need that time with their grandparents, but he doesn't trust them and he HATES my SIL who works for my mother.

My2Beauties replied: I have left Hanna for 8 days before with my mom. I would never leave her with anyone else besides my mom or my dad though, I know that sounds awful for my IL's. I let them watch her overnight but never for extended periods of time. She'd come home sick, dirty, have cavities and everything else! I feel bad for saying that, but she has stayed with my mom for 8 days both times we went to Vegas and with my dad twice now for a week at a time, and she will be with my mom this weekend while we're in Gatlinburg and with my mom in June when we go to Myrtle Beach.

Mom2Boyz replied: We left Conner for 5 days when he was 7 months old when we went to Vegas. Other than that, they have both spent the occasional night with the grandparents, but that's it.

Kaitlin'smom replied: We have Left Kait with my sister 2 times the fors was for out 10th wedding ann. we went to Niagira Falls for a long weekend, and again last year for our wedd ann for a weekend. She has been asking to stay with my pareant over night and with IL's. I will proably let her with my parents first, only cause they live closer then when we let her stay with MIL & FIL I think we will get a B&B some place not to far, so if she freeks out we will be closer.

kit_kats_mom replied: Katherine spent two nights at my moms right before we moved to Tampa a year and a half ago. Other than that, the longest I've been away from her in the last 3.5 years, is when she's in daycare. The longest I've been away from Lauren was those 3 hours when DH and I went to dinner and a movie. How sad is that? That's the one really bad thing about moving away from family. I don't have anyone I'd trust enough to leave the girls with for more than a couple of hours...even then I worry.

JP&KJMOM replied: Mine have stayed with my parents on many occasions for up to 7 days. They love to stay with Gran and Papa more than mommy and daddy. Spoiled much? YES!

MIL came to our house once and stayed 3 days with them so Jason and I could go to Alabama for a company training that we both had to attend. I called like 350 times a day but she has only kept them over night bofore and after that.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Everyone knows that I just left Logan for the first time in 17 months. I was gone for a week and his father didn't do irreparable damage. At least I don't think he did. LOL. But I missed him way too much to do it again.

moped replied: I am going to have to buy calling cards for the shore excursions from the caribbean!!!!!! I know he is in good hands, but I am probably the only person to leave him so long...................my mom is totally pumped to hang with him!!! She is so good to him, he gets palytime all day and she bakes and cooks really well and baths him every day - I bath every second day............................and she will teach him so many new words it will be great..

3_call_me_mama replied: When Cameorn was 8 mos old i went to St Louis for a week for a business hting (when I did partylite) he stayeed with Dennis and my inlaws. When Kathleen was born MIL stayed teh night at our house with him. And abotu 2 weeks ago he spent teh night at my moms. He was almost 3 and 1/2 years old the first time he spent the night away from both of us. And had no problems, didnt' cry and was happy. When he ASKED to go we figured he was ready. And i wouldn't have done it any other way. Kathleen stayed at MIL's with Dennis and cameron one night when I went to a banquet thing with my mom. They were 1 hour away, we left them at 4 and met back up teh next morning with them. She has never been away from both of us for more than 6-8 hours. And when she is old enough and ASKS to spend teh night somewhere then we will let her. Until then i have no need for her to be away form us overnight. And I CANNOT imagine taking a vacation and leaving my children behind while they are young. I know I wouldnt' enjoy myself and it woudl be a waste. So we take family vacations and when they are older and don't want to be with us there will be plenty of time to be away from them.

Oh and this baby we are planning a homebirth so they won't need to stay anywhere or have anyone come stay with them.

luvmykids replied: The first time we left the twins was for a weekend when they were 6mos, but they stayed at our house with my mom and we went to a hotel. Since then they've all stayed with FIL for a long weekend, about 5 or 6 a year. And twice a year MIL comes to our house and we take a vacation for about 4-6 days.

They've always done great, the only time there was any hitch was when they got sick the day before we were coming home and they were a little whiny but other than that they love it.

Boys r us replied: We have left both of the kids for trips by ourselves or with other couples ranging anywhere from 3 to 7 days.

Rick and I are both on the same page when it comes to this, it breaks our hearts to leave them, but we both FIRMLY believe that it is VERY important to have time away as a couple, as a husband and wife, for a little bit of time when we can just focus on each other!

When we go away we leave them with family, either my parents or Rick's or occaisionally with my older brother and his wife.

My2Beauties replied:
That is how we are and if a grandparent says they want her for the night we don't hesitate because we know it's more time for the two of us. I think that is really important in a relationship. But we always leave them with family, I wouldn't trust anyone else with her. Long trips is only my family!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: We hesitate to leave them for more than 3 or 4 hours with a regular sitter in the evenings.

They go to daycare - so that's almost everyday away from them.

The 2 older kids have both spent an entire week at the grandparents (zach at inlaws and Em spent most of a week there, 2 days at my mom's). I hated the entire time of it. Not cuz they were gone - but because it was my MIL watching them.

My MIL wants to take Zach for 3 weeks in July and go to Alberta to visit her other son. My bil and sil are both in the military - andf on course, so their 2 kids are at their grandmother's house until school ends - the inlaws are bringing the 2 kids back by driving and pulling their trailer. So the inlaws, and 3 kids on the road for 36 hours.
Geesh no.

3xsthefun replied: We have left the kids with the inlaws on few different occasions. The longest was for 2 days with both of the kids. Last year when we went to TN with Rob's sister we left Maegan with the inlaws for 4 days.

I don't think they would stay with anyone else for that long.


Edit to say: They would probably stay with my parents for a few days, but since my mom works alot of weekends she couldn't keep them. Not unless we asked her to on a weekend she was off from work.

mom21kid2dogs replied: We are just pathetic! We've never left her longer than overnight one night at a time and that doesn't happen very often. I left her for a week (out of state work conference) when she was a little under a year but she stayed home with Daddy.

If I had the good fortune of going on a cruise and the option to leave her playing happily at Nana's or Aunt Nikki's~I'd do it! Jack will be fine!! (and likely hopelessly spoiled by the time you get home!) Enjoy!!

moped replied: He is going to be home, mom is coming to him, so he will be in his own house, own bed, etc etc....................so that is better for me!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Good point Jen! MIL is coming to our house, so I feel more comfortable knowing he gets his own bed and all. Sounds like your mom is great, which is like my mom...she totally knows exactly what to do, even if it's not my way, it works. MIL on the otherhand wouldn't even think of bathing Wil unless I told her and also reminded her. She's just a bit out of touch as far as taking care of kids, but like everyone said, he will survive.

mommymonster replied: Absence makes the heart grow fonder Enjoy yourselves!