Ready for # 3 - DH husband finally won the battle

boyohboyohboy wrote: I have finally agreed now that we have the second car, and a preschool for caleb, that we can start trying for baby number three. DH has wanted this for a while now, and we are getting some pressure from the in laws about trying for the grand dgt they so desperately want....
the problem is, I am still BF Jake, he will be 9 months old in about a week. I have been trying to get him to eat table food for a while, and have tried to get him onto a bottle (of Breast milk) or baby food since he was 6 months old. I try and then he gags on the food, he has an extremly sensitive gag reflex, then I give up for a few days and start again. He seems to hate the baby cereal, and he likes the pick up cheerios, but he nibbles them until one tiny piece makes it to the back of his tongue and throws up........

I see the dr in two weeks, for his check up, and will talk to him about how to get jake off the breast...but I havent had AF yet, and I dont think I have ovulated either, so how do I make this all work so we can start conceiving again?

Is it best to wait for at least one full cycle of AF to return?

MyLuvBugs replied: I have two cousins that didn't think they could get PG while they were BFing....needless to say they both have a set of "irish twins" (11 months apart kids) Niether was having thier period, but yet got PG anyway while BFing, so it's possible. maybe you should schedule an appt. with your OBGYN to discuss it. Good luck though!!! Definately KUP!!

Jeffs Wife replied: that's great. I'm glad you have decided to have another.

I have also heard you can get pregnant while BFing, you might want to check with your dr.

Good luck to you and your husband

coasterqueen replied: Well you don't have to have AF back to conceive. I say give it a try before weaning him so abruptly. That can be very traumatic for baby and unnecessary, IMO. If you do have to wean to conceive (IYO) then at least wait a bit longer, go with a slower weaning for Jake's sake before trying to conceive #3.

GL!

boyohboyohboy replied: I really dont want to ween Jake yet. I can honestly say that I feel such a bond with him, and it makes me sad to think that we might have to stop that. I would not just abruptly stop, I feel that would be selfish on our part to do that to him.
However that being said, I have seen some stuff in print saying that BFing while preg. can rob the fetus from vital life sustaining nurishment. I am concerned about that also.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
It's perfectly safe to BF while pg, I'd just be extra careful about what you eat so you're getting enough nutrition.

A&A'smommy replied: Good luck on ttc here something interesting I found on breastfeeding while pg if it were me jmpo here I would continue to nurse at least until you get pregnant and then let him choose JMPO http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/bfpregnant.html

coasterqueen replied:
I don't know where you read that but oh no, no, that's totally NOT true. As long as you are getting adequate nutrition then you and your unborn baby would be fine. It's entirely safe to nurse while PG. I think Kimberley, and a few others on this board nursed through their entire pg. I would have if Kylie would have wanted to. She weaned at 24 months, when I was 2 months pg with Megan. During that 2 months I had lots of 'issues' with my pg (that had NOTHING to do with BF) and my doc never once told me I should wean Kylie for the safety of my pg w/Megan. There is no correlation between the two.

Even if, for some reason you feel it's not safe, I'd still suggest waiting to get pg with #3 until you are at a point where you can wean him slowly and gently. Unless there is critical urgency to have #3, I wouldn't do it. Just my 2 cents though.

Here's some excellent reading on nursing while PG, I think you may find beneficial. Nursing While Pregnant

CantWait replied: No advice. Just wanted to say if you wanted to get pregnant now and continue to bf, that it's entirely possible.

Good luck on ttc#3

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I have always heard from my mom's midwives that if you are bfing every 5 hours 24/7 then you will supress ovulation if you are going 5-6 or more hours a few times a day,or if you BF only on a semi consistant basis-Tay was bad about that as she got older sometimes she was hungry every 2 hours some days she would not want to nurse for 6 hours or more- that is when you have Irish twin chances!

Good Luck TTC!

coasterqueen replied:
I think there are many people who could tell you their babies were nursing at least that and still got pg I know Kylie was still nursing every 2 hours at night, once in the morning and once before bed and I still got pg w/Megan .

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
I am sure there are But they meant 5 hours round the clock so about 6 times a day And they always said if you skip just a few feedings you run that possiblity of getting pregnant My mom was Bfing a child everytime she got pregnant with the exception of me and my youngest brother so I am fully aware of that not being the full proof plan to birth control

boyohboyohboy replied: Jake currently nurses about every 3 hours or less, round the clock....
I used to be able to tell when I was ovulating, and my AF was like clock work, so this is a little new for me.
I would like to hold off until at least sept. to get preg. and then see what happens. I will cont to BF Jake until at least then.
I havent had a chance to check the sites that you all posted for me yet, but I definately will soon!
Thanks for the advice.

Boo&BugsMom replied: All I have to say is congrats on the trying for #3! We only want 2. I could never convince my hubby to have 3 even if his life depended on it. Hope all goes well for you!!!

TheOaf66 replied:
u better believe that one

redplaydoh replied: My neighbor back in CT got pregnant while breastfeeding and hers are also just 11 mths apart. I'm on another board and a few of the ladies there got preggers without having AF visit either. One is currently nursing her 3 yr old and 1 yr old tandem. She nursed throughout her pregnancy...

ashtonsmama replied:
Hmmm...that sounds familiar...

My story exactly. But to really TRY to concieve, yes, go see your OB and talk with them first...and CONGRATS & good luck TTC #3!

I hope you're not just doing this for your hubby though, Stacy!



KUP!

boyohboyohboy replied: No, I am not just doing it for my husband. I look at Jake who some how woke up one morning 9 months old (almost) and I think, "when did that happen?".....
My husband and I met and got married later in life (both in our mid 30's) and we both wanted large families, but we are concerned, me more then him, that having babies after 35 might be a risk. So we agreed to have them now.
I think that number 3 might be our last, but I have learned to never say never. I almost wish (rarely though) that we could have twins, then our house would be full.
But we are blessed with the two boys we have, so if thats all we end up with then we are content.
I hope that God sees fit to let us have one more healthy child.

I think part of me is not ready for Jake to turn into a toddler, although he is walking now, and I want to keep nursing him, to keep him a baby longer.....

I have read all the info that was past on to me, I appreciate it so...
I think I will just let things alone for awhile, and if it happens, then it does, just kinda wait and see for a while.

luvmykids replied: Whenever you decide to really go for it congrats and best wishes!