Rude or Not?

Mommy2Isabella wrote: As many of you know, I watch my stepsisters daughter during the week.

Well, this morning she calls me and tells me that her and her husband will be over today at 4, I said OK. When they get here, she says we need to get Hannah's stuff, < for some reason I had a feeling this was coming. ANYWAYS, I was very upset by this, but being myself I didn't ask any questions or say anything.

Well, I am MAD that they didn't give me any notice what so ever. I depend on that money to help out with bills and such. Anyways, does anyone else think this is rude or inconsiderate.

1lilpeanut2love replied: I think that was very rude. She didn't give you any notice. How disrespectful!! I am sorry this happened.

PrairieMom replied: If she was paying you then it was extremely rude. I would have a talk with her and see what the deal is. IMO she should owe you $ for at least another 2 weeks even if you dn't watch her kid. Who does that? esp to family.

mckayleesmom replied: Did they even tell you why they were pulling her from you? Any notice at all?

gr33n3y3z replied: very rude

mom2my2cuties replied: I think it was pretty rude.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I just found out why!

On wednesdays her mom picks her up < my step sisters mom! Well, she told my stepsister that the baby was in the back room screaming and had spit-up all over here.

NOT TRUE! She was in my arms when I answered the door, wasn't crying, maybe had a TINY bit of spit - up on her because she had just spit up. Needless to say I WAS LIVID when my mom called me and told me that is what had happend.

First thought that came to my mind was I AM A HORRIBLE MOTHER. How could I have let the baby have spit up on her. One time when her dad came to pick her up she had a poopy diaper. How could I do that. All other moms must NEVER let their baby have a poopy diaper.

HA! My mother reassured me that I did NOTHING wrong. I took very good care of her, as well as my own child, and that I am a great mommy.

My stepsisters mom and my mom were really good friends, my mom is PISSED and said that she is no longer going to be friends with her. That wasn't right.!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: VERY rude! Did they offer an explanation? I am sorry that you got treated that way! The good thing about good in-home care is there are always people looking for providers and you can set your rates and rules accordingly

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Ok sorry I posted while you did-those reasons seem really out there! If the baby had a dirty diaper that happens in a few seconds and if she had not been sitting in it-it is stupid to use that as an excuse Same thing with the spit-up! As for the crying-last time I checked babies do that Don't stress about it and if the $$$ will be missed just look for another child to care for or maybe a couple after school older ones who are past the poop and spitting stage

CantWait replied: RUDE!!!!!!!! Sorry, sounds like a lame excuse and a cover up for something else. Being family she should have given you the benefit of the doubt and at least asked you about it.

Jolyn replied: I'm so sorry you were treated that way expecially by family. They should have talked to you about this before just taking their daughter out of your care. When they realize what a mistake they made and come back begging i hope you tell them to take a hike. They don't deserve a caregiver like you!!!!

PrairieMom replied: please please no one call CPS on me, Ally has spit up on her. oh, wait... so do I. If thats the way they are going to be, then cut your losses, and see it as a blessing in discuise. Now you have more time to focus on Bella.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
VERY!!! They should at least have given you a couple weeks like anywhere else. I'm sorry they have treated you so disrespectfully.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
OMG! Seriously? This is what happens when people assume. They assume, gossip, and then rumors are spread. GRRRR! I hate that. This is also why I do not care for family or friends kids. It's too difficult, conflict of interest. Don't let her get you down. Some people!

ashtonsmama replied:


I'm sorry Jess!

Crystalina replied: There has to be another reason they did this. That is the most trivial thing I've ever heard. Spit up and crying? Heck, my kids would have been taken away 5 yrs ago. Maybe they found someone cheaper? closer? Lord only knows but that cannot be their real reason. If it is.....just be glad it's over now and it didn't go much further.

MoonMama replied: That's beyond rude and uncalled for! I agree there is way more too this. Maybe grandma (your step sisters mom I mean not yours) is jealous of the time you get to spend with the baby so wants to stir up some thing? I don't no. I'm so sorry sweetie.

siblingtooolivia replied: VERY RUDE indeed....but if you can get by without the money then seems to be a blessing to me....seems like you have a full plate ahead with that new job at Target starting...maybe you can just focus on that at nite and spend your days with your baby Bella

Mommy2Isabella replied: Well, no real new findings in the "CRAZY CHILDCARE CASE" .. haha that is what I have deemed it. I got an email from my stepsister which the things she accuses me of are all BIZARE and untrue. However I am not going to write her back and she it isn't true because if she believes I would do something like that, she isn't going to believe me when I say I didnt.

Sal said, well, now you get a lot more one on one time with Isabella, and this will probably help out a lot with PPD. Since I had SO MUCH on my plate with 2 newborns and I was starting a new job. So, as we see it ... ITS A BLESSING!

Crystalina replied: I would agree. Just enjoy Isabella. Speaking from experiance Is(z)abella's grow too fast. Just look at it as one less toxic person in your life.

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mom2my2cuties replied: I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this right now.

I did have an opinion on them making the accusations - They may be exploding things that they think happened way out of proportion so as to make themselves feel justified in treating you the way they have.