Rudeness to Moderators

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: Hi all;

I know some of you have been upset by some mods asking questions about certain topics, via PM.

Please understand that although it is NOT our intention to hurt people's feelings, sometimes it happens. Please keep in mind that sometimes we must ask the questions that we do, on the topics that we ask about, in order to weed out the fake people.

We've all been suckered in the past, some by newbies with very obvious lies, and by others, who had established a long term friendship here with several members.

Our "job" is not without its crap - I know personally, some members can't stand me because of me having asked them some questions on their statements. Well, I have to suck it up - it's part of having a troll free board.

So ya'll can be NICE to the moderators asking you questions about things you may have said in a post - after all - it IS our job to sift through and determine whether the member is abiding by the terms and conditions and not a TROLL.

Of course you can be insulted if someone questions something you've said... but please keep in mind that if a mod asks you a question, well there is question raised. We are not trying to "trap" anyone, but we are trying to maintain the good quality of the board by banning fake people.

I'm sorry for any feelings that have been hurt so far - but, well, I'd rather step on a few people's toes and potentially hurt some feelings wiht my asking a question here and there... than having a board over populated by people who have nothing better to do than make up stories about fake lives, dragging along good people down with them, making them believe their crap.

We are a good community here - a good family, i fyou will... and when good news or bad news comes, we are all here for each other. We don't need people to post something FAKE and drag us all down with them in their emotions over fake stuff.

So please keep all this in mind when you may get a PM about somthing you've posted... it's not targetting you - it's our JOB to keep people's stories straight. It's how we find the trolls.

Hugs all around.


And be nice to mods.

amynicole21 replied: Thanks, Rocky.

redchief replied: Here, here. I couldn't have said that better myself.

Oh, and for anyone who would counter that this member or that who has so many posts should be trusted automatically, that's bunk too. I've personally been involved in digging out firmly entrenched trolls (and not always as a moderator) who had built very complete and complicated fake internet lives. Sometimes it takes a while.

I've also been totally wrong in thinking that a member was not who she said she was because of what I thought was an inconsistency in statements. Like Rocky said, misunderstandings happen. Misunderstandings are as embarrassing to the mods as they are to members misunderstood, but it is what it is. Life itself can be inconsistent at times. We're doing our best to make this a place for all good parents and those who want to be good parents to feel at home.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I should probably add this:

Be glad it's done via pm instead of publicly.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I understand that ... I don't feel I was rude in anyway until I was called a liar. That I take offense too!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Here, here, Rocky. I know that I've formed some very nice friendships here and the support I got from all of you when Logan was in the hospital was invaluable. I couldn't have done it without all of you. So, thanks, Mods for doing what you do.

luvmykids replied: I appreciate you mods, it can't always be easy or fun to be one but you guys are important to the well being of the board. Plus you do the dirty work that some of us just think about

C&K*s Mommie replied: I second that! Thanks to all the mods.

amymom replied: To the mods: Thank You very much

Calimama replied: Thanks guys!!

A&A'smommy replied: Thanks Rocky!!!

BTW being a mod isn't as easy as some would think it is

Crystalina replied: Yea, it wasn't too long ago a troll was outed after being here for over a year and had many many posts. I had many conversations with this person outside of this site and felt like a fool when it came to light.

Farelle replied: This is prob a stupid question but what exactly are these "trolls" doing? Just logging on here and posting a bunch of crap?? and pretending to be someone they are not? Are all morals and values gone?? I really like posting here and chatting with everyone and never even gave a thought to people being fake. I mean I'm not niave but I thought that kind of thing happened on myspace and not a parenting oriented website. GEEZ people GET A LIFE!!

Thanks moderators!!!

gr33n3y3z replied:
Yes they log in and make friends and screw up their stories then they get found out and they get baned from the board but it doesnt happen that fast sometimes it takes days,weeks,months or years and your right all of their morals and values are gone its sad that ppl. have to make pretend who they are they are just plain old sick and need help

redplaydoh replied:
ITA... couldn't have said it better myself! Thanks to all the mods!

Kentuckychick replied: I would like to say thanks to the mods as well. I know it has to be a difficult job. I would also like to say thanks to them and to all on the site who are accepting of those of us individuals who are not yet parents but are still involved with the site. It's true I'm not yet a mother (hopefully soon enough) but have gained incredibly valuable insight to help me in earning my child development degree, which I should have by next spring, and hopefully in becoming a child life specialist. It's also greatly benefited me in my experiences as a nanny (last summer) and a full time babysitter (which I am right now).

So thank you all SO much. You've taught me more than you know!

lovemy2 replied: Here's to you Mods - and as Twelve Volt Man would say you deserve a good steak and a beer for all you do for us!!! I love this place and personally have a very hard time understanding those who are fake, why they do it, etc. but I guess that is why I am one of the good guys

Jamison'smama replied: I seem to miss out on the trolls but lately if I wake up and get online before Ed gets to them (or any other early bird mod) I get to delete the 25 spam/porn links posted in the mornings---always fun to see graphic naked pictures before breakfast

sparkys2boys replied: Well first off.. thanks mods you are doing a great job!!! And secondly its your job to ask if you feel the need too.. so ask away!!!

A&A'smommy replied:
and I'm doing the ones before that lol I have a hard time going to sleep at night so until 2am I'm deleting stuff

moped replied: Thanks Rocky!

Good post even though I clearly missed something.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I guess I get the ones in between. I've seen Paris Hilton nekki don horseback more times than I care to admit - and not once by choice.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Was there some kind of drama that I missed???? Or am I just not piecing some things to together? Nobody has ever emailed me about a post, only my siggie size, which is understandable.

A&A'smommy replied:
no joke

My3LilMonkeys replied:
If there was drama, I missed it too....but as far as I can figure, if someone thinks that a member is giving false information, or if something that they say seems to contradict something they've previously said, the mods will send that person a PM to try and clear things up.....

Danalana replied: I have a friend on another board who is a moderator and I wouldn't want that job! I appreciate all you do I got Pmed about my signature size, but was told that a lot of people got them. Other than that, I have no idea what's going on.
Again, thanks mods!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Humm...interesting. I really want to ask something, but I'm afraid I'd be too nosey.

I am a mod over at another site as well. However, the site I am a mod at isn't as busy as this one. We have had a few trolls, but nothing too extravagant.

jcc64 replied: No clue what's going on, as usual, but I too commend all the mods, and especially Rod and Dee Dee, for creating one of the most drama free boards I've frequented. Thanks for doing a pretty thankless job on behalf of the rest of us.

amymom replied:
We are lucky aren't we. Thanks to everyone! It is all very much appreciated!!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Yeah for the mods! Thank you for all you do!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Guys, ya'll don't have to jump to conclusions. Nothing's going on!!!

I know we've been doing a lot of pm'ing about signature sizes recently, and when we have something raised, we "check it out".

I just wanted to make it clear to members that sometimes feelings get hurt, but I just wanted everyone to understand that a few hurt feelings may be necessary now and then to continue the good functionning of the board.



And yes - if we or someone else notice something that isn't quite "clear", the mods will bring it up between themselves and between the concerned member via PM to try to clear up any misunderstanding there might be. Sometimes, those members can be a little insulted - and I can't blame them... I'm just trying to say that sometimes it's necessary to keep the board as great as it is.

gr33n3y3z replied:
yep I'm right there with you