SIL Vent!!!!!

coasterqueen wrote: Grrrr. My SIL just makes me angry sometimes! She has a DD that is 4 yrs old and a very tiny girl. Her DD is wearing 3T to 4T clothes and Kylie is wearing 2T. Sooooo wouldn't you think she would "pass" down her DD's clothes to Kylie???? I would think so, I would do the same for her and I know she has done it for her little brother. Well, she has been taking them to consignment shops AND I think she is doing this just to annoy me!!!!

She is a very RICH woman who doesn't have to and will never have to worry about money. She made a KILLING off of the whole Y2K thing and is set for life. So why is she being such a snot!

Oh and recently I asked her how old her DD was when she bought her the Little Touch Leap Pad and she told me and mentioned that her DD doesn't play with it anymore. SIL told me Kylie can "borrow" it. Borrow it? Now if her DD isn't using it anymore, why can't Kylie "have" it. Like I want to "borrow" toys and have to worry about Kylie destroying it. UGH!!!

You know I could see it if she was going to have any more kids, but she is not. That is definate! She did the same thing over the summer. We were looking for a play gym for Kylie and she KNEW it. She had one and instead of giving it to Kylie she sold it at a garage sale.

She just makes me soooo angry sometimes!!! Why would she be this way? She knows she is WAY better off than we are and that we could use those things. I would actually like them too because they are all Gap, Gymboree, etc.....the ones I can never afford to buy Kylie except at consignment shops.

Am I overreacting?

mckayleesmom replied: No I would be mad too....I feel guilty because I found out that my sister is having a girl and I want to send her some of Mckaylees clothes, but when i look at all the clothes I want to keep them too...I know she would send them back if I had another girl...but sometimes I get emotional when i look at them and I want to put them all in a big hope chest...lol....I think his sister is justy being snooty....It helps to think about it this way....while she is buying all the expensive toys for her daughter who doesn't use them,,,she is the one wasting money....most kids would rather play with an empty refridgerator box.

coasterqueen replied:
Brianne,

I feel the same way about giving Kylie's clothes away. I have only given a few outfits out lately and that was to a poor girl in my sister's daycare class. My sis wanted to give her some clothes for Christmas because she wears the same few outfits over and over and has really grown out of them. So I didn't mind in that regard ;-)

But I truly agree with what you are saying. If my SIL was just hanging on to them to keep for sentimental reasons I could TOTALLY relate, but to turn around and sell them at consignment just "because"...well that to me is downright rude!! LOL.

jen replied: I don't think you are over-reacting at all! I would definitely have my feelings hurt. Some people have absolutely no consideration for others. It is like most of us have a mechanisim in our hearts that naturally urges us to give and have compassion and understanding and then there are these people that lack that. I pity those people.

I am not sure what I would do. I am a hot head and fly off the handle a lot with people like that, so I probalby wouldn't give the best advice.

An Example of my advice! (sorry but I can't stop myself LOL) would be to maybe ask her if you could look through some of those clothes before she takes them to the consignment shop, that you may be interested in some of the outfits you liked on her daughter, and then make it a point to offer her some money for what she thinks they are worth. That would make anyone feel horrible . Of course if she takes your money, you need to kick her in the shins. LOL!

coasterqueen replied:
LOL. I think I would be kicking her in the shins, because she would take the money!!!! Hahaha.

mckayleesmom replied: I think she just is not giving them to you guys because she doesn't want you to have good stuff like her daughter..kwim? She wants her daughter to be the best dressed,,have good toys...if she gives them to Kylie then Kylie will be her daughters equal. Shes just snobby.

coasterqueen replied:
I definately agree!!! She already has ill feelings towards me because my daughter is almost as big as hers. Why I don't know, but I've always had a chunky DD and don't know what it is like to have a petite girl.

IMO, I would be happy to have a petite one. Easier to carry around.

I've griped to Dh about it several times and he agrees but never says anything. I can't wait til he calls tonight to tell him this! Hopefully he will say something to her. I'm chicken, I know I will fly off the handle so I try to let him do the talking when it comes to his family and he does the same with mine. LOL.

A&A'smommy replied: I aggree with Brianne!! I would definitly be mad and i would definitly do what Jen said lol i get a little hot headed too!!

jen replied: Maybe your DH, can tell her point blank that she is a selfish snob, if he keeps it clean! My DH is an only child but he goes out of his way to go after my sister and my brother when they hurt my feelings! I would just tell her how she is making you feel and just get it out there right in the open. I don't see an argument on her side and it may help to open her eyes.

As far as her kid being the "best dressed" and have the "best toys", I know some women like that and it is just plain sad that it comes down to material things rating your child's worth LOL! That isn't what it is about but to some people that is the core of their reality. If she can't see that you would probably LIKE to have some of those things, her tunnel vision is pathetic. JMHO!

I would at least let her know how that makes you feel

aspenblue1 replied: I would be angry also. I do not know why someone would do that.

kimberley replied: ugh.. that is awful. you are not overreacting at all! some people are just like that.. they have to outdo everyone else and have no regard for anybody or their feelings. she is not worth your anger. what did DH say when u told him? Is he going to say something? i hope he does.

coasterqueen replied:
I just talked to him awhile ago and he didn't really respond. He's on the road for work and in a bad mood, so I guess it wasn't a good time to tell him. I'll have to chat about it with him again when he gets home