SO ANGRY - NEGATIVE TEST

Littlejojames wrote: Yep as you can tell the test came back negative then i got my AF yesterday.

So angry with Craig too, we went out Saturday night and ended up arguing and he said some really nasty things which did really upset me and i ended up crying, he then started being nasty about me crying and told me to stop F*****g crying.

How come men never seem to understand that all an argument needs is a hug and then that makes most things better rather than carrying it on and making you feel worse.

Still so angry today and feel like crying

He was nice as pie with me yesterday and this morning but i was still that angry last night i could not even lie near him in bed.

lsjulee replied: oohh, so sorry to hear that.

It's just disappointment triggered frustration. Hope both of you have settled down now.

Littlejojames replied: Craig is carrying on like it didnt happen but i cant just forget that easy that i was really crying my heart out and he could not just give me a hug he had to start shouting at me to stop crying.

Why do men have stages where they dont think about things before they do it.

He is great and i do love him loads but sometimes he has these little phases where he is nasty when having a drink, dont get me wrong he has never even raised his hand at me its just words!

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry - that is so disappointing and frustrating. Sometimes, people don't know how to deal with their emotions and it comes out as anger. I hope that you guys can reconcile quickly. Hang in there sweetie

Littlejojames replied: Hope that i do come over this anger which im feeling at the minute. Sure that i will.

Just been sorting out the insurance for the holiday go 2 weeks today.
Craig said last night that he cant wait 2 weeks alone. Lets hope nothiong else happens in between!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm sorry to hear about the pregnancy test. That must be so frustrating for you! As for your DH, men just don't understand. I hope things get better!

Littlejojames replied: He is normally so brill with me when ever i have got upset before but this time he did not seem to listen! Oh well lets hope tonight i cant look at him without resenting him.

Lets hope that the holiday is when the magic happens and we get what we want

coasterqueen replied: Sorry you got a negative. It really sounds like the both of you are very stressed out which doesn't help out the situation. I hope you both can find a way to de-stress soon.

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry you got a negative result. That has to be disappointing and stressful, which is probably at the root of your quarrel with your DH. I agree, sometimes men have a hard time showing their feelings, it sounds like your DH feels bad about it now though. It sounds like this vacation is just what you need. Have a great time, and sending you some
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CMD3989 replied: I am so sorry your test was negative and that your DH didn't understand. Guys are stupid like that. They don't understand our crazy feelings. Instead they get mad. We just want them to show us they care. Try explaining to him how you feel.

Littlejojames replied: Starting to calm down a little but im still a little anoyed at being shouted at.

think my probelm is that i dont tell him things when he upsets me i let them all get to me and then just get upset all at once.

Guest_angelhair replied: I am so sorry! I agree with everyone, men handle stress differentely and tend to be more distant and stuff there feelings. he probably was disappointed and tried to handle it by denying it. when I had my m/c I was devestated and although my dh was there to give me a hug when I asked he was more like its over, lets move on. I on the other hand was still emotionally attached. men sometimes do not understand emotion. maybe you could talk when you get calm now that he is in a better mood and say you need emotional support from him and that when he yells it makes you feel worse.

Littlejojames replied: Craig never crys since with have been together i have only seen him cry once, the first time was over his dad (has a drink problem) and the 2nd was when we were going through a bad patch (chosing his mates first) and he thought that he was loosing me.

He is a typical man and says that he will not cry infront of me as he is meant to be the stong one

But he did say at weekend that everything is perfect and going right for him since we have been together! He can be sweet