Should I be expecting a shower this time?

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: I had one last time from my friends. None from family, or work. I'm not complaining that I only got one, I'm just wondering if I should be expceting my family to throw me one this time around....?

jem0622 replied: Depends. If you find out the gender and it is opposite of what you already have, then chances are that at least family/friends will do something for you. Otherwise I highly doubt it. But everyone is different. Depends on how your family/friends feel about that sort of thing.

Julie

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I was wondering the same thing...Maddie will be four and really we don't need very much. I doubt I get a shower. Nobody has said anything. Of course it is still kind of early for me and most people are forgetting I am even pregnant! LOL!

booey2 replied: Well with Matthew, I got one from family and one from my past employer. With Thomas we didn't know the sex and got nothing from the family but my current employer thru one for me and Thomas arrived 1 week before I was supposed to stop working so they had me come in after he was born for it and they gave me stuff for me, some cool remote control motorcycles for Matthew and not really anything for Thomas. It was kinda nice that way. In our family if you have more than one child you only get one shower even if they know the sex of the next child, but once the baby is born everyone who comes to visit usually brings something for you and your new bundle of joy.

CantWait replied: With my first I never had one, with Anthohy, a couple co-workers threw one for me. So I guess it all depends.

A&A'smommy replied: i only had one and it was when i was 36 wks and that kinda sucked! But maybe you will get one soon....has anyone asked you about it?

Hillbilly Housewife replied: The last one I had was when I was 34 weeks with Zach. It was from my friends...I didn't get one from my past employment, all I got was my termination notice.

This baby is the opposite gender than Zach...so... a girl. just in case you didn't get that. lol!! We only have one crib, and Zach still uses it sometimes...so who knows. We have a lot of girly clothes, but not a lot.

It's just fun to party.

DansMom replied: I was going to throw one for my friend, and she said---oh no, you never give showers for second babies. I was surprised, but apparently that's the traditional point of view. People figure if you've had one baby you've already got a lot of the big stuff you need. I was still surprised, because showers are so fun and every baby is so special---I can always find a nice gift for a new baby!!! We had a little mini-shower for her anyway.

maliksmommy replied: I have a friend that just had her 2nd daughter, they are about 2 years apart and she is having another shower. I think it just depends on your friends and family. If you want one, I don't see any harm in saying something to somebody. There is always stuff you can use.

MommyToAshley replied: I have heard it both ways... but I personally think every baby deserves to be celebrated and to have a shower. (even if it is a small gathering of close friends and family) Sometimes for second babies, our family doesn't throw a shower but gets together after the baby is born and everyone brings presents. Like everyone has said, I guess it depends on your family and friends.

Mommieto2Girls replied: I think every baby should be celebrated, even if not a formal baby shower maybe a BBQ party type thing, to celebrate the new arrival to come.... Everyone will sure bring gifts anyway...

CantWait replied: I just remembered also. I got my baby shower after Anthony was born. A lot of people are superstitious and don't believe in giving or opening gifts before the baby is born. Some people also like to wait and see what you still need after baby arrives.

MomofTay&Sam replied: My children are 10 years apart and I had a second shower. I think you are entitled to a shower no matter what the age difference or time. YOUR having a baby and it should be celebrated!! Bring on the gifts and fun times. It's a time for family and friends to * baby* you!