So depressing

A&A'smommy wrote: I hate being broke, it feels like we NEVER have any money we bounced a check yesterday 40 dollars because we bought a few groceries it wasn't even really enough. I can't stand it anymore if it wasn't for me getting this job I don't know what we would do and my mom she volunteered to take care of Alyssa while I work so we don't have to pay a sitter I couldn't work it we had to pay a sitter because all of my money would go into that . I hope this job is going to be enough if not I may have to find another job and work more hours and to tell you the truth I don't want to I want to be more in her life I know what mother doesn't sometimes you really can't help having both parents work I was planning on going to work eventually anyway but when she was a little older. I bought a pair of pants and that put us even more over the edge but I have NO clothes that are really decent enough to wear to work. I don't know what were going to do if we come up short on Jeremiah next check (he is suppose to get paid the 15) we don't have enough food for Alyssa (she is VERY picky) to last another two weeks I could cry. My parents helped us out last time we were short on money, they surprised us, and we cannot ask Jeremiahs parents for more help his mother ends up using it against us... or making us feel bad plus they are doing so great right now either. I'm SO frustrated right now I'm not being very nice to Alyssa she keeps climbing on me and I can't handle that right now... I feel like its my fault that we are so low on money I shouldn't have gotten anything at the store last night I should have just ate what we have here but I really wanted healthy food so I can keep loosing weight, and then I got some snack food it wasn't just for me though it was for Alyssa too. She likes healthy snacks and she eats them so you know I have a hard time getting her to eat what we eat. UGH I don't know what we are going to do...

3_call_me_mama replied: AHHH< Jessy I'm so sorry to hear you are in a tight spot. Keep your chin up and remember we are here for you. Things will look up, it's easy to get upset at littel things like a kid climbing on you when the whole world seems to be caving in. Hugs to you!

3xsthefun replied: Hun, I know how you feel. These last few pay checks have been tight for us. I would get a job but then I think it will not help. Because the money would go to a sitter, unless my mom-in-law would watch the kids. But I just don't know. I hate when things get tight. Because it just adds more stress to the family.

I'm sending you lots of ((HUGS))

mummy2girls replied: (((HUGS)))

Im so sorry you are going through such a rough spot! I know what you are going through my dear! I went through such a tough spot a few months back i thought i wasnt even able to get jenna pull ups. If it want for my parents i dont know what i would of done:) I know it doesnt look good right now but hun things will get better. I think every couple will got hrough some kind of financial slump! It makes us stronger! If you need anything please let me know!

(((HUGS)))

JessC replied: Jessy, I hope things get better for you. Is their ANY possible way that you guys have any assistance with feeding your family in the area? I know here in oregon we have food stamps and they give you at least $300 a month for food, they help you out for awhile until you get back on your feet.

I know it might be embarrissing but, it could help you guys, I hope you figure out something , hang in there, if you feel stressed we are here for you.

paradisemommy replied: first off big hugs to you - i know how it is to live paycheck to paycheck and it's no fun - i was gonna suggest the same thing that jessica did - do you guys qualify for food stamps or maybe do you have a food bank in your area...also if you need work clothes, i used to go to goodwill and get all my work clothes - if you look really good a lot of their clothes are almost brand new..

keep your chin up though..i think a lot of us struggle in the beginning - it won't always be like this!

amymom replied: Jessy I totally understand. Please look into the food stamp thing. And check ebay for less expensive clothing.

ediep replied: oh Jessy, so sorry you are in a toght spot right now. You know, i always thought that is I had to go back to work, I would love if a family memebr could watch jason. I figured that it was the next best thing....if your mom would watch Alyssa so you gould earn a few bucks, it would be great!!

mom21kid2dogs replied: So sorry things are so tough financially for you guys! (((Big Hugs))) and some crossed fingers for something to come through soon!

Tamatha replied: There are lots of things out there to help families in distress! I used to work at a church, and we got calls all the time asking for assistance. Start calling around--as other people have suggested, look for food banks, Goodwill, Salvation Army stores, check into food stamps. My mom has a college degree and at one time was one of the highest paid women in the nation in her field, and even we ended up almost going on food stamps during a particularly difficult time in our lives. You can't beat yourself up over this!! You have a little girl watching every move you make, basing her ideas of what life should be like on how you're handling all of this stress. I always feel better if I have a plan of action, ways to start helping myself when I feel like things are out of control. I hope you'll look into some of these options until you get back on your feet! Hang in there, hon!! We're all pulling for you!!

A&A'smommy replied: Thank you guys SO much for replying to this and for the advice. We have enough food to last until his next paycheck (which should show a raise) Were going to be okay though we have a little bit of money on a credit card so we are going to get Alyssa a few things, and we have stuff for us. I feel bad for complaining though we are putting aside some money next time so we can go to the zoo with Jeremiahs brother (who usually pays for everything and probably will this time too) and neice and nephew. It shouldn't get like this again not since I am going to be working and with Jeremiahs raise which came JUST in time! Thank you guys so much I am kinda embarressed though!

kit_kats_mom replied: I'd seriously look into food stamps. They'd help you feel more secure in knowing that at the very least, no matter what, there will always be food on the table.

I was going through some letters that my mom had written to her parents when I was a baby. She was 21, no college, newly divorced with a two year old & an ex who didn't pay child support for 16 years. In one of her letters she was saying that there was .79 cents in her checking account and she wasn't sure how she was going to get a perscription that I needed. Luckily for me she sucked it up and accepted food stamps until she was able to get things under control a bit better. I actually think more of her because of her willingness to do it. I'm sure she didn't want too at all. KWIM?

things will get better. Not having money is awful but at least you are able to get everything you and your family needs.

Hugs

mammag replied: I just wanted to offer hugs.

I also wanted to ask if you had ever thought of looking after other children in your home. It is a good way to get money without having to leave Alyssa. You might consider that instead of a 2nd job if it does come to that.

Don't feel embarassed about the situation. I think a lot of us have been in that situation at some point when you just don't know how you are going to make it to the next paycheck.

DansMom replied: Oh, I know that kind of sinking feeling when ends aren't meeting. I know it doesn't help, but I bounced a check this month and am a month behind on a number of bills. Things are definitely tight, and I've noticed that most of my money goes to groceries. It shouldn't be this hard. Sorry you're going through this right now.

Boys r us replied: I'm sorry you're struggling financially right now! Things will get better when your paycheck starts to roll in!! Plus getting out will probably help you too..I know we working moms do miss our kids, but sometimes, it's the best relief known to man(for me at least) when the kids are making me bonkers!

My2Beauties replied: HOney I am so sorry, I thought I replied to this post earlier Anyways, I am in the same boat and I am so sorry! I know how you feel, we have like $5 to our name! All of my credit cards (the two I have) with low limits at that, are maxed out and Brian doesn't have any so we don't have them to fall back on! It's rather scary. I got that $100 gift cert to Target from my friends at work and I'll probably go there just to buy milk so hon I sympathize and if you need anything please feel free to PM me!

~KARA~ replied: (hugs) from the "sounds" of it we have all been there done that!! I know how you feel!! It will get better!!! CAll around and see if there is any place that can help, if you really need it!!