Speaking of jealousy among partners...
Danalana wrote: There's something that's always bothered me about people, as far as jealousy and stuff goes.
Example: A girl goes all nuts because some girl is talking to her boyfriend. But the girl always gets irate at THE GIRL. That never makes sense to me. I'd be mad at my boyfriend, you know? He's the one who is supposed to care about me, not some strange girl. But there the girl is, making threats to the other girl ("You better keep your hands off my man!")...I mean, if the guy has loyalty towards you, what does it matter if somebody just talks to them? I'm just wondering because I've never understood it. Then again, as mentioned in another post, I've never been a jealous person. Now, if she knows he has a boyfriend/wife, that's different. And it's different if he responds in the way she is wanting him to. otherwise, I see it as something that is harmless. Any thoughts?
Crystalina replied: I think anyone who reacts like that because one is talking to the other is really too immature for a relationship to begin with. DH was engaged before me and I was before him. My ex passed away but we see DH's ex all the time and she's a very nice person. I don't feel threatened in the least bit with other women. That may also be because DH has never given me a reason to feel that way.
::ETA:: I have pics of my ex on my MySpace (like an In Memoriam) and DH doesn't care.
luvmykids replied: I'm not a jealous person either, I used to be a little bit but once I realized DH is a handsome guy and women are going to notice, I figured I'd better get over it 
I agree with you though 
mckayleesmom replied: Me and Leithan are both non Jealous people.
holley79 replied: I've never understood it either. Shawn and I are so not jealous kind of people. Either one of us could care less because we know who is going to bed with who at the end of the day. 
lisar replied: I have to agree with Crystal here. If you get all worked up over your man talking to someone then you shouldnt be in a relationship. It makes me mad to see girls who do that. Heck I know some guys who would get the same way though. I see some of dh's ex's all the time.
My2Beauties replied: I'm definitely not a jealous person, me and DH are both huge flirts so neither one of us could ever be jealous.
gr33n3y3z replied:
I dont get it
Just or talking to a girl and vise versa
I think if someone gets jelious of that then they shouldnt be with them they need to grow up and get a reality check
Danalana replied: Yeah, the girl will be all mad at the other girl, instead of who she should be mad at...her boyfriend/partner! Or a guy wanting to fight other guys for looking at his girl. If you don't trust your girl/guy, find somebody you DO trust.
Calimama replied:
Exactly!!!
I'm always thinking.. well who made the commitment to YOU? The girl sure didn't. I hear that "if she touches my boyfriend I'll kick her butt".. hello which boyfriend LET HER touch him? 
Kirstenmumof3 replied:  I used to be a very jealous person. DH was a work-a-holic and was hardly ever home. I never trusted that he was really at work. I always thought that he was out with a friend of his. When we were dating he would visit this friend, take her out for dinner, to a movie and not tell me about it. So I kinda had reason to be jealous. Looking back, I realize how insecure I was and what little self esteem I had. I was always affraid that I was going to loose him. Now I'm not a jealous person.
punkeemunkee'smom replied: OK Dana put down the remote and step away from the Maury show!  J/K
Danalana replied: LOL. I actually used to watch Maury until every episode was about some woman who was convinced that this one guy was the father of her child...he adamantly denies it, even though the baby looks JUST LIKE HIM. And, what do you know, he is the father!!! Or, the woman has about 15 men who could be the father and we have to wait and suffer through all the paternity tests. Boring!
Crystalina replied:
Oh that show makes me ill! 
"He is my baby daddy! Look at that nose Maury. Look at those eyebrows."
O......M......G
Give me a break people. And they always run to the back if he's not. That is sooo scripted.
Connie Chung should be embarrassed.
jcc64 replied: I am always so mortified for everyone involved with that show. There must be a more dignified way for Maury to bring home the bacon, kwim?
About jealousy, I believe that people who don't trust themselves are the ones most likely to be mistrustful of their partners.
Danalana replied:
Oooooh, that is a very good point. I have something kinda like that as an example. I have found that when I don't like somebody....especially if there is no concrete reason...it's usually because I see something in them that I don't like about myself. If that makes sense.
MoonMama replied:
ITA with that....My most very best friend is a guy who I have been best friends with since kindergarten. And DH has never had an issue with us being friends. However my best friends ex g/f didn't trust him and I as friends at all and was constantly accusing him/I....low and behold she's been cheating with her good guy "friend". 
But I agree often they are so quick to blame the other girl/guy yet don't say a word regarding their SO actions/reaction what so ever.
gr33n3y3z replied:
Those kind of woman make me ill
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