Spencer

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: Well I was told today that I'm not being supportive enough or encouraging enough when it comes to Spencer taking his medication or eating. I took the TV, nintendo and computer away from him because he won't co-operate and take his medication. They want a calm, encouraging environment. So I told them that I might as well not be here at all. I left the hospital at 12:30 and have no plans to go back. I'm tired of the games he plays with all of us, and yet it's me that they have a problem with. The child Psychiatrist hasn't seen Spencer in about a week. I'm worried about him. We can't go home, or even get discharged until he starts to take his medications.

kimberley replied: that is frustrating that they are putting it all back on you. that is not right. maybe you should tell them if they quit undermining your methods... the methods Spencer is accustomed to!... that maybe we would have seen miles of progress by now. gosh, Kirsten, i don't know how you haven't gone postal on these people yet. i am sorry.

gr33n3y3z replied: They say your not supportive enough or encouraging enough how do they dare say that to you
You have been going well and above to help him and them
They need to get off your case

I'm so sorry this is happening hun stick to your guns and dont back down from them fight back and let them know your feelings dont hold them in with them

luvmykids replied:
Ditto!

MamaJAM replied:

C&K*s Mommie replied:
to Kimberly & Lisa

ashtonsmama replied: to all of the above! I'm so sorry to hear that Kirsten, they should just get off your back on all of that...aren't they supposed to be supportive of parents and children?!?
That's ridiculous. Makes me want to march up there and tell them all off. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all those nut jobs.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I can't stop crying! Everytime I think about all of this it makes me sick. The Social Worker called me and thinks that it might be time for my husband to come and take over. Well that sounds good in theory, but he has a job and we have 2 other children. I can't leave Spencer. I don't know what to do! I'm just so upset right now.

gr33n3y3z replied: Aww hun cry away
I wish I was there to help you in some way

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1lilpeanut2love replied: Good luck! I am sorry about all of this. I hope someone/ or something can convince him to eat and take his meds.

holley79 replied: Sweetie I don't know what I would do in your place. I think I would have gone postal before now. Just tell them that he is your child and you know what is best for him in that instance.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm sorry Kirsten. They must be blind if they told you you're not being supportive of Spencer. It's not their job to give you parenting advice. Stick to your guns - don't let them intimidate you!

Jamison'smama replied: Hugs---It sounds like you are mentally and physically exhausted! Is there anyone who can give you a break for a day or 2? A good friend, a family member? Don't hesitate to seek help or just take a break. It just sounds like you aren't getting the support you need from the hospital. They really need to understand the stress that the parents are going through and to stop judging your parenting decisions at times like these.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I agree they need to see hwo supportive you are being and that if they stop underminding you things could be better. I am so sorry wish there was more I could do.

mom21kid2dogs replied: Hope it's going to get better for you all soon.

Did taking away his stuff reap any results?

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
No They gave it all back to him once I left yesterday!

jem0622 replied: I am so sorry that they said that to you and that they are not supporting you showing some tough love to get him to eat and get the heck out of there! No, it is not feasible for DH to not work and support the family! But...anything is worth a try. Maybe he could come for a weekend? That way he doesnt' miss work? That would be 48 hrs of him there and see what happens?

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am sorry they are blaming you. I hope that he starts taking his meds soon!!

A&A'smommy replied: Oh hun I'm sorry I hope things start to look up for him soon and I pray that he will be cooperative from now on!!!

And I'm sorry that they are blaming you they obviously have NO Idea how to deal with someone else telling them how to take care of their patient.. but they need to get over that and realize that YOU are his mother and that YOU know him better than they do!!!