Stares and comments - Venting -- Why must they do it???

msoulz wrote: Hi all:

Does anyone else get irritated with all of the staring at your tummy and how everyone feels the need to comment on your appearance? I'm not the most comfortable with my appearance every day anyway, but now I just wish I could hide! Don't get me wrong, I am not ashamed to have my big belly, and I am not gaining unnecessary weight or look bad. In fact, most comments are complimentary but it still is uncomfortable. And the ones I really dislike are the backhanded compliments, "you look so good, it makes me sick". I should be flattered, but am annoyed. And then "you look bigger this time than last" Can't they just leave us alone??

thanks for listening or ignoring me, whichever you choose!!!

luvbug00 replied: Uhh I hated that. Just wait till little one comes then the attention will happily focas to them.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I do remember this and although they were typically nice comments, it got old. But believe me, I would kill for one of those compliments today!! Love em while they last!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Gets old, doesn`t it?


I LOVE the stares we get when we go shopping. 2 toddlers in the cart and a pg belly.

You know I`ve had sooooooooooooo many people ask if after this one we`re done, or if we`re *actually* thining of having more?

Like - as if it's ANY of their business!!! *actually* thinking of having more... as if it`s a crime to have more than 2 children!

mammag replied:
That's the kind of comments I hated when pg with Keegan! One lady even said "you know there is a way to prevnt that" As if I were upset about it or shouldn't have this many kids.

I didn't mind the nice comments though or even people looking at my belly.

ammommy replied: What really bothered me was that people thought they had the right to touch my belly
I was so fed up at work that I told people that I was not a Buddah and rubbing my belly would not give them good luck! A few people asked me why it bothered me and I asked them how they would feel if I felt their boob jobs to see how real they felt. I think they got it, then

A&A'smommy replied: I must be pretty vain or something because I LOVED the compliments and belly pats as long as the pats and rubs was from people I knew I was in heaven, I LOVED the belly and the attention!!

Lynda836 replied:
That is too funny . I know what you mean... I have a male friend who keeps going for my belly when we visit...I feel like I'm doing 'Martial arts' to keep him out of my personal space. It's just seems wierd...people other than my husband wanting to touch my belly.

I also had a total stranger come up to me in a store and tell me I looked like I was about to pop, and ask when I was due. I had a sudden urge to make my lip quiver and say I'm not pregnant....but then I thought that might be a bit mean

zdk753 replied:
Me too. I actually had people come into my room after having my daughter & ask me if I was finally done. I had just had my 3rd kid, not my 20th. I would just tell them that if I want to have 10 more I can. They aren't the ones taking care of my kids. I didn't mind the stares or someone touching my belly as long as they asked first.

NummyMommy replied:
Thats how I felt totally......wish I had your snappy comeback

Jaime replied: I totally understand the way you feel, not only that but the same people ask me over and over again when im due and what im having, or you get those people that ask you didnt have that baby yet? lol does it look like i did? at first i was fine with the belly touching and the stares and the comments but now i think ive had enough, so i totally understand how you feel, you sure arent alone.

angelhair replied: I know how you feel, i carried small and everyone said boy you are small. i heard it so many times i felt the need to defend myself . it will be over soon then you will have a beautiful little person. love dee

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I was small also and it got so old to hear people say "oh you're soooo small" or "that baby must be small"...not something a PG mother wants to hear! You don't want to hear you're fat, but small isn't a compliment either. It means unhealthy! Proved everyone wrong when Wil came out and was 8lbs!

Hang in there! People are clueless about what to say to PG women. Unfortunately people are still clueless when the baby arrives! Just enjoy this special time!

msoulz replied: A few people asked me why it bothered me and I asked them how they would feel if I felt their boob jobs to see how real they felt. I think they got it, then

That is TOO funny!! I love it!

I had a sudden urge to make my lip quiver and say I'm not pregnant....but then I thought that might be a bit mean

I have had the same urge - and it just might happen some day! I always wanted to turn on the tears and say "We have tried but it just isn't working" whenever those folks asked "when are you going to have another one?" People have NO idea what you have been through and that question could really be painful for some! But, I didn't have the guts to do that, so likely I won't pull the "i'm not pregnant" either . . .

I know how you feel, i carried small and everyone said boy you are small. i heard it so many times i felt the need to defend myself . it will be over soon then you will have a beautiful little person. love dee

I'm sure you got a lot of those backhanded "you make me sick" compliments too.

But believe me, I would kill for one of those compliments today!! Love em while they last!
An excellent point!!!

Thank you all for the support and encouragement.

CantWait replied: I never actually minded. I felt really good during my pregnancy about the way I looked, and loved when people noticed. Some people are different though, and you're entitled to that. Vent away girl.

sunshine girls replied: I dont mind people looking at my stomach or anything, sometimes people ask me if we know the sex and I say "yeah its a girl", usually they'll say oh thats nice or something. But I've had 2 people in the past 2 weeks who I don't know but we talk for a few minutes about babies and what not. Anyway, they've both asked if I know the sex and I say yes, its a girl. And they both looked at Elle and Gwen and said "another girl, i bet you wanted a boy"...gosh it annoyed me, i dont care if it's a boy or a girl..i just want another healthy child. We didnt know if Elle or Gwen were boys or girls so we decided to find out with this pregnancy, and its good we wernt upset or anything to find out it was a girl we were so excited.
It just annoys me when people comment on how upsetting it must be to get a third girl..um no its not upsetting. I remember when I was pregnant with Gwen a few strangers asked what I was going to name the baby, and I said Owen if it was a boy or Gwen for a girl. They either said whats with the wen? or Gwen's to old fashioned, I wouldnt call her that. that annoyed me, its my baby i pick the name and in case they didnt notice Owen and Gwen sound completly different. I obviously wouldnt name my son Owen if I had one cause I have Gwen..
now Im venting lol..I have one more thing to complain about..people telling me they think its weird all my kids have 4 letter names...I didnt plan it, Elle and Gwen were 2 names I loved..but I did pick Lily because I loved it and also because it has 4 letters..i think its cute they all have 4 letter names, i love it lol, Elle, Gwen and Lily..I love it when I write their names...

msoulz replied: I had a cashier say to me yesterday "when is your little boy due?", which is funny as I don't know the sex. And I had another sales person ask "are you due?", which is an odd question, and responded "well, not yet" and she proceeded to tell me about her daughter who is due any day now, blah blah. Considering I have 10 weeks left, I shouldn't look like I am due any day, and I don' t think I do.

People are so funny!

JAYMESMOM replied: I loved when people made comments about my tummy or wanted to touch it. I loved being pregnant even when I felt like a beached wall.

The one thing I did think was funny was when i was 5 months my husbands doctor asked if I was due any day. I said no only half way there . He got embarressed but I laughed it off. I was pregnant and she balooned me out from the beginning so I was used to it. I was in maternity clothes by 7 weeks but only gained 36 pounds total.

Now if only I could lose them.