Stemming off rude heathen children post. - manners

luvbug00 wrote: So After reading that post I was thinking and wanted to ask..
What do you expect of your children regarding manners ?

I expect Mya to say please and thank you.

Mr. or Mrs. ( or miss,ms., whatever the appropriate name is )

She doesn't say "what?" she says "Excuse me I didn't hear you" or "pardon I didn't hear you"

She holds door open for people younger then her or who have things in their hands. ( if the door isn't too big)

her napkin has been folded in her lap since she was 2.

the basics.

gr33n3y3z replied: I agree and My kids follow the same rules you have
and to add to the list

Dont roll your eyes
Dont put your hand up like you know talk to the hand deal ( or you will loose it )
and you talk to ppl. with respect that includes class mates to adults

I remember my parents teaching me not to say no to Adults bc it was disrespectful
I do not feel that way and I taught my kids to say no if they feel uncomfortable about something but just as long as they are not rude about it.

kimberley replied: definitely please and thank you.
saying "pardon me?" instead of "what?"
saying "bless you" when someone sneezes.
to give a hand when needed.
respect elders.
not to interrupt when people are talking.
not to talk with mouth full or chew like a horse. no slurping or blowing bubbles in milk.
to be "excused" from the table.
to make eye contact when talking/listening to adults.
not to ask for gifts/things.
to appreciate whatever gift they are given even if they dont like it.
do as they are told and not give lip back.
dont take the last piece of food or ask for other peoples food (jacob ) and don't put more on your plate than you can eat.
no fighting at other people's house and obey other parents on playdates.
not to make fun of people because they are different.
be friendly to the kids who dont have a lot of friends.
go into the washroom to pass wind/belch if people are around.

i am sure there are more because i am anal about manners but those are the most prevalent ones.

mckayleesmom replied: Mckaylee says

Please
Thank You
Your welcome
God Bless You......but she says For goodness sakes...but thats what she means...when Russell coughs or sneezes she says For goodness sakes...
She has to keep her feet and elbows off the table...she is working on that one
she needs to use tissue to wipe her nose
We are learning Sir and Ma'am
excuse me.....she always cuts people off in the store and yells cuse me

jcc64 replied: Most of the above, although I'm not a stickler for elbows on the table or napkins in the lap (in fact, I'm pretty thrilled if the napkin gets used at all- Noah still prefers his shirt ).
I want my boys to hold the door for a woman. However old fashioned it may be, it is still a nice courtesy.

kimberley replied:
me too! i think it is so important for my boys to be gentlemen. i am just scared some overzealous feminist is gonna give them the what for just for being considerate

redchief replied: One more thing in addition to everything said before...

I expect my kids to respect others' opinions, even if they disagree. They may disagree, but never say things like, "That's stupid," or "Shut up."

PhiMuMommy replied: i expect the basics:
please and thankyous
excuse me (when bodily functions occur...i have a boy..lol)
he can't say HATE
he can't say KILL YOU (like when play sword fighting ..it's get you)
he knows to share
he uses napkins (of course he hates to be dirty so that wasn't hard)
he waits his turn to speak when we are talking (or he'll go shh i wanna talk to now) so we are still working on that.
and he knows no lies.

but overall i think my son is very polite. he always says no thankyou when i ask if he'll pick up his toys..lol...
and when he gets up from time out and i ask him if he'll be good he usually says "for a minute" so he doesn't lie! lol

i love my polite little butthead

PhiMuMommy replied: OH OH OH
he always picks a flower (or weed) and brings it to all women in the house when he comes in from playing outdoors.. he knows "to treat the ladies nicely" and little girls aren't girls they are ladies.

zdk753 replied: Some of these we are still working on, but I'm teaching my kids to say please & thank you, excuse me, not interupting, maam or sir, calling their elders by their proper title i.e. mr., mrs, etc., not to make fun of people, & not to name call like stupid or nerd. I like the idea of saying pardon me instead of what. That sounds more polite. I'm going to start working on that one.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I'm just curious...how old were all of your kids when you started teaching them manners. Brooke shares well, will say please (sometimes has to be reminded) and has just started saying thank you (most of the time needs to be reminded). We are also working on not interrupting people and waiting her turn patiently. Should I be teaching her more? I don't want to start too late.

kimberley replied:
from birth . i am a firm believer that babies understand long before they can communicate and have always tried to talk to them and set examples for them in manners. i dont expect from my kids what i cannot or will not do myself

MommyToAshley replied: Ashley does most of the things everyone listed. We always get comments on how polite she is. However, the big one we are STILL working on is getting her not to interrupt when someone is speaking.

Of course, Ashley has tried to turn politeness to her advantage. The other day, I asked her to pick up her toys. She looked at me and said (and she was serious), "No thank you Mommy but thanks for asking." I couldn't help but to laugh. I've learned my lesson not to make it a question.

ions_momma replied: these are the main ones

say please, thank you, excuse me, etc.
dont interrupt people when they are talking
respect others
dont talk with food in your mouth
dont call people names
dont make fun of people


there are others im sure but i just cant think of them right now

C&K*s Mommie replied: arrrgghhhh.... the thought of that makes me want to say arrrgggghhh....! Young men & boys are doing very well by treating women with respect, and then some feminist woman comes along sends them flying back 10 feet!

ITA with most here, we still have alot of work to do though. Most importants ones to right now are:

Thank you (the persons name, if known)
Ma'am & Sir
Speaking when spoken to. (They get shy around strangers sometimes)
Please
Excuse me
Not back talking me or their father
Not speaking in an inappopiate tone to me or their father (out of respect)

luvbug00 replied:

diddo, except the last part I kinda do the "do as I say not as I do" thing. But she has never really tried to copy me much anyway.

USMCwife replied: To say please and thankyou .
Ma'am -sir.
Not to interupt someone while they are speaking.
Not to make fun of others. (this is a biggie w/ me and her daddy)
Not to ask other for gifts.
To obey whomever she is w/ at the time, whether it be grandparents, aunts,uncles etc.
Not to horseplay in our home or anyone elses home for that matter.

holley79 replied:

My step son had a very bad habit of doing this when his dad and I are not within hearing. It really grates on me and he's 17. There's no excuse for it.

It's different if someone is asked what you would like for bday or Christmas another to follow them around the house bugging them about what they SHOULD get you.