Step-cousins with same name?

amynicole21 wrote: My step-mother called tonight to let me know that my step brother and his wife, who are expecting a girl 2 weeks before our baby is due, are considering using the name Sophia. They won't do this without our blessing though. I'm not at all close with my step-brother. My dad married my step-Mom when I was about 20, so I didn't grow up with him. They also live in California, so we never cross paths. The only thing that really bothers me is that my father and step-mother will have 2 grandchildren named Sophia. Of all the names in the world, why do they have to choose that one? So they are calling me back in an hour to get my final answer. What would you say?

kimberley replied: that would be weird but it is your call. if they don't see each other, i probably wouldn't worry about it. it is a pretty name are they at least going to have a different middle name?

my half brother (who i rarely see and is 32 now) had a kid when he was 18yo and named him James. i haven't seen him since he was about 10yo. his mom is a bit crazy and had a bunch more kids with other men and cut my brother out of his sons life. i had no qualms about naming my second son James.

moped replied: Well I would say yes - only becauseyou aren't close with them at all - that stinks!!!!!!

aspenblue1 replied: That is a hard one. I am not sure how I would feel about that. I guess if you never see them it wouldn't be bad,

coasterqueen replied: Yikes I'm not sure Amy. I guess it would be ok since you aren't close to them.

I know when we were going to use Elise for Kylie's middle name we had no idea that was Dh's niece's middle name and our SIL seemed to be fine with it and pointed it out to it but that weirded us out so we quickly changed it.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Personally I didn't see that it mattered until you pointed out that your mother would have 2 grandchildren with the name Sophia. Why couldnt' they pick something else? Gosh, that is hard. I can see it not being such a big deal as time goes on if you were to give your blessing, but one never knows at the time. Good luck! I certainly see your dilemma.

MommieMel replied: I understand the frustration...you finally find the name you love and someone close or not wants to name thier baby the same name.Unfortunately we have to be grown ups and say the right thing "Sure thats fine i dont own the name" when we really want to say "GET YOUR OWN !" lol...that is really agrivating sorry

It would be nice of them to let you have it and think of another one since you came up with it first.There are beautiful names i wont touch due to the fact that there are people close to me that have them.I would want to "step on thier toes" ya know?

Good luck

Jamison'smama replied: Okay, couldn't they have at least chosen Sophie instead. You can mention that it's fine but remind them of the 2 grandchildren with the same name and it could be confusing---maybe they'll re-think it.

paradisemommy replied: that is a tough one but i think THEY should be the ones to think..hmmm..yeah..i don't wanna name our child the same name as sophia..i know i would never ever wanna name my child the same as another cousin no matter how close or distant they are. it is indeed flattering that they love the name so much but c'mon..

it's like you don't wanna be the bad guy and say no way but ughhh...

i like jamison'smama's suggestion though..sophie is close and wouldn't be so bad..

Kirstenmumof3 replied: When I was growing up my Dads cousin had a baby boy and named him Jordan. My brother also named Jordan was only a few months old at the time. It was very confusing to me and I remember driving with my grandmother with gifts for this baby named Jordan and I kept telling them that Jordan (my brother) was at home with my mom. Very strange, very confusing. I don't know that I could do that. Just my opinion.

ediep replied: well, I definately see your point, it would be kind of strange. I think I'd get a bit peeved if one of my siblings named their next child Jason.

On the other hand, my brother is named Joseph and I have a few cousins on both sides of the family with the same name, so both of my grandparents had a few grandchildren names Joseph. It was both of my Grandfathers names, so my parensta nd their siblings all wanted to name their son after their father.

loveydad replied: Well that kinda does sound like a crappy thing to do - I guess they figure since you guys are not close it doesn't really matter.

IF they do decide to do it though, think of it this way. Maybe Sophia will think it's cool a few years down the road to have a stepcousin with the same name. Maybe it'll bring you all closer together.

TANNER'S MOM replied: This is strange but..My sis in law and I have the same middle name.. Melba Marie
she is Amanda Marie..

My first child is Brittany Michelle and hers is Summer Michelle..

My baby is Tanner Layne and Her's is Colton Lane ( I asked her to please use a different spelling)

It is very strange.. But I am older and so our my children...lol

A&A'smommy replied: That is weird, have you talked to them yet? If you did you say, and them?

DansMom replied: I know a Julie whose cousin is Julia. Julie told me that her parents were really pissed when that sister named Julia---Julie was born first, but is not much older than her cousin. It really is up to the expectant parents, though, and likely the second Sophia will end up with a nickname to distinguish her if they go through with it. I wouldn't even consider doing something like that though! I think you should say you're not crazy about it, but that it's not your decision and you'll get used to the idea if they go ahead with it. Bottom line: don't let it be you who is making this decision for them, and don't let it be a bone of contention for years if they do choose that name.

But really, there are so many names to choose from!

favre4fan replied: Thats a hard one but since you aren't close maybe its ok , otherwise that would bug me a bit.

amynicole21 replied: Well, I told them I was fine with it (even though I'm still a bit irked ). I just didn't want to be the grinch that took away their baby's name, you know? I think that the reason it irritates me so is that right now my father has one biological grandchild (my Sophia), but something like 15 other step-grandchildren. I hate the idea that part of my child's individuality is being diminished somehow. They'll have to refer to her as Amy's Sophia for the rest of her life Since all of the rest of my step-siblings are living in the same area as my dad and step-mom, it's likely that the "new" Sophia will become the one that everyone thinks of when they hear the name since she'll be biologically related to them, and my Sophia will be the afterthought

My step-mother did say that they hadn't settled on the name yet, and had a few others they were considering. Hopefully they'll pick another one!