Stupid Cold...Stupid Husband

kit_kats_mom wrote:

Colds and pregnancy stink!!!

Generally, my DH is very helpful and sweet. Now, granted, I've needed a bit more help with K the last few days due to this cold that I've had but I never expected him to turn into such a jerk today!

I got up with her at 6 and let him sleep in this morning because I have tended to feel better in the mornings than the evenings...figured I'd let him get some rest and take care of K then he could watch her this afternoon so I could rest & try to get over this thing. Well, he got up at 8 and I was just leaving to take her out. She and I went on a short trip and came back at noon. He was watching football and refused to take her. I couldn't believe it!

I was so tired and felt like dirt. I hate being sick and pregnant and not able to take anything, I haven't slept well since last Wednesday due to the cold and on top of everything, I'm peeing my pants every time I cough or sneeze. Then the kicker was when I was having a coughing fit he just looked at me and said, I have no sympathy...you need to take better care of yourself so you quit getting sick. ARGH! OK, has he not read the documentation that says that when you are pregnant, your immune system is lowered so that you don't reject your baby? Take a lowered immune system and add the little germ factory that is my toddler and you get a sick mommy.

Anyway, that ticked me off and made me feel so crappy that I asked him to watch K while i went to the store for a minute. My goal...kleenex and a cold medicine that would knock me out so that I could get a good nights sleep. I asked the pharmacist what I could take (sudafed isn't cutting it at all) and she said nothing. Vicks, tea blah blah blah...so what did I do? I cried. Right there in the middle of target. I feel like crap, I can't take care of my own kid, my DH is resenting me and I feel like a total failure.

On top everything, he may have to go out of town for the next week or so which means that I'm going to be on my own with K except for the 3 days she's in daycare. I'm too fat to give her a bath and if I don't start to feel better soon she will hate me because playing is so not fun right now.

I'm having a bad couple of days. And I want to add that days like this make me realize how hard single parents have it. Of course, I'd have taken a divorce happily if he'd asked me an hour ago

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Men can be so insensitive sometimes! I hope you feel better soon!

Jamison'smama replied: Every doc is different with cold medications as you know--I can take Tylenol Cold so maybe there is something that can help you--if nothing else, load up on Benedryl---Perfectly safe and it will knock you out!

Sorry he is being a jerk---sending get well vibes~~~~~~~~

amynicole21 replied: Egads, do I know what you mean! I'm so sorry. I almost killed my husband and all of my pets and ran away to Tijauana tonight. I hope you find something that makes you feel better... even if it is sneezing on DH's pillow

ediep replied: oh, I am so sorry for how you have been feeling! I would have cried in Target, actually, I probabaly would have cried earlier than that too!!

I hope your doc says you can take some meds so you get rest!

coasterqueen replied: Cary. I can somewhat relate with you sweetie and I'm going to be right there beside you being a single parent. DH goes out of town Tuesday thru Friday morning and will be home long enough for me to be in friend's wedding etc and he's gone back out of town ALL NEXT WEEK.

I got on the board tonight to post and ask anyone if they knew what I could take for a sinus infection. Or at least I think it is. My whole face hurts..cheeks..eyes..nose...every part of my face. Not a good thing when DH is getting ready to go out of town and I'm in a wedding this coming weekend.

I'm sorry you still aren't feeling well and that your DH is being a JERK. I have to say my Dh has been great but I know things are getting to him. Since the doctor said I can't basically do much, lol, Dh is doing everything and since I started to feel like crap today he's been doing everything he can to help with Kylie today. So I have to say mine is being rather a sweetheart but he did admit he's starting to wear thin.

Here's too our sanity over the next several days.

momof2girls replied: sorry your having a hard time!!
men!!! if it was him with the cold he would be in the bed whining! lol
that is why we are the ones that have the babies.
I hope you feel better!

Kaitlin'smom replied: what it is with some men when they are sick the world needs to stop for them and they want to be taken care of, but oh boy if we get sick we are doing something wrong....gurrr DH did this to me a couple time when I was sick after I had Kaitlin, so the next time he got sick.....welll lets just say paybacks are sweet, so the next time I was sick he was so much better and sweeter about the whole thing.

DansMom replied: Uggh!! So sorry. Everything will seem easier once you kick this cold, but that doesn't help when you're in the thick of it. It's really hanging on, isn't it? Bad DH for not helping and being rude !

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I hope you are feeling better, Cary. Scotty was the same way all of Maddie's 4 years of life and with both pregnancies. Actually up until a few months ago he didn't help at all. Not until I nearly had a nervous breakdown from trying to do it all on my own. We (as women) are VERY strong, but there is only so much we can handle or BE EXPECTED to handle. Take it easy. Eat some warm soup and drink lots of water. to your DH. He didn't have to be so RUDE!

I hope you feel better soon.

A&A'smommy replied: Awwwww grrrrr that was REALLY mean of him to talk to you like that!!! I hope you feel better soon!

Josie83 replied: Flipping men! I hope you feel better soon xx