Surrogacy

Calimama wrote: Would you carry a baby for someone else? Stranger, family member, whoever?


I'm interested in doing it for a couple that is unable to have kids but DH is 500% against it.

HuskerMom replied: I admire people who can but I don't think I could. I would get too attached to the baby over the nine months. Even if I could still be in the baby's life it would be too hard giving it to someone else.

Miranda1127 replied: no, but for health reasons. if it didn't effect my health so, i would consider it. but there is alot to consider, if my dh was so against it i probably wouldn't do it.

good luck

TANNER'S MOM replied: I couldn't do it. I would be way to attached after the time. I think there are so many babies and children who need homes. I wish they could all be adopted. I think we need reform some adopting laws to make it easier to achieve in america. It seems only the extremely weathly can adopt these days. After years of waiting even.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: My sister was diagnosed with a pituitary tumor right before her senior year of high school. There was a possibility that she would not be able to have children of her own. (That's been disproved now.) But Jen's dream since she was 4 had been to be a mommy. Nothing bigger. That's all she really wanted. So, I promised her that if it turned out she was unable to have a baby of her own, that I would be a surrogate for her. Even donate eggs if need be. I told Aaron that from day one in our relationship. It never bothered him. I'd still do it for her. But only for my sis.

gabriella replied: My step-sister has recently carried a child for her friend. We are all very proud of her and think she's amazing, but there were complications after giving birth and she lost a lot of blood. The baby was fine. From what my SS says, as long as you're completely aware that this baby is not yours and you're just carrying it, your mind can cope. She has no strong attachment or pull towards the baby and felt really proud and happy to see her in her mother's arms. For my SS her family, husband and children were completely behind her with this. I think this is important because it's a huge sacrifice for all, especially so in this case, as my step-sister lives in one country and gave birth in another and had to stay there several months leading up to the birth. All this and not seeing her own kids and husband every day made it very tough.

However, now her best friend from school who was diagnosed with cancer in her 20's, who had to have her womb removed, has now after several years, a baby daughter.

ZandersMama replied: If my uterus didnt suck, I would do it in a second. But not with my egg. I think if it was someone elses egg and sperm I could handle it, and give someone an amazing gift.

Mommy2BAK replied: I would definately do it for my sister, but otherwise I don't think so.
But anyhow, I think it would be a very special thing to do for someone!

MomToThreeAngels replied: [SIZE=7][COLOR=purple][FONT=Times]

for me i do not think i can do it if my body can handle pregnancy well. I had problems with each of my pregnancies and the last two "broke me" so i had to have a total hysterectomy. But i do admire women who can go through the pregnancy and be able to give the baby to the parents w/o being emotionally torn.

luvbug00 replied: if you and your husband can not agree then i say do not do it. But if you can agree and take on all the other things that will go along with it such as being able to unattach yourself then i don't see why not.

I personally could not do it.

Calimama replied:
Oh, we aren't. I was just thinking about it and became curious how many people would do it.

lovemy2 replied: I give anyone who can do it all the kudos in the world - I am not sure I could - too many factors, questions like what if I wanted more children after I did it and there was complications and I could never have anymore - what if something happened during the pregnancy and the couple didn't get that "perfect" child they were looking for - would they still love it? What if, what if - I am a very type A person and the unknowns would make me crazy....!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yes, I would. But not for a total stranger.

And it couldn't be my eggs.

mummy2girls replied: i dont think i could. I would get attached to that baby that i dont think i could give it up...

stella6979 replied: If it were for a family memeber or close friend, I wolud definately consider it.

lisar replied: I dont think I could. Well I know I wouldnt be able to I have no baby making tools. Even if I did though I dont I would be able to I would be so attached to the baby. Maybe for my sister but I think that would be it. Something I would have to give alot of thoughgt.

msoulz replied: You know, I just might, or should I say might have in my younger days. Say my best friend needed it or someone else with whom I am close. I carry children very well, no sickness or anything. But it would have to be for someone very special because I would have a very difficult time walking out of the hospital empty handed.

jcc64 replied: I would do it for a close relative or a friend. Not for money, and not for a stranger. And only with dh's blessing.

ediep replied:
same here

Cece00 replied: I wouldnt do it under any circumstances.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Nope.

My3LilMonkeys replied: For a very close relative or friend I would.