Tell me what this sounds like to you....

mummy2girls wrote: I think she is being very inconsiderate to jenna.....

My sister called and asked what i was doing on the 23rd. I told her i have no idea as that is 2.5 weeks away. and she asked if i could help her make cupcakes for her dd's birthday. (I have no porblem helping).I told her that i dont get off work till about 630pm that day and jenna goes to bed at 700. and she said well she will just have to stay up till later than that and she will have to accept that! WHAT!!!! How can she say that? I told her there is no way im going to do that to jenna. I told her if she wants me to help she is to come over to mty place that way jenna can sleep in her bed at a decent time. She then pouted. OH WELL!

A&A'smommy replied: omg your sister sounds like a kid!!! sorry but she sounds like she doesnt care about anyone but herself!!!!

mummy2girls replied: that is exactly what she is like jessy...you hit the bullseye!!!!!!

kimberley replied: as soon as i read "my sister called..." that was enough to tell me it probably was inconsiderate i think your idea of her coming to your house so you can help her bake is a nice gesture and if she doesn't like it, tough cookies!

jem0622 replied: First...it sounds like your sister wants it her way or no way at all. That there is no compromise.

That being said...sometimes we have to do what is best for our family (not brothers and sisters...I'm talking DH/SO and your own kids) and it may mean saying no to something that we would otherwise like to do.

Now...my parents still can't fathom that the boys have limits on patience and behavior and as the hours tick away, they lose a little more of their better side. Well...they took Nathan to Delaware so that he would be present for the rehearsal. He did not nap that day (strange place plus he is fighting naps these days) and they kept him out until after 9pm. If he had taken a two hour nap that day then maybe 9pm wouldn't be an issue...but when he hasn't napped (didn't nap Friday either) and he is not around Mommy or Daddy...well GOOD LUCK with that. And they were wondering why he was acting up. Hello??? Sleep deprivation makes anyone grouchy! They told me his routine would be pushed back (bath, show, and bed) and I told them to be prepared for one grouchy kid. That was all that I could do.

I am not kidding when I say that I frequently cut visits shorter than normal or go so far as to bring pj's and a show for the kids if I know I'm going to be a distance away from home b/c they thrive on their schedule. Especially at night. And so do I.

HUGS

Julie

Kirstenmumof3 replied: That sister of yours is a real handful! Good For You for standing up for yourself! Make sure you stick to your guns and make her come to your house!

~CrazieMama~ replied: Your sisters has alot of nerve to tell you that. I do hope you make her come to your house. There is not need for you to rearrange Jenna's schedule to accomodate your sister. She can easily go to your house. I mean, my god!!! How rude of her!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: sounds rude to me....I have had people want to do things during kaitlin's nap and I tell them no way i will not inturept her schedule (whlie she is still so little) we can do it after she is up. Right now if she does not get a good afternoon nap in boy is she ever cranky! Sometimes I get rude comments like it wont hurt her but for the most part they understand

really smack your sister....

jen replied: Yea I would just tell her that beggers can't be choosers, she can come to your house or she can go to the BAKERY and Pick up her own damn cupcakes. LOL I know how you feel I get walked on all the time because I am very easy going and that sets me up to be taken advantage of!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: OMG!! She is such a brat! I am soooo proud of you for sticking up for yourself!!! WTG!

DansMom replied: Good for you! When you tell stories about your sister now, I can tell that you have more ability to stand your ground and set limits than you did even six months ago. You did the right thing---if you keep being assertive she will likely become more cooperative and adaptable to you over time. She just has to know you mean what you say, and it seems like you do. You've got your priorities straight---you're a good person, and you're happy to help, but she has to accept your terms.

Beccas_mom replied: We have had this problem a lot until recently. All of our friends are young and single and we had to deal with a lot of "Lets go out" and having to go through a big thing about the Baby. Then it turned into people coming over and ending up staying the night when it start disrupting Becca we put an end to it. I say if your Sister wants help then she should work around your Schedule!