The NERVE of some people

two2luv wrote: A couple of my friends seem to have issues with the fact that I am "still" nursing. Isabelle is still nearly exclusively bf and thriving! So WHAT if I don't feed her table food all the time? She KNOWS how to eat - she just doesn't want to some times and rather than fight with her (which makes us BOTH uspet) I figure I'll let her take her time with solids. (remember we all talked about this before in a different post) Well, these friends of mine seem to think that they know better than I do - sometimes when I'm not looking the like to slip Isabelle some food! Um hello? Whose baby is she?! One even went so far as to sneak her a big bite of rice when we were out at a chinese restaurant the other night. RICE?! Very dry white rice! A whole mouthfull of it - she could have choked! Arrrrgg. I am so angry. The problem is that these ladies are much older than me - their children are all over the age of 12. I think that they automatically assume that they know better than I do. It makes me so angry!! Sorry - just had to vent. Am I being too sensitive?

A&A'smommy replied: NO OMG I don't think you are being oversensitive at all!!! I probably would have said something to the fact that she is my baby and that you KNOW her and what she needs! grrrr

MommyToAshley replied: Grrrrr! I don't understand where people think they have the right to do or say stuff like that. Glad you are not letting them influence your decisions and you are standing strong for what you believe is best for your baby!

Mom2Boyz replied: People like that drive me absolutly crazy!!!
We had a family get together a couple of weeks ago, and my aunt kept insisting that I give Conner a bite of Chocolate Cake!!! Hello!!!!!! He's not even 6 months old yet, I think CHOCOLATE is probably the last thing he needs. Just because someone did things a certain way with their child doesn't mean you have to do the same with yours. I've started to ignore most people when they try to give me advice on things I "should" or "shouldn't" do with Conner. Isabelle is YOUR child, you know what's best for her

MomToMany replied: OMG!! How rude!!! You're doing an awesome job, and you know what your daughter needs ! I would politely tell them that she's growing just fine and that she's just not interested in table food right now. Hannah was the same way; she didn't want any solids until she was about 9 months old. Everybody thought there was something wrong with me. But my Dr. said she was doing just fine and there was no need to rush into anything.

Just try to ignore the stupid comments when you can. Some people can't help it that they are so ignorant.

jem0622 replied: Yeah, some folks are rather ignorant when it comes to nursing. Just be glad you know better.

Breastmilk and formula come first for the first year. Then food. And some breastfed babies prefer that even beyond a year and it's great for them.

Way to go Mommy!

amynicole21 replied: OOOOhhhhhh no.... I would have been FUMING!!! I can handle stupid comments, but when someone goes so far as to give my baby something to eat without my permission, WATCH OUT... Momma bear is not happy Grrrrrrr!!!!!!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I don't think you are being to sensitive! Let me tell you having 3 children and older inlaws I went through it all! People have this misconception about breastfeeding, it's so uncommon and since formula was introduced not a lot of women are breastfeeding. I think you are doing the right thing, if she isn't interested in solids don't push them! She is getting everything she needs from you. After having 3 I'm not so shy about telling people to mind there own business! It was very hard though when I had my first and I often felt like I was such an inadequate mother.

Kaitlin'smom replied: grrrrr how rude. I would have said dont feed he unless I say its okay, grrrr I hate when people try and push things on you just cause that what they did with there kids...........its your daughter stay strong and come her for support when ever needed.

jcc64 replied: These friends are completely inappropriate. But it's up to you to set the boundaries. Be polite, but firmly let them know they are entitled to their opinions, but it is exclusively your perogative and responsibility to tend to your child's nutrition.

coasterqueen replied: No you are not being oversensitive about this! People should not do this. I plead it's their pure ignorance for why they did that. Most people do not know anything about breastfeeding and instead of just saying so and letting the parent parent their child, they assume they know what's best just because it worked for them. Grrrrrr.

Sometimes I think people like that have such a huge issue with breastfeeding that they purposely do things like that. Makes me boil!

Next time stuff a huge spoon of rice in their mouth when they try to tell you how to parent your child! Like I tell my mother all the time, "I'll parent my child the way I want to, you already had your chance to parent yours." Course my mother isn't very breastfeeding friendly because it didn't work for her, or should I say she didn't try .

kimberley replied: ugh! you have every right in the world to be furious! DH's dad did the same thing with a piece of ham. i was livid. they are not allowed to babysit. people need to learn to butt out!

i like Karen's advice about the rice!

CantWait replied: You are definetly NOT being to sensitive. You need to tell these people who the parent is and tell them to butt out. It's your choice what she eats, not theirs.

two2luv replied:
LOL I love it! Great idea!!