The dreaded CIO
Boo&BugsMom wrote: AHHH! Aiden is almost 9 months old and still getting up at some point in the night to eat (sometimes 2am, sometimes 4am...SO unpredictable), when he really doesn't "need" to. I have no issues with CIO, our issue is that the boys share a room and it's not fair to have Tanner being awaken by Aiden's little fits. But, after last night (aweful night, up a lot), I am bound and determined to make this kid sleep through the night. So, I think we will have to make room in our bedroom for Tanner when he wakes up so he doesn't have to lay there and listen to it in his room, until Aiden realizes he needs to just SLEEP!  Wish us luck. 
luvmykids replied: Good luck, my kids are all super heavy sleepers and never woke up when one of the others did. I hope it goes smoothly and quickly, and you're all able to get a good solid nights sleep soon! 
eta: You have to tell us the fan story....Troy didn't want to toot his own horn 
Boo&BugsMom replied: Crazy thing is that Tanner is a really heavy sleeper, but for some reason his brother's cry is like nails on a chalkboard to him. You could vaccum in his room and he wouldn't wake up, but Aiden's cry...instantly awake!  It also doesn't help Aiden doesn't "fuss", he acts like the world is ending when he cries. Can you say super dramatic???  
mommy~to~a~bunch replied: He's kind of young for that, I think. Some babies still need the nutrition that middle of the night feeding provides.
bawoodsmall replied: Are you sure my Aiden isnt at your house???  They sound alike about the whole world is ending thing. Fiery spirit. Good luck girl. Can you use earplugs with Tanner so he doesnt hear him? Just a thought. I am sure after a week or so he will get used to you not feeding him.
skinkybaby replied: Anyway, good luck! Hopefully Tanner won't have to sleep in your bed for too many nights 
moped replied: Oh i feel for you!!!!! I am dreading the same thing in a few months - why not move Tanner for a few nights until he figures it out - maybe on the floor in your room for now.......just a thought!
Good luck!
I have been up all night every night since laila's arrival - it is killing me!!!!!
She hates her bassinette! But sure loves mommy by her side sleeping - UGH!!!
moped replied:
If I can say - he is not too young......he can sleep through the night at 9 months.
IMO
Boo&BugsMom replied: **Editted to remove comments from both parties.**
Kirstenmumof3 replied:
Wishing you the best of luck! It was hard when we did it with Emily, but after a couple of days she slept through the night, except for teething and stuff like that! I never had to do this with Spencer and Claudia, they were both really good sleepers, Emily was just really colicy until 6mths. I started around the same age as Aiden, around 9mths!
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Thanks Kirsten.
Yeah, he is certainly very different from Tanner. We had to let Tanner cry when we took his pacifier away, but other than that we barely had to let him cry a few times here and there. He was very predictable and almost weened himself from everything (except the paci! ). Aiden...um...not so much. He doesn't take a paci, but boy does he have a HUGE set of lungs...and a very big temper.
Boo&BugsMom replied: Oh, I should also add that it's not about getting him to sleep. He goes to sleep great on his own. Put him in his crib, he may fuss for a bit, and then he's out like a light. That I am thankful for!  It's him getting up sometimes multiple times a night yet when he doesn't need to. How do I know he doesn't need to? Well, because he doesnt always eat, he dinks around with his bottle, plus he sometimes DOES sleep ALL night. Like I said, the child is so unpredictable at night. I don't even think he knows what he wants. The other night he slept straight from 7pm-7am. The next night he woke up at midnight and 4 am. So, I know he is fine when he doesn't get up. It's the matter of it becoming a consistant thing now. AHHHHH!!! That to me tells me he needs more consistancy, like any child, because when he doesn't have that consistant sleep at night he is a BEAR the next morning. 
I think we will be starting this tonight being that Tanner is off of school til next week. At least now he doesn't have to get up for school which will help.  \
Thanks again gals. I don't "like" to let him CIO, what parent really does? But I think at this point it is becoming necessary.
ETA: the earplugs are a GREAT idea!!!  Thanks! We also have a little blue play couch of Tanner's that I think we may use for a bit for him in our room. Maybe that will help.
Hillbilly Housewife replied: I'm done with the edits.
There's a REPORT button on the post... don't step up and call ppl out. That's part of what we're here for. You're just adding fuel to the fire when you keep it going. 
Boo&BugsMom replied: Thanks Rocky. 
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Fan story? 
I sleep with a fan on because it drowns out his snoring. That's all I can think of. I may be missing something. What did he say???
boyohboyohboy replied: jennie i am so glad you posted this right now. i am stuck in the same boat.
we never did CIO with jake due to his issues, but andrew is fine and needs to sleep.
ok i need him to sleep.
he is getting up any where from 1-3 hours and still eating 4 ounces at a time. now he is only 4 months old, but shouldnt he be sleeping longer now?
we were doing the swaddler and i think he wasnt able to move around and expel gas so he was getting a belly ache so we switched that out to a sleep sack now, and he did better last night but still gets up at least every three hours.now since jake is still up at least twice a night that means i havent slept in a long long time, and its making me sick.
so now i have three kids that i want to sleep..but jake and the baby are in the same room and calebs is next to theirs.
so you think make the other two sleep with us?
i am afraid we wont get jake back out, we just got him into his room as it is..and we are just now getting him to go sleep in there awake and stay in his bed. i hate to mess with that..
good luck to you.
do you think it bothers tanner when aiden crys? like the big brother instinct kicks in? thats what i think happens with caleb. he gets upset when the little ones cry.
TheOaf66 replied:
the fan story from family Christmas....the story of your great hubby and walmart...ring any bells!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
TheOaf66 replied:
no, Tanner is upset that he can't sleep (like his mommy)
lovemy2 replied: I agree with you Jennie - he is definately old enough to CIO and it is hard when they have to share a room but believe me you are doing the best thing NOW - my girlfriend has an almost FOUR year old whose bed is now in her bedroom cause the child WILL not sleep through the nite without being either in bed with her or in her room or her in his room- it is a nightmare but she caused it IMO - my friends call me a sleep nazi but my kids sleep good at nite and wake up happy in the AM - it is very important and especially for Tanner - it has to be hard on him being woken in the nite and then having to go to school  Aiden will get the hang of it -
Just a thought though - does he have a blankie or something like that that may comfort him at nite when he wakes up?
TheOaf66 replied:
nope, there is no comforting him...he is PO and that is all there is to it
PrairieMom replied:
OMG I was reading though this thread and thinking " for a CIO thread, things are really civil in here." I didn't realize it was because it was being "cleaned up" ROTFL
lovemy2 replied:
Me too - I was just sorry I got on the thread to late to see it all unfold - it is usually a REALLY hot topic
Boo&BugsMom replied:
He does sleep with a blankie, which he likes, but when he's mad there is no soothing him. He's PO'd and that's that! He is my hot head.
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Yeah I was all over those edits like a fat kid on cake.
Cece00 replied: I'm surprised you didnt CIO before now....I wouldve...I do NOT function well with no/little sleep....so obviously I think you are AOK @ 9 months to try CIO.
Jack acts SUPER dramatic when he cries too...I mean REALLY. The smallest thing is made into the biggest thing with him
Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'm not sure, but whenever Aiden cries Tanner hates it and will do anything to get him to stop. It's cute really, but it's like he has no patience for his crying, so I dunno.
Boo&BugsMom replied:
I know, I am actually surprised myself too, but I think being that they share a room stopped me from doing it sooner, esp now that Tanner started school. We did start CIO a long time ago when putting him down to sleep. But now, we need to instill it in the middle of the night too. Hopefully he will get the hint soon enough. Tonight is the night. The blue couch is in our room waiting for Tanner as I type. We had to clear a few things up though. Tanner thought he got to go to sleep right away in our room. He was also a bit dissapointed that he had to wait until later to come on in and that he couldn't have OUR bed.
boyohboyohboy replied:
I think its due to lack of sleep on my part, but that last "fat kid on cake" has me cracking up!
bawoodsmall replied:
You do have my Aiden. I feel your pain. I still have to let Aiden CIO in almost every aspect. In my case if I picked him up and loved him and stuff he would be fine(maybe, he wasnt a touchy feely kinda boy) but the second I lay him back down its on. If you want to sleep you are gonna have to let him CIO imo. You can do it.
Boo&BugsMom replied: Well, first night wasn't too terrible. He woke up about 4:15am, cried for about 20 mintues. Then he stopped for about 10 minutes and dinked around for a bit, then cried again until about 5am but not even horrible hard crying, just your basic crying. Tanner came into our room and asked "is it the middle of the night yet?". Hum...I think he was looking forward to camping out in our room. Aiden woke up this morning at about 6:45 and was PO'd and hungry. So, gave him a bottle, sucked it down, and he was all good. Onto night two!!! 
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
lol
that's one of my favorite things to say!
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Awesome!
Boo&BugsMom replied: Well since starting this we have gotten much better! Last night Aiden slept through the night, the night before he woke up at 11pm, cried, then went back to sleep and slept the rest of the night. I wont stand up and cheer yet though until this is a regular occurance. He is so unpredictable I can't tell yet if this is the start of a great new trend, or if he's just being Aiden and keeping us guessing.
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