The wedding draws near and - I'm gonna loose it! vent fest!!!

luvbug00 wrote: So Brads cousins and grandmother were sent an ivitation to come to the wedding. they live in mossuri, the family rarely talks, and so we never expected them to come ( concidering they haven't left their homes in ohhh 20 years. litterly ) and we didn't expect a gift either becuase they are family and gifts aren't everything anyway. So anyhoo well they have decided to come. 4 adults i think and 6 kids. WAIT!! didn't i post earlier i didn't invite kids?? yes, yes I think i did. Well 6 bloody kids are comming and they are ALL under the age of 5!!!!!!!!!!! noe i have to stress out on how to keep those little ones away form the ceramony, I can suffer threw the reception I hope. ( on site babysitter here i come!) Oh then my bridal shower is a compleate mess! my "friend" daviana is thowring it the invitaions haven't gone out and it's next saterday. my really good friend Karla can't come now because of the late notice and that is also the weekend kim moves in and then everyone is annoyed with Daviana. might i add i didn't even want a shower. I figured it would be too much for her with school ( she's a teacher ) and all but she insisted and now everyone has been ticked off by her at some point of or another the tention will be soo thick. i would like to welcome you all to my Heck!

thanks for lending your ears.

cameragirl21 replied: Nadia, I work with brides all the time and these kinds of things are sooo common, especially toward the end of the wedding.
As to your shower, tell Daviana that if she wants to have it next Saturday then she needs to email or call invitations in addition to sending them via snail mail because there is no point in going through all that work if no one will show up due to her late invites. I've thrown showers before and it IS a lot of work so she needs to make sure she let's people know in time for them to be able to come.
As for the kids, if you didn't invite kids then you call these people and tell them that you love their kids but you regret to tell them that there will be no kids at your wedding.
And try to relax, a wedding is supposed to be a happy occasion....

PrairieMom replied:
yup. I agree. Ask them to find their own baby sitter.


How long until this wedding? its comming up soon isn't it?

ashtonsmama replied:


Good luck Nadia, you're reminding me of myself!


You'll be fine!

luvbug00 replied:

well they know noone here and can't afford a sitter. so I'm stuck.

A&A'smommy replied: ahh yes the fun part!!! I hope you get everything goes smoothly for you!!

cameragirl21 replied: Nadia, I certainly don't mean to encourage you to pick fights with family members but bear in mind that it is YOUR wedding and you shouldn't have to feel "stuck" with something that you don't want. No one should force their kids or anything else on your wedding because of their financial circumstances. If you don't want kids at your wedding then that is your right and ALL your guests should abide by it, family or not.

luvbug00 replied: i agree Jennifer and if this were 6 months ago i'd have told them. But it's soo close i just don't have the fight anymore. plus like i said i didn't even expect them to come. there are going to be 2 cars full of people.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Good luck with it all!! Just try to focus on the good part...you are getting married and soon the stress will all be over!!

PrairieMom replied: IMO, it is incredably rude of someone to bring children when they aren't invited. As parents they should figure out what to do with them, it is not your responsibility, but i totally understand that you are sick of fighting. This too shall pass. the big day will be here and done before you know it.

MoonMama replied: Hang in there sweetie.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Nadia, do you have a Maid of Honor?

Have her call your family members to tell them that "she" noticed they were bringing their kids, and that she thought it best to call them to let them know that since they must have missed it in the invitation, there were to be no kids attending the wedding, it was adults only, and that she thought it best to let them know right away, so that they had plenty of time to make arrangements for their children.

I know what you mean about not having it in you to fight...does your reception hall have an area that the children could go to? Then you can hire a sitter for the evening, supply a couple games, some crasyons etc and lock'em up!

ps - what are you doing with Mya? Maybe the other kids can be with her?

luvbug00 replied:

Mya will be with Brad and me. she is in the ceramony and stuff. like I said all the other kids are 4 and under so they have no idea how important it is to be quiet and such.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I suggest that you "strongly hint" to your MOH that she'll be the one to watch the kids. Tell her something like - I'm SOOO HAPPY that yo're my maid of honor..nobody else would make the sacrifice to stay in the back to keep the kids ocupied... and two things will happen... she'll either a) back down from MOH, or b ), be the one to watch the kids.

Either scenario, you win.

What time is your reception? I thought you nentionned later in the evening... cuz you know, 4 year old get "tired" right around 7pm. Maybe rent a hotel room and send your MOH there with the kids and some blankies for nappy-time?

luvbug00 replied: I love the way you think Rocky!

pur reception starts and ends rather early actully. starts at 5 is over by 9:30.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
how did this happen, its no fun having a MOH you cant count on let alone dont like.

I do like Rocky's idea

My2Beauties replied: OMG Nadia this sounds just like my MOH. I had to have another girl actually buy the invitations and hand them to her - physically hand them to her and she still never sent them out. Luckily I had already talked to everyone and told them the dates, they got their invitations literally like 2-3 days before the bacholoretty party, then she didn't even throw my shower, someone else had to. She was heavy into drugs and was one of my lifelong friends but at the time she was at a really low point I was worried about her but she was ruining everything. She was late to all the bridesmaids things, trying on dresses, paying on her dress, picking her dress up, her shoes, having them dyed, I mean it was a total mess. She was so doped up on the night of my bacholorette party that her mom basically threw anyways (she brought her mom and her mom supplied all the liquor, made the drinks, made up the games, got the prizes, got everything together and helped her send out the late late late invitations, she was really late because she went to the tanning bed before the party and fell asleep in it for over an hour, can you believe the people never even came and got her? I mean the bed turned off in 20 minutes, but she stayed in there snoozing. Then....that very night she picked a ridiculously stupid fight with my cousin (a fist fight) and they both went to jail! So believe me honey, I feeeeeeel your pain and if you ever need anything or just want to vent PM me. All in all though, at the end of it, I look back at "some" of those things and laugh and my wedding was wonderful! Yours will be too.

kimberley replied: ugh, sorry things are so nutty hun. i love Rocky's idea for your MOH
hope things work out.

holley79 replied: I am so sorry sweetie.