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Mommy2Isabella wrote: Sal and I have decided that this is going to be our last pregnancy. We knew that from the get go.

Seeing as I have health issues, PCOS which makes things very painful for me at times, and a few other things. We have talked about me getting my tubes tied after the baby(ies) are born.

I know I am young, but we have talked about this, and this is what we feel would be best for my health as well, as my body.

I was just wondering if anyone has had it done after having a baby, and if they cut you open to do it or it is laser nowadays?

Thanks for your Help and Input!

boyohboyohboy replied: Because you are so young some dr's might not do it..have you considered another form of birth control maybe just for a few years in case you would change your mind?
like one of the ones that they can insert and leave in for 5 yrs or so, and then decide?
I havent asked about a tubal yet, but thats our intention too, so i am interested in this thread. if we do not get a c section i wondered if you had to go back at a later date to get fixed?

Mommyof3 replied: I had my tubes tied and cut after having Caroline because I had a friend that got pregnant after having her tubes just tied.
I was just going to say to really investigate the birth control that they leave in you (isn't that called an IUD?). I saw something on the news once about a woman who was told she couldn't concieve because having used that kind of birth control. Also, I used the patch and got soooooo sick on it every day. Just an FYI...

PrairieMom replied: I say make Sal do it. you have been through enough. tongue.gif

Mommy2Isabella replied: We've discussed him doing it. However the option for me to do it, leaves me without being in unnecessary pain . I am going to look into a little more just wondering if any other women have had it done!!

moped replied: A freind of mine had it done when she gave birth to her last child and said it was a big mistake for her to do it and not him - I say Sal goes for sure! Why do you thinkit leaves you without unnecessary pain?

luvmykids replied: I had it done the day after Macie arrived. The only bad part was not being able to eat after delivery because I was scheduled for surgery shortly after....I only had a tiny incision, you can't even see it, and they cut and cauterized the end of each tube. The recovery wasn't bad, I was sore for a day or two but nothing I couldn't handle.

lovemy2 replied: Monica has it - it is surgery but an in and out and recovery is pretty easy - a bit sore but nothing major - but I am interested like Jen what makes you think having your tubes tied will help the PCOS? Tubals do nothing to change your hormones or anything like that - it just prevents the egg from making it to the uterus (hopefully tongue.gif ) - you still have a period, you still ovulate, etc. I am not sure that it will do anything for the PCOS....unless of course I am confused as to what PCOS really involves....

I was going to have it done when Dylan was born - I had a c-section it would have been easy but in the end I just couldn't do it - not that I want any more children but it was too permanent a decision for me to consent to at that moment when I knew how emotional I would be etc....and as strange as it sounds I was very afraid that if god forbid something were to happen to Dylan during birth or say shortly there after and I had had the tubal and couldn't have more children I would have been devastated...now I KNOW I could never have REPLACED him but I had it in my head at that point that we would be a family of 4 and I am not sure I would have been able to settle for being a family of 3 - not sure if that makes any sense at all....but in the end - all is well and DH is now officially elected to be snipped tongue.gif As Tara said - I have done enough wink.gif

My3LilMonkeys replied: Like someone else mentioned, you may have trouble finding a Dr. who will do it. We are looking into options since we've decided not to have any more and I'm talked to 3 doctors. All are *very* hesitant to consider doing a tubal or vasectomy because of our ages (we're both 24).

mummy2girls replied:
because you are so young the doc may not even do it. because they may say you may change your nimd later on down the line. after i had Jordan i was 23 and after i lost him i wanted my tubes tied and my doc refused because one i was single but also because i was young. and thank god he didnt because then there wouldnt be a jenna

Mommy2Isabella replied: WOW ...

Alright, well I am going to some more reading into this such as ages and such. My mother was telling me that they may not do it because of my age. But I have talked to a few people who are close in age with me that have had it done. So I am going to talk to the dr. about it as well. I know my insurance covers it under family planning, but it doesn't cover the insertable birth controls.

As well, I suppose Sal could always get it done, he will be 25 when the baby is born, or shortly after. So, I guess I am going to get my research on. And of course talk to my OB about it at the next appointment.

But, I know for SURE I do not want anymore after this. But I understand where you guys are suggesting that I look into other options because I am young, and I may change my mind. We will see, thanks for your input guys smile.gif

luvbug00 replied:

emlaugh.gif rolling_smile.gif i haven't heard somone talk like that in a while and it made me smile.

Mommy2Isabella replied: rolling_smile.gif Glad I could put a smile on your face smile.gif

lisar replied: With your age they should do it. After 2 kids they will normally do it no problem. After 1 they wont though. Just ask your dr its really up to him. I did have my tubes tied after Raygen and the did cut me open to do it. They cut my bellen button and a really little tiny hole on the side. But you cant even tell at all. And the pain wasnt that bad. I was completley fine within 3 days.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I will be a couple days from 21 at delivery if we go on time. If it turns out to be only one then i will be almost 21, If it turns out to be two I will be about a month or so from 21. I am hoping they will. I say I am already at the hospital I will be uncomfortable from child birth anyway, why not ...

gr33n3y3z replied:
I had 4 and they still didnt want to do it and at that point Ed and I were 31 and 30 blink.gif

ZandersMama replied: I am not allowed to conceive again. If I am to conceive my uterus will rupture before the baby is able to survive, and it could kill us both. And I still can't find anyone to tie my tubes. I use NUVARING right now, which has been great, regulated my periods and such, but I really want something more permenent.

The surgeon I went to see said that because I am only 24, she cannot do it no matter what my circumstances. growl.gif

Calimama replied:
They do the thirties here. I joked with my doctor after having Bella about having it done, but I had just turned 19 3 days before having her and he mentioned they don't do them until late 30's and on.

Jackie012007 replied: My friend Jill is married, 22 and has two kids - she ended up getting her tubes tied after MUCH arguing between her and her doctor, after the birth of her second. She has epilepsy and cannot use birth control because the hormones counteract her epilepsy meds, and when she is pregnant she can't use her meds. So because of her medical condition, she was able to convince them to do it. I say if this is what you want, fight for it and you are in a similar situation as her (medical condition, stable relationship etc) so you may get what you want. hug.gif

flirtycuddle replied: I was 22 when my second child was born and I fought my doctor tooth and nail to get a tubal but she refused. In AZ and NV they won't even consider it till u are 25 at least and that is only if u have 3 kids already. I had a very bad first delivery where and my daughter almost died and then pre-term labor from 24 weeks and on with my son. I was told if I got pregnant again either me or the baby wouldn't live and they wouldn't even do it. Just fight as hard as u can but have another plan for bc if u need to. I know the IUD can cause infertility for up to a yr after removing it.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I go back to the dr. in July. I am going to bring it up to them then, and see what they say.

Sal and I have discussed this A LOT. If I were to get pregnant again after this, it wouldn't be the end of anything. Just we don't want anymore kids after this. That has always been the plan.

Anyways, I appreciate all the input ! Thanks guys!!


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