Two babies? What do u think?

Militarymom22 wrote: How close is too close for a second baby? My daughter is turning 2 in feb and i have the second baby itch bad! everyone keeps telling me it's to soon i should wait a little longer. Well i'm in a rough spot because its a great possibility that my husband could be leaving next year for a year! and its like i would love for my kids to be 3 years apart, however he probably wouldn't be able to be here for the birth. I had to have a emergency c-section (put 2 sleep) with our first child so we were kinda robbed of the birthing expereince. also, i am so close to finishig school and i really don't know what to do. I if got pregnant soon our new baby would be a couple months old when he left. I do think it would be harder with a newborn by myself versus a baby thats like 3 months old. I just want opinions on what others would do in my situation. Thanks for listening.

sparkys2boys replied: I think that if you have thought it through and are ready.. go for it!!! It's you guys that have to make the decision!! My two nieces are two years apart and things are fine!! Good luck with a decision!!

mckayleesmom replied: Hi...Im Brianne and I am also a military mom. Although my husband is a recruiter...before we were stationed in Florida...he might as well have been deployed because we rarely saw him.....We also have 2 kids close in age....Mckaylee was 21 months when Russell was born.....Although Russell suprised us with how soon he decided to show up....I wouldn't change it. I also won't lie to you....There are good days and there are days when you want to pull your hair out. Russell will be 2 on the 14th of this month so we are entering our terrible twos... . Our 3 year old daughter also makes Dennis the Mennace look like a saint...

Don't let anyone else influence your decision on when the time is right for YOU and your HUSBAND to have another baby. Its your decision alone. In my opinion....and its my opinion and you don't have to take anything from it, but I can see where you are comming from in case your husband is deployed, but how hard is it going to be for him to leave another baby behind? Will he be able to handle missing all the 1sts? Also...you mentioned you were in school....finishing while pregnant or with a newborn plus another child is going to be alot harder...keep that in mind.

mckayleesmom replied: Just to add.....If you have a good support system right now....Keep in mind that you might not always have them around....If you get stationed somewhere else. Would you be able to finish school without them? Work (if you wanted to)?, Etc. I have no support system where we are stationed....Ive never had a babysitter for my kids and I don't even remember the last time I saw a movie in the theatre......There are alot of pro's and cons you might want to consider before makeing your final decision.

amymom replied: Good luck with whatever you decide. By no choice of mine My kids are 6 years apart so I have no good advice for you. My brother and his wife just had their third and their oldest turned 4 in September. They love having them all two years apart. I have a older brother who is 18 mos older than me, and the next one is 4 years younger, I have close relationships with both (and the other 3 siblings I have lol!) So whatever works for you and your family.

Calimama replied: Do what you think is best for your family. My DH almost missed her birth by a month, but luckily his battalion decided not to deploy him back to Iraq. I'm too much of a wuss to go through child birth without him.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Ultimately to have a second child is you and your hubby's decision, and no one should stand in the way and tell you otherwise of what to do. Keep hitting the ignore button in your mind when you have others in your life influencing this decision.

I will say this, my girls are exactly 17mos apart. I would not trade a day of them being close in age, for just now having a second child. Our oldest is 4, and while I wanted one more child, the more I think about it the more satisfied I am with having two children close in age. It works well for some, others it take adjustment but it still works somehow. When I was pregnant with an tot in tow, you would have thought I committed the biggest carnal sin by having two kids close together! The stares, and comments I got only made me stronger with the choice we (well I)made to get pregnant again.

It is your and your dh's choice-- Just my opinion.

ZandersMama replied: My 2 boys are 2 years and 4 days apart. Not the way we planned it but it is working well. It is very busy right now, my oldest is still very much a baby himself, but its okay . I think when they are older it will be better.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well my first two are 16 months apart, and my middle and thrid baby are 22 months apart.

I definitely think it's easier witha newborn than with a 3 month old... because a newborn doesn't really need much "attention", they pretty much eat sleep and poop. 3 months old, you have to really start entertaining them.... and I found it's harder. But, my older kid would be more than happy to entertain the baby.

Celestrina replied: Sounds like you have thought this through and that you are ready for it. Do you have any friends or family nearby that you can lean on? It helps if there is someone who you can spend time with so you're not going stir crazy with 2 little ones.

Militarymom22 replied: Thanks to everyone for their advice. Somehow I miscalculated my school and its gonna take me way longer than expected! So I think we are just gonna wing it and see what happends!

PrairieMom replied: Everyone fells differently on the subject, I think it depends on your patience level, what type of child you have, and your life style. Either way has its pros and cons.
For me, anything closer than 3 years apart is TOOOOOO CLOSE!!!!!! AUGH!!!!!! I have a 3 year old and a 6 month old. and my 3 year old is really a handfull. When I was making my decision I thought about things like having 2 in diapers, and daily activities, like gorcery shopping. I wanted to have my oldest be big enough to walk next to the cart so the baby can ride in it.