UNBELIEVABLE!

MyLuvBugs wrote: My FIL doesn't even know when his granddaughters birthdays are!!! WTH!?!?!?!?! I can't even count how many times we've told him, and he still is completely oblivious that Lorelei's b-day is next weekend!

This is the conversation that DH just had with him:

DH: Hi
FIL: Oh Hi! It's your father.
DH: Yes???
FIL: So. I think it would be best if you came back out to Phoenix the 7th thru the 12th.
DH: I can't. I have to be here on the 9th & 10th and on the 12th.
FIL: Oh!?! Do you have plans or something?
DH: Ah, yeah. It's Lorelei's birthday and then she has a dr.'s appt on the 12th.
FIL: Oh? Right Right....ok....well, I guess the 4th through the 9th will have to do then.
DH: No. I have to be back BEFORE the 9th.
FIL: Well, whens her b-day? Do you have plans for the whole weekend?
DH: Her birthday is the 10th, and Yes we have plans for the whole weekend. And I have to be back before the 9th.
FIL: Well, I'll see what I can do then I suppose.


I know I've told him several times. I know DH and my MIL have told him several times and it's written on 3 calendars at the inlaws home. So WTH?!?!? Am I wrong in thinking it strange that a GRANDFATHER should remember his grandchildren's birthdays? Especially since she's only 2!!

UGH......I'm trying so hard to remain calm and patient and understanding when it comes to this IDIOT of a man but he makes it so difficult. I told DH that when we move, which will be VERY much closer to the inlaws , that I am not to be held reasponsible for what I might say to his dad. UGH....I just know one of these days I'm just going to completely loose my temper with him.

skinkybaby replied: Neither of my grandpas know when my birthday is. They always had to be reminded. It didn't hurt my feelings. I couldn't remember what day their birthdays were on either.

Calimama replied: I'm sorry hun. If it makes you feel better our family still spells Bella's name wrong.

gr33n3y3z replied: sorry
But my father Inlaw is clueless also when it comes to Birthdays My mother Inlaw reminds him

Calimama replied:
Hehe that reminds me of me and my DH.

kimberley replied: i know it feels upsetting but try not to let it get to you. my own mother misses the kids' b-day most of the time and even forgot MINE this year. i know that doesn't mean she doesn't love me, just that she can be a bit spacy with dates. maybe a simple reminder the week before would help him remember.

go yell in some pillows, it will make you feel better.

coasterqueen replied: I know it can be hurtful, but I have to say that my parents nor my IL's remember when the girls birthdays are. My father just asked the other day "when's Megan's birthday again?" and blabbed off a date he thought it was that it clearly was way off base. Just chuck it up to old age? Some people are just not good with dates.

TheOaf66 replied: not that I am defending it but he is a guy and that is why we have calenders and wives to tell us when b-days etc are or no one would get a gift or card ever.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Erika, I understand the feeling...but like others said, it's pretty normal. So you're not alone. My FIL doesn't remember ANYONE'S birthday! DH has to call and remind him. My dad probably wouldn't know either if he didn't have my mom to remind him. And DH doesn't know my nieces birthdays or really anyone in our family but mine and the kids. I forget birthdays too!

Maybe set your FIL up with one of those Birthday Alarm email things...I have it and it helps a ton!

MyLuvBugs replied:

Yelling at Dh helped a little. Maybe my pillows will help take the rest of my frustration away. HA!

MyLuvBugs replied: Yeah.....you're right.... And I'm not saying I'm perfect. I just forgot my own fathers b-day a couple days ago. So, now I have to make him cookies and get a really funny card to make up for it. LOL

But I guess it just makes me mad b/c if we miss his (the FIL's) b-day (like this year b/c we had Lexi so close to his b-day) then he gets all pissy and defensive and tries to make us feel guilty that we forgot his b-day....yet he can't remember anyones....he doesn't even know how old DH is and gets him and his sisters b-days backwards usually..... Thank God my MIL has the memory of an elephant!

And then there's my dad...who's 71 years old now and he has this little black book filled with EVERYONE's b-days. I mean this man has his kids, inlaws, MY inlaws, aunts, uncles, and cousin's in this book....and he's got over 60 first cousins! But he feels it's important to send everyone a card and acknowledge them on their b-days. He's so funny.

Calimama replied:
Awww that's sweet. Maybe I should write them down as well..

PrairieMom replied: My FATHER doesn't know when my birthday is.

kit_kats_mom replied: Would it help you to know that my FIL doesnt' even remember the girls names? No kidding.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I know it can be frustrating - my mother can NEVER remember my younger sister's birthday - she always swears it's the 10th. No, mom, it's the 8th. Mine's the 10th (different months). A few times we've had to revert to the birth certificate because she refuses to believe me.

kristy-n-chad replied:
Ditto! My younger brother iss the 8th, and I'm the 10th. 8-10 and 9-8.

quinnandjacob'smom replied: I guess I'm lucky b/c all the grandparents remember both boys' birthdays. Sorry your fil can't keep it in his head...it's got to be frustrating.

McKenna replied:
He took the words right out of my mouth.

We're men, you're lucky if we remember our partners and own kids birthdays let alone grandkids (okay I dont have kids or grandkids yet but, only... 113 days to go till kiddie lol)