Um...how do I handle this one?

MoonMama wrote: DH's little sister Rylie (17) just showed up and our house in tears...her parents kicked her out and when we called to get the "real" story they simply told us she is and I quote "no daughter of ours any longer and she is your problem now". To make a long story short they do not approve of her boyfriend, whom we know and he is a great kid. They disapprove of him because he resently appeared in a play or something like that (in NY) semi-nude (he is 18 and his uh "area" WAS covered). They are both great kids...straight A students (both high school), nether have been in trouble, both have received honors and awards academically, through sports, community work, etc., just all around good kids. Have I ever metioned I can't stand most of his family!
I guess his parents and sister have been at it over this boy for the last week. Rylie (DH's sister) agreed to stop seeing him (Julian) although it really broke her heart (they have been dating for 4 years). Well I guess my MIL went onto Rylie's computer today and found out they have been emailing back and forth. I read the emails and they both agreed she needed to respect her parents and not seeing each other right now as their request was the best thing. But they planned when she turned 18 (in May) to move in together. Everything checks out story wise having talked to her, Julian and my IL's.
AHHHHHHHHHH what do DH and I do now. Alec is so angry with his parents over this and to me it seems like they WAY over reacted. But the point is what do we do with and about Rylie?

ETA: I wanted to mention that DH and I saw a video of the play Julian had a part in and while I wouldn't have the guts to do something like that, we didn't find it distasteful by any means.

amymom replied: Gosh I do not know the answer to your question. But like you need extra stress right now?!?!? Just wanted to send some hugs your way. I know you will make a smart decision.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I agree with Anne-Marie. Many hugs. From the way you have spoken of her, she seems like a respectful young adult who chose to do as her parents wanted and was just caught in the middle of it.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: If she's as respectful as you claim she is, will she really be much of a problem if she stays at your place? Can you stand her for a ltitle while? I'd take her in.

mom2my2cuties replied:
This is what I was thinking too.

C&K*s Mommie replied:
Does she still plan to move in with him after she turns 18? When will she be 18, and out of high school?

stella6979 replied:
I agree. However, if she's going to live with you, I'd suggest she at least get a part time job to help pay for the things she will need.

CantWait replied:
Same here. And if her plans to move in with him when she's 18 still hold true, it'll only be for a couple months. As for charging her, I don't think it's fair in this situation, she's family, and she didn't RUN away, she got kicked out. She's not yet 18, so I think as long as she continues to stay in school and do good that should count for something and be her main concern.

ETA: Ron and I took his little sister in for a month a few years ago , she was around 16 at the time I think and she's a great kid, it was no problem. We did charge her for anything (she is family) she did take responsibility for watching Robbie at the time though when I worked.

A&A'smommy replied:
I agree!!!

MoonMama replied: Thanks everyone...we had a long night of talking and such. And we agreed that as long as stays in school, continues to get good grades and does her share to help around the house (I mean chore, NOT any money) she may stay. We also told her we would really prefer she stays with us and not move in with her b/f until she graduates. We will see...

Kaitlin'smom replied: how awful to be kicked out, sounds like she is a great kid and I really dont understand what the parents problme with the BF are. Sad and I am glad she has you to turn to.

Calimama replied: Wow, my parents didn't always like the guys I dated but they never kicked me out! You're such a sweetheart for letting her stay with you!

DansMom replied: Take Rylie in if you're able and give her all the encouragement and support she deserves. Her parents don't accept her choices---if she's committed to her choices, and they sound like reasonable ones to me, then she needs to be emancipated and learn to be self-sufficient sooner than most teens do.

Danalana replied: That's really awesome that yall are going to let her stay