Update

porksdad wrote: Not sure if many of you remember the problem that first brought me to this forum, but I posted up the news that my wife and I were taking her daughter to live with us after she had been raised very much by my wifes mother, up to the age of 2 and was very clingy to her grandmother, had no routines, was difficult, prone to screaming fits and shy around people, spoilt and demanding.

WELL

I am happy to report that progress has been startling, Kathleen has settled almost without incident into her new home with mummy and daddy, there are still some issues with mama (grandmother) but they are being sorted through. guess it shows that the bond made between a newborn baby and it's mother never really goes away....

Thank you all so much for the advice you have given I think the setting up of routines was the big help- we quickly established a daily routine with mummy and daddy and whilst other family members come and go mummy and daddy are a constant--helped by the fact that neither of us currently has to go out to work - she is a very happy child and all signs of the tantrums she used to throw around have diminshed to a short sullen silence, followed quickly by a hug instigated by her The tantrums do re appear when her grandmother is with her but soon stop when mummy or daddy appear, not from fear I stress but simply because she quickly learnt that hugging daddy was a way way more effective method of getting her way hahahahaha a couple of timeouts sorted it as well lol- thanx for the advice on that

She now sleeps through the night, having her own bed, though has not progressed to her own room yet am not pushing that as it would mean buying another aircon unit and as we plan returning to UK in august seems a waste

She eats well, too well maybe haha, living up to her nick of porker, she plays well on her own and has learnt to say please and thank you, she responds well to to other children and has lost alot of her shyness/fear of new people which characterised her early time with us (was it only 4 months ago!!!)--

She has learnt that the baby monitor is a direct line to daddy and takes much pleasure in screaming into it just to see if I turn up and how quickly....

she lies happily in bed in the morning and waits for the first signs of life from daddy (I usually wake before my wife lol) before asking for play time, she is imaginative and funny, playing and copying what she sees ( such that one of the few tantrums she throws is when competing with mummy to scrub daddys back in the bath--one of our most enjoyable family together times), has a wonderful mixed language speaking part visayan (local dialect) part English- daddy's language, she will hear in one language and respond in the other giving us great hope that she will be able to grow up bilingual and at home with either side of her family.

We have first hints that she may be ready for potty training- advice i read here about just leaving the diaper off got us going there with the potty- though persuading her mother to congratulate her for the big wet poo in the potty is not so easy hahahaha

She is a massive fan of winnie the pooh--maybe because of daddys preference for buying all things pooh for her hahahah, but despite my best efforts to make her a fellow tigger fan she seems to have settled on piglet....

We really do now feel we are a family- we have such fun together and the love and bond between us is growing daily- now I just need to get her out of the bedroom so we can make a brother or a sister hahahah

I know this is long (and i could go on and on about how great she is) and I apologise for that--but I can't thank you all enough, when I came on this board my wife and I were in complete panic at the task ahead of us. I looked into many places and posted for advice- this was the only board that responded immediatly with helpful advice and words of support and comfort--THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH--

amynicole21 replied: I am so glad to hear that!! I can hear your happiness in your post, and that is wonderful Congrats to you, and keep us posted!!!

kit_kats_mom replied: I'm so happy to hear that you are all doing well and that she is adjusting. She sounds like a smart, happy kid.

Please stick around and keep updating us.

By the way, I am proof of the fact that one kid doesn't have to be out of the parents bedroom for a sibling to show up. Ya just gotta be creative. LOL

jem0622 replied: Great news! Thanks for sharing the update! Kids are so adaptable to their situations. And I'm glad that she is adapting. She is a cute little lady! BTW...did anyone tell you that the picture you included makes you look like a relative of Justin Timberlake? That is the first thing I thought when I saw that pic of you and your little girl.

coasterqueen replied: Oh that is WONDERFUL news!!! Thanks for updating us! Those pictures definately show the happiness you now have with your family.

Boys r us replied: Wow..sounds like total transformation!!!!! Congratulations all of your hardwork, love and patience have paid off!

porksdad replied:


LOL

Never saw it myself but it explains alot!!!- when I first met my wife I wondered why someone so beautiful was interested in me--Justin timberlake was her passion at the time hahahahahaha so now I know--She went off him when he treated Britney badly or something like that so guess I am on notice to behave hahahahah


thanks all I will certainly stay and check in when I can we still have alot to learn and new panics can crop up almost daily hahahahahaha--so trust me I will be begging help regularly

then I can speak at home as if I know what I am talking about

Kaitlin'smom replied: I am so glad sounds like your family is really progressing nicely. Thanks for updating us, and we hope to hear more from you.

and feel free to come and get help when ever needed....we all do and everone here is great, this is such a wonderful place

aspenblue1 replied: That is such wonderful news! Congrats and keeps us posted.

kimberley replied: your story is very heart warming! i am so happy that things are adjusting so well. you are a very good dad already! do keep us posted on how you are.

jcc64 replied: I have thought and wondered about you and your family. I am so very glad things are working out well for all of you. Your little girl is surely looking forward to a bright future with such an involved and devoted dad and mom. Glad you came back to let us know how things are going.

CantWait replied: What a great update. I'm so glad things are going so well for you guys.
Good Luck on making baby #2