Update on pg 14yo story

amynicole21 wrote: A few weeks ago we found out that DH's 14yo neice was 7 months pg. She's actually not his neice, but his cousin's daughter, but DH and his cousins were all raised in the same house like siblings. Anyway, it was a very scary thing for the whole family, and sad as well. I got some GREAT news today! DH's sister has asked if she can adopt the baby! I am thrilled beyond belief! They are still working out the logistics, but if this happens it would be the ideal situation. Not to mention that Sophia and Nora will have a new little cousin to play with

A&A'smommy replied: OH wow that would be SOO WONDERFUL and it would make are hard and sad situation much more joyful not to mention that she would be able to see her child grow up!! I hope it works out please keep us updated!!!

mckayleesmom replied: Thats great news....I hope everything works out.

Boys r us replied: What a big heart!!!! That's wonderful news Amy!

amymom replied: That would be great for all concerned.

My2Beauties replied: As long as that pleases all parties involved that is wonderful news, and what a big heart your DH's sister has!

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh Thats wonderful Amy!

jem0622 replied: I do hope that this works out. I have to caution you based on my experience. I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade...only give you my experience. My aunt and uncle (my mother's brother) have been married since the early 90s. Wonderful people and I love them to death. Well...when I found out I was pregnant they considered adopting and then decided against it because they felt it would cause a strain on the family. They had the foresight to see that it would be hard on me, hard on them, hard on the child. Unless everyone buys in and agrees that there is no talk on who is who...then you are okay. But it can truly confuse the child. Just something to chew on.

My aunt and uncle have no kids. They love their neices and nephews. Deep down I know my aunt wishes she were a mother, but it never happened. And sadly, she got crappy support from her docs about getting conception help b/c she was a plus-sized gal.

amynicole21 replied: Julie - yes, I've thought of that. Part of the reason that the family is so gung-ho on this is that the bmom really wants to be able to be a part of the baby's life for the long term. I don't see how that could be done unless the baby were to stay in the family. That said, I can see where it would be weird if the bmom decided she wanted to be mommy to the baby down the road. My SIL and BIL have been looking at adoption for several years, and now that the opportunity has presented itself, it sounds like it was meant to be. I think it is going to be a long, difficult road for everyone, but I still have hope that it will work out.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: That's really cool! I hope it all works out good.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Congrats to them! I hope everything works out ok.

ammommy replied: I hope that it works out both in the short term and long term for everyone. That's a good solution.

kimberley replied: thats great news! p&pt that it all works out

DansMom replied: That's very promising, Amy! I'm glad that the little child will stay in your family. Finding out you're adopted is upsetting. I'm just guessing, and everyone is different, but for me I think I'd rather find out that someone I know is my bmom than never find her at all. The difficulty will be for the adoptive parents, defining their own role in relation to the bmom. It does sound like it was meant to be.

gr33n3y3z replied: thats great news
I'm glad the baby is staying in the family