Update sorry its so late....

MM'sMama wrote: I met with DH today about 2pm and I took a friend with I had him far enough away so he couldn't hear but close enough if need be. I didn't cry at all YAY . It went fairly well we got a lot of things out in the open. Dh finally told me whats going on and everything. He has had a lot on his mind and doesn't know how to handle it all. Everything that has been going on in the world and watching friends anf family members marriages and relationships come to and end. He has a lot of friends who are dead beat fathers and just a whole series of events pushing a piling up till he had a MASSIVE break down.
He said hes been happy and loves me and the kids more than anything that we are his whole world. But he worries about me leaving him and taking the kids. He worries he failing and will forever fail as a husband, dad, and man. He said that he doesn't feel I talk to him about things as much as I used to and he feels pushed away. Which to some point is true we don't talk as much or how we used to.
We both need to open up more and take more time for us and that is true. He also said he feels like I'm unhappy and work to hard and don't get to do things I enjoy or ever get a break and that, that really hurts him to see.
He feels like he above all doesn't do enough for me or enough to show me he loves me. Which I have never felt and come on guys I have posted some of the wonderful things he does for me. He does plenty for me and I have never once doubted his love for me untill all this happened of course.
So all in all we have a lot of things to work through and need to be a lot more open to each other and take more time for us (him and I). We are going to take things slowly and he isn't going to move back home yet I am not ready for that. But my FIL is going tio come over every morning and night for the next week or so and DH and is going to come over and have breakfast with us every morning and dinner everynight. FIL will be there for both to make sure I feel safe and just in case.
So we will see what the next few weeks bring and work a lot on us. Thank you everyone for all of your love and support through everything I truly think that without you all I would have really lost it.

Whitney&Candace'sMommy replied: I'm glad thing's went good, and woo hoo for not crying

Thanks for the update, I've been wondering how you are...
good luck

MM'sMama replied: Thank you so much

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Karah, glad to hear the update. I thought about you lots yesterday. Good for you for not crying. I am not too sure I understand his reasoning (afraid you'll leave so he leaves first?), but I am proud of you for sticking to your guns and telling him how you are feeling. I sincerely hope that all works out for you. Best wishes and lots of hugs.

amymom replied: Thanks for the update. I hope all goes well in the future.

kimberley replied: oh honey, i am so glad to hear you talked. your DH is going thru exactly what mine did and i know that's not easy for either of you. i think talking and spending time together will really make a wonderful difference and your marriage will be that much stronger once you get past it all. PM if you ever need to vent or talk.

luvbug00 replied: Glad to hear you were both able to get some stuff off your chests. I hope things work out for you!! You've been in My thoughts and paryers!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: glad you talked, I thnk some councling would be good for the both of you, espically if your finding yourselves not talking as much. KNow really knowing the both of you but I am not sure I understand the reasoning either but as long as he is will to talk and work it out, I guess that is all that matters.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am glad to hear that things went o.k. It is good that you are going to take things slow. I really hope everything works out for the best!!!

Jamielou replied: Well i missed everything going on but i would like to say im sorry you are going through this and i hope everything works out for you both

My2Boyz replied: I am glad to hear things went well for you. I thought about you a lot yesterday and was hoping that you were doing okay. I was happy to see that you didn't cry and that you are going to take things slow. Keep us posted.

mckayleesmom replied: Glad everything went ok......I would definantly make him go see a mental health professional....he sounds like he is having some issues right now and maybe he can get some help with some of them...even if its just someone to talk to.

KingMom replied: Glad to hear that is all that it was! I thought about you a lot yesterday and last night, thanks for the update and keep us posted how things go over the next couple of weeks! Good luck!

kayla's mama replied: Glad to hear that the meeting went ok. I was worried about you Good Luck

redchief replied: I'm glad your meeting went well. I'm even happier that some of the conclusions drawn here (including my own) weren't the problem. It does seem as though he's got some serious self-image issues he needs to deal with. Sometimes, as men, we expect Superman and we're disappointed when we only get Clark Kent. He needs to realize that being a loving, supporting, confident Clark Kent is okay! I hope your continued contacts bring improvement in your relationship and hope for the future for both of you and your kids.

CantWait replied: oh hon, your post made me cry Just thinking about all the stuff dh and I went through last year, and now hopefully we're going to be buying a house next year. I'm so glad you guys were able to get to talk and get things in the open. I sure hope things work out for yas.

MM'sMama replied: OH you guys you are all so sweet I don't what I would do without you . You all really do feel like family to me and I can never ever thank you all enough .

Thank you so much for your kind words, encouragement and the very veyr muhc needed love, support and advice. I will continue to take things very slowly and like you guys said councling is very muhc in order and it is something he fully agreed too.

Ed thank you so much I definitely needed a guys point of view and what you said makes a lot of sence esp. because of what he was telling me thank you .

I will definitely keep everyone posted and I plan to be back on here and posting tonight (you just can't keep me away )

And Nadia honey you are so sweet thank you for that

Marie don't cry big hugs thank you

Hugs and many many thanks to everyone

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh yeah, I am so glad it all went so smoothly! He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders, but you are doing the right thing by being leary for now. I think that is great that you are going to allow him to be there for those two meals. I hope he apologized to you profusely for what pain and stress he has caused you. You deserve to be treated well!

MM'sMama replied:
Oh definitely he said he was so sorry for everything and then some and I made sure to make it very clear how hurt I was and very clear what the rules are for now. Thank you so much honey

A&A'smommy replied: OH HUN that is SOOOO wonderful to hear!!!! I hope things keep getting better for you guys!!

ions_momma replied: Im so glad to hear that it went well! I have been thinking about you since all of that happened! I hope everything gets better for you guys!!!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am really happy things went well! Sometimes we,as women,forget that men can feel the same insecurities we do! It can be easy for them to feel shut out of our worlds-we have our own communication with the kids that they sometimes aren't a part of and we are tired from our days too! It is hard to balance that mommy persona with the attentive wife we used to be! Lol! That being said way to stick to your guns and lay out the rules! Be open and honest and it sounds like you will end up with an even stronger relationship! And remember- The most beautiful flowers grown probably have a little BULL S#*% around their roots! (I just made that one up!LOL!) to you keep us posted!

MM'sMama replied:
Ok hon I really needed that laugh thank you that is to funny and WAY true lol.