Using my Mother's Day Gift as a bargaining tool:(

mummy2girls wrote: A while back Aron phoned me up and asked me what birthstone Jordan has.... And i told him June. And he left the convo as that and wouldnt tell me more. Well tonight he told me that he got me a mothers day ring and he put mine, Jenna and Jordans Stones in it. BUT this is where it gets bad.... He told me that he wants me to change Jennas middle name from Lynn to Chase. I dont want to for many reasons. One big reason is because Lynn is after me as that is what my middle name is. And the other small reason is because i dotn want to go through the crap of changign her name when it comes to her healthcare, child credit tax etc etc etc. So i said no. So now he says he wont give me the ring and is taking it back:( So now i dont get my ring... the most precious thing that he could give me because he is including Jordan:(

And i know he got me the ring because he asked for a ring i have already so he knows what size to put it at and i gave him the ring he gave me when he first started dateing:( The ring i was saving for jenna when she is older. So now he has both my rings:(

is this the most meanest thing ever anyone can do?

Brias3 replied: Aww, I'm sorry. I think that's ridiculous of him. Hopefully he'll come around and realize he's being a poop about something silly! And about the name changing, why does he care so much? Not only is she already a couple of years old and it will be a hassle but one typically doesn't even use their middle name that much to warrant the change being so important. to you!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG what an incredibly stupid and childish thing to do, and who has EVER heard of someone changing their childs middle name goodness... he is MEAN!!!!

holley79 replied: Oh I'm sorry Shelly. Maybe he'll realize that what he's doing is not right.

Nina J replied: Wow, I'm sorry. That's just cruel. I can't believe anyone would do something like that! The ring sounds very important to you, maybe you could get one made yourself?? You definatly deserve it, you've had a rough week, what with being so sick and now Aron is trying to blackmail you

ediep replied: I agree with everyone, what a mean thing to do.....who ever heared of changing a childs name....just tell him to call her jenna Chase if that makes him happy.....how strange!!!!!

Kittilicious replied: What is the reason behind changing the name? I just don't get it... its a middle name, which isn't used that often anyhow, but it's still important to YOU - that alone should mean alot to him.

The ring? My first thought was not a pretty one, but I know where he could stuff it! LOL I'd say go get it yourself, heck with it. If he's gonna play that game. Thats just cruel.

I'm not saying you should cave with him, but we couldn't decide on a middle name for our oldest, Taryn. I wanted Christian, he wanted Ann. Both of his sisters' middle name is Ann. (I also wanted it because my best friends' middle name is Ann, but I was stuck on Christian) In the end we did this... Taryn Christianann.

But you are right... changing everything legally is a pain in the butt. If this ever happens - make HIM do all the paperwork!

Kaitlin'smom replied: what a mean thing to do. and VERY childish. whats so important about chase anyway. My DH had his middle and last name changed when he was about 3 but onlybecasue he was addopted by MIL hasband at the time, he wanted his frist mane changed as well but she refused. I woudl demand your ring back and then mayeb find out where he had the other maid and if he takes it back se if you can do layaway.

Boys r us replied: Uhhh could you just never answer the phone or the door again when it is Aron?
He sounds like a complete moron! Changing a kid's name when they're already as old as Jenna? I've never heard of that.

AS for the ring..I wouldn't accept anything from this man..nothing. Surely a ring that you buy for yourself with your kid's birthstones in it will mean more to you than one Aron does?!?! You need to widdle him out of your life. Obviously he has to be in Jennas..but not yours..not to the degree that he can hold ANYTHING over your head! Don't let him have that much control over you!

My3LilMonkeys replied: Just an idea - and it will only work if Jenna is agreeable. But you could tell him that not only do you not want to change her middle name for all these reasons, but Jenna doesn't want it changed either. Maybe that would be enough to get him to leave you alone on the issue.

I'm sorry he's being such a butt.

kimberley replied:
ITA!!! i am sorry he is being his usual idiot self.. but the question that keeps arising in my head is why do you even deal with the guy?? he did this with a video camera and something else if i am not mistaken, right?

my ex and i don't expect gifts from each other and generally don't deal with each other unless it is absolutely necessary and child related and we live in the same house! i just disagree with so many things about him that if i involved myself into his life, i would make myself batty from the plethora of idiotic things he will do or say. i certainly wouldn't want a ring that would mean so much coming from a jerk like that. sorry. just my opinion.

mckayleesmom replied: What planet did he fall from? He sounds like a complete jerkazoid. .

amymom replied:
YES!!! Just plain mean!

And I agree with everyone else. Please get him out of your life. Keep him in Jenna's but stop having him insinuate himself into your life. He does this stuff (I wanted to say &%$&@@) all the time. Just stop the insanity. He is a mean man!!!!!!



Sorry if I am too harsh but I don't go for mean!!

ilovemybaby replied: That's horrible and you can tell him I said that.
I don't think you should change Jennas middle name. And why Chase? It's a boys name. I hope he comes to his senses and gives you the ring anyway.