Vent obout so to be SIL - REALLY long (SO MAD)

MM'sMama wrote: DH's brother is getting married and after seeing mine and DH's wedding inventions. She has decides she wants basicly the same thing. Fine I have no problem with that at all. We had a beach themed wedding and we made our inventions. They had hand made palm trees on them. With ours though we had one punch that punched out the tree trunks and another that did the leafs with the little strip cuts on the sides (KWIM?).
Well nether my mom nor DH's can find the punched and we can't fine them at any stores no idea where they are. So I said it will be a LOT of work but I guess we can trace the leafs from mine and cut em out and do this bunches of side cuts on each leaf. Some how she look at as I would do them . NO I said WE as in I would help. I told her this all like 3 weeks ago then herd nothing of it again. So soon to be SIL called me friday and asked me if she could drop off the stuff for the inventions and everything and if I would have them done ASAP! WHAT !! Bianca (her name) I said I would HELP HELP get it HELP not make them for you!!! Only I said it a little bit nicer however not much nicer . So then later that after noon I get a call from BIL saying how she was really upset and I made her cry and everything well of course I felt really really badly . Then he asked me if I would please please do the inventions. I said very nicely you know sweetie I have a new baby and a 4 yr old and DH is working this weekend I really can't do them alone but I will be more then happy to HELP.
He said ok I'll talk to her and see what she wants to do . I get a call back maybe 15 mins later and he says Karah I understand where your coming from but Bianca really is not very crafty and has no patience for that kind of stuff. Well sucks to be her huh she should have thought about that before she decided making the inventions was a good idea (her parents are loaded trust me buying them would have made no diff. they have said they set aside $150,000 for her wedding like it was nothign geez!!). So after a long convo and making me feel bad I finally said ok I'll tell you what. How many people are coming? He tells me 45-50. I'm thinking ok we will need 350 palm leafs and 100 trunks that will suck but is doable. So I said ok I will to the palm tree them selves but that is it nothing else and she and her mom have to come over and help with the kids both days. He said ok thank you so much your a life saver thank you thank you. So friday night (around 11 I must add) she drops off the stuff and says she will be here saturday at 9am if that is ok and that her mom and sister will both come to help with the kids and such and that they will help me with the cutouts.
Ok I never thought too look in these bags really untill saturday morning. So saturday morning I start going through everything and I'm thinking WTF there is a ton of stuff here and I say to myself ok she wants us to have plenty of stuff good thinking and then I realize its everything for the inventions. I'm still thinking no biggie her sister and mom must be going to assemble them as I make the trees.
So I have DH put the extender on the tabel before he leaves. Ok not to mention she got really really dark colors (mine were done in lgiht colors) and the trees look terrible with the rest of the inventions.
If your still reading this thank you.
So 9am rolls around I herd nothing from her and she is not here then 10am so I call her and she says she is running late and will be here as soon as she can and to please start without her. So I was like ok fine no problem Brice was watching a movie and Caroline was asleep.
So I start making them and then Caroline started crying and I look at the clock and its almost noon. I feed Caroline and call her she tells me she had to take her sister to the ER and her mom should be here anytime and she will be here as soon as she can. Hmmm . So I put Caroline in her swing and set Brice up with an art project.
So after a long time of doing these dang trees and 2 feedings later and some time with the kids and lunch and a snack NO ONE IS HERE STILL. I call her phone is off so I call MIL and ask if she has her moms number and tell her whats going on. She was really ticked and said she would call her mom right away. She calls me back her phone is off too ! At this point I am way past the point of mad. So I stopped making the trees and was looking through the rest of the stuff she brought over. And I find a guest list of 150 people WHAT !!!!!!! Ok now I am so pissed I can't see right. I called DH crying and told him what was going on and everything he is so MAD and is swearing at this point.
So turns out she still wanted me to make the inventions ALL 150 OF THEM MYSELF!!!!! Print all the inventions on my home printer (hello give me ink NOW women) and so forth.
So to make the rest of this story short. With my MIL helping with the kids except when I was feeding Caroline (MIL can't do a lot of craft do to really bad wrists). I.....ME!!! made 150 inventions. I traced and cutout 1050 teeny tiny leafs (each invention gets 7 tiny leafs) and 300 tiny freaking tree trunks!!!!
But I took the info for the inventions and the paper and envelops and had them printed up somewhere. After I told the nice people there what was going on they were very willing to print them up for me right then and there.
But they are all sent out now all frigin 150 of them!!!! And I have receipts for EVERYTHING including my time!!! Now I know that may be petty but to freaking bad you pull that on me your gonna get it right back. Oh and BTW her sister was never in the ER and her nor here mom knew anything about this!!

luvbug00 replied: OK I would charge her I'd just hand her parents the receipt. How rude of them I'd make sure i put made by Karah in them. SO everyone would compliment you!! That irritates me beyond words and you have a new baby and everything WHAT GAUL!!!

PrairieMom replied: supper sweet! what a wonderful way to begin a realtionship! you must be incredably patient to have put up with all that and actually done the incitations! I woudn't have even started the invitations until your help arrived. no wait, I don't think I would have done it at all! look on the bright side. At least you are the nice one in the relationship.

mckayleesmom replied: Oh...you are nicer then me...I would have set the bag outside my door and called her husband and told him where his fiancee could pick up her invitations...she sounds lazy and like she just wants everyone to do it for her. Nope...

luvbug00 replied: Great Idea Brianne!!

MM'sMama replied: Thank you everyone I don't know why I did them I think because I remeber the stress or my wedding planning and I don't want BIL on my butt forever about it KWIM. But now I really wish I had not done them. MIL is the one who said I should charge them. I feel a little badly but I also want her to realize what I did for her But I have no idea what to charge or if I really should?

luvbug00 replied: Yeah you should. It was your time that should've been spent with your kids and they had to entertain themselves. ( poor dears) I think she should pay out the "quackers" ( insert bum word)

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Ok - you know what?

You`re WAYYY nicer than me.

If her parents can put aside 150,000$ for a wedding.... they can afford to pay the receipts for what you paid for....and they can pay for your time.

I wouldn`t charge them under 200$ for your time. You`re not a maid - you shouldn`t have stuff dumped on you. Not that a maid should either... but you get my point.

Jamielou replied: YOU ARE A LOT NICER THAN I AM I WOULDNT HAVE DONE IT AND SINCE YOU ARE NICE AND DID THEM FOR HER I WOULD DEF. TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU CHARGE FOR THEM IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU REALLY WORKED HARD ON THEM

3xsthefun replied: That is very rude of her. You are alot nicer then I would have been.

I think you should charge her for your time.

A&A'smommy replied: OMG I would be SO upset too, it really wasn't right for her to have you do all of that by yourself PLUS take care of two little people!!!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh my goodness... that was very rude of her to take advantage of you like that! I probably would have done them too it's so hard to just keep saying no when people won't quit. I hope she doesn't give you any trouble when you show her her bill!

My2Boyz replied: You are way nicer than me, I wouldn't have started until help got there. I would charge for your time at least $200 if not more. They would have paid a heck of a lot of me for handmade invitations like that.

moxee24 replied: I would DEFINITLY charge for your time!!! That would make me so mad! I did the flowers for my aunts wedding and she paid me (gas and time-had to travel 300 miles to do them). It may be family(or soon to be) BUT that doesnt mean they can take advantage of you. Talk to them before the wedding about it and if they say they arent going to pay you for your time, I would let it go and say OK then that was your wedding present from me, then see how they feel about it. LOTTSA hugs for you!

Our Lil' Family replied: OMG, you are tooo nice! I would have stopped right when I realized no one would show up and left them the way they were. I cannot believe she did that to you....and to lie about her sister being in the ER!!!!!!!!????????? WOW, that's low.

I'd definitely charge them out the rear for your time, and your MIL's time for watching the kids while you did her invitations. Like someone else said, if they had $150K to put towards this wedding, $200-$300 to you for your hard and under-appreciated work is a drop in the bucket to them.

You are a GREAT SIL!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I would have ordered them and charged them to her. That is inexcusable. How rude!!

msoulz replied: OMG, I am totally in shock that someone could be so awful. First, to expect ANYTHING at all from you, no, let me rephrase, to even ASK you to help with a newborn is insensitive. Completely!!! And for the amount of cash they are willing to spend on the wedding (obscene amounts in my estimation) she could have found someone else to do this. And to lie to you about a family member being very sick is very sick in itself. You are an AMAZING sister and I hope your brother appreciates you - and hoping he sees the light on this bride to be. She just sounds like a monster!

Perhaps your time should be your wedding gift to them, and just have them reimburse you for the expenses if you are uncomfortable with charging for it. Just another thought. You are a bigger woman than I, that is for certain!! My eternal respect to you!!!!!

ions_momma replied: How rude of her! You are sooo much nicer than I would of been! You have two children to take care of and she did that to you!?! That is just ridiculous if you ask me!

amymom replied: I think the whole thing is awful.

This is the worst part. Does her mom and sister know that she told you this. If not I would send a getwell card to the sister... sorry to hear you had to go to the ER. Put some palm trees on it. OMG

Does your BIL know that there are 150 invites going out. He thinks 45-50!! Your hubby needs to tell his brother all of this!

MM'sMama replied: Thank you everyone you all gave me wonderful wonderful advice you are all so sweet. I well updste you all when I know more whats going on you all are so full of wonderful ideas .

holley79 replied: OMG! I could feel the anger there. That is horrible of her. I would deifantly hand over a bill for my time and any other expenses. Have you MIL make a bill up for babysitting charges!! I would be so upset, angry and anything else that comes with it.

CantWait replied: yup I have to say you sure are nicer then I would have been, I would have made them invitations and then ripped em up right in front of her.....how rude