WWYD?

MommyToAshley wrote: We used to talk to our neighbor next door often. We know him on a first name basis and he'd stop and talk to us any time he was out (which was daily). He just adored Ashley and would always stop to talk/play with her. We've always said we wanted to invite his family over for a cook out some day, we've just never gotten around to it.

A couple of months ago, DH and I noticed that his grass was getting long. He is very particular about his yard and never lets his grass get long so this just seemed a bit bizarre to us. We also noticed that we haven't seen him outside at all... which is very odd. His teenage son has been cutting his grass for the past couple of months, again very unusual. We are concerned something has happened to him. Maybe he separated from his wife, or has been working out of town (which he has never done since we have lived here), but I really hope nothing has happened to him. I want to ask his wife if everything is ok, but I don't want to seem like I am doing it because I am nosey. If something has happened, I would like to offer to help. So, should I ask? If so, how?

luvbug00 replied: Maybe make good on that dinner offer?? that way your not seeming nosey and they may open up at dinner or upon accepting or declineing your offer.

Brias3 replied: I was just going to post what Nadia did. Go ahead and call up with an invite, that way you won't look rude PLUS they'll be inclined to have to tell you what's up.

luvmykids replied: You could also just go over and say "We hadn't seen you out lately and wanted to make sure every thing is ok" at which point they can tell you or say things are fine if there is something they don't want to talk about.

CantWait replied:
I like that idea. Hope he's alright.

Our Lil' Family replied: I like Monica's idea too. I wouldn't do the invite thing right now, to me that would be too obvious. I'd just call and be honest, say that you noticed things were a little out of the ordinary and you are just concerned.

KUP, I hope he's alright!

Brias3 replied: On second thought, some of the ladies make a good point. If you haven't invited them previously, this might seem obvious. I'd just drop by with Ashley one day for a friendly "just saying hi".

Bee_Kay replied:
ITA!

C&K*s Mommie replied: Whether it is considered being nosey, or not. You are simply being a concerned neighbor, based on past events not being equal to the present.

Jamison'smama replied: We had something similar---our neighbor had a hospital bed delivered one day and I was concerned that something had happened so I asked--and sure enough, the wife had a hip replacement. I'm glad I asked so that I could bring over a meal for them. I think it's fine to ask.

Nina J replied: I would just say that you hadn't seen your neighbour in awhile, and were wondering if everything was okay.

Personally, I don't think you'd look nosey or anything. So many people have uncaring neighbours who don't even notice for months that the person next door hasn't been seen for awhile. Then, it turns out they've died. (Not saying your neighbour is dead). I think it's nice you've noticed

Kaitlin'smom replied: Funny DH and I are debating this also we have a neighbor whos DH we have not seen in a while. I dunno if he got deployed or not (he is military). If you go talk to your neighbor I will talk to mine.

coasterqueen replied: I think I would ask. How, I'm not for sure. Yeah, sorry I know that wasn't much help. But I think if they know you are being concerned and not nosey they'll understand. I hope he's ok.