WWYD? - be brutally honest

Jackie012007 wrote: Here is my situation, according to LMP and the one day we DTD, I am 4 weeks 1 day pregnant. Had plenty of positive pregnancy tests. I don't have an OB yet.

Starting yesterday, I had some brown discharge when I wiped. Faint at first, and now its gotten heavier, Brown with pinkish tinge, and I've noticed some small pieces of dark brown tissue. This is every time I wipe.

So far I don't feel any cramping... just what I believe are mild gas cramps.

I have no insurance now, I can't apply for PCAP until my first OB appointment which will be at 8 weeks.

Would you go to the ER?

If I go and find out I'm m/c, I'm looking at paying $500 - $1000 out of pocket for the visit because I have no insurance. Medicaid denied me and Carl's company won't accept me because we are not gay, until we get married and it won't backdate.

But if I go and find out everything is fine, PCAP will backdate to cover that visit.

I tend to be very practical and my gut is saying not to go, but am I being blinded by the money?! I have absolutely no idea what to do

CantWait replied: This is what happened to me when I misscarried (sorry not to scare you). To be brutually honest hun, there's nothing they can do. They can do an ultrasound and say yes or no to there being a yolk sac there, but at this stage there would be NO heartbeat either way, so really you won't find out anything is fine. The most they could would be a blood test to check your hcg levels, and then come back again in a few days (which they never did for me).

I'm sorry, I know how scary it is, and I wish I could say everything will be fine, but I'm still in my mourning stage and very skeptical about things. I will say I do HOPE everything is fine.

On another note, Robbie (my first), I did spot and bleed with him for a couple of days, so there is hope.



Oh and if I were to do it over again, I would still have gone to the hospital.

MyBabeMaddie replied: Honestly, there is nothing they can do at the hospital besides test your hcg levels... I'm sorry Jackie, I hope everything is okay

jcc64 replied: I m/c, and agree with the others--the only thing they'd do at the ER would be to take some blood. If you were farther along, they might need to do a D and C, but at your stage, that wouldn't be necessary. Why put yourself through the expense and trauma? Fwiw, I also bled and cramped at 4 wks with my dd--it was implantation bleeding--so don't give up hope, it could just be that. gl-

Danalana replied: I agree with the other girls...at this stage, there is nothing that can be done to prevent a m/c, if that's what it is. I have had 3 chemical pregnancies, and I know how heartbreaking it is. If it DOES turn out to be a chemical pregnancy, the good news is that you are very fertile for the next 3 months, and chances of another chemical in a row is unlikely. I'm praying that everything is ok. Do you usually have cramping with your period? I always started spotting and cramping really bad with mine, but I guess everybody is different. I'm praying for the best!

Jackie012007 replied: Yes, I usually have HORRIBLE cramps with my period, I mean the first day I'm ususally in bed with a heating pad and super sick.

I just wiped and it was really dark red blood still no cramping though. I'm gonna wait it out, like you guys said, theres nothing I can do. ugh.

boyohboyohboy replied: jackie, I dont want to give you false hope, but what about the woman who go thru the entire preg. and have a period.. I mean there is still hope..but I agree I wouldnt go to the dr..how about called your OB and explaining the situation to them..
i am sure they would make some consessions for you...a cheaper rate to get check
or just something along the lines of a
lower level eval?

I am praying for you I am sure the not knowing is the worst part...would another preg test in a few days work?????

BAC'sMom replied: To be honest I would wait too. When I miscarried with my first child, going to the hospital made my bleeding worse. They examined me while I was there said everything was fine and I still had to wait a week to know that I miscarried.

After I got in the wreck while I was pg with Ansley I started bleeding after I got to the hospital and even at 22 weeks their first priority was fixing my broken bones not that I was bleeding and or possibly miscarrying. They did an ultrasound and you could see where the placenta was torn but other than nothing could be done.

rest and try to remain positive

mckayleesmom replied:
Ditto...I bled worse after going to the hospital...I think they actually kicked the miscarriage into gear.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I would wait it out, as others have said at the hospital they won't be able to do anything anyway!

Jackie012007 replied: My friend Erika called her OB and talked to them, they may take me even though they don't take my lack of insurance, heh. So we'll see.

She told them my symptoms and the nurse on call said it really doesn't sound like a m/c because the lack of cramps. I was really active yesterday (cleaning, took the tree down by myself, getting ready for Carly's party) and she said that could have stirred up some blood stuck around my cervix from my last period.

I'm still passing stuff off and on, but no excessive bleeding and still no cramps... I remember when I thought I m/c last april, the cramping was really painful. I'm not feeling a thing, except super nauseas. So I'm trying to be hopefull without being ridiculously hopefull.

mckayleesmom replied:
I don't mean to sound negative, but if I hadn't noticed the spotting and went to the Er...I would have never known I miscarried at all. I never had cramping what so ever.

msoulz replied:
ITA with that. I miscarried twice (and I think a third time but I have no proof) without cramping at all. So I would hold off because, as has been stated, if it is a m/c nothing can be done and if not you will know soon enough. I am sorry for your stress.

Jackie012007 replied: I haven't spotted in 3 hours now , and I've resumed frequent puking. I don't think I've ever been so happy to throw up in my whole life. It's dumb, but I took a digi test and it made me feel better. I know, I know... dumb.

mckayleesmom replied:
Just a question...Have you taken any kinds of over the counter meds or any meds at all? I remember one time I took something when I was pregnant with Mckaylee and about 5 months pregnant...it made me bleed...I later found out it was on the no no list to take when pregnant.

Jackie012007 replied: no - just Tylenol last night and I've been taking the OTC prenatal vitamins... those are okay, right? Last time around they gave me prenatals at the OB with extra iron so I never had to buy OTC ones. They are Rite Aid Brand!

mckayleesmom replied:
The vitamins should be ok..Hmmm...Hopefully the bleeding is just from you over doing it yesterday..

Tomorow I would try to lay with your feet up for a while and just try to take it easy. I know thats hard with a little one running around, but maybe you can set up some stuff that she can do while you lay on the couch or something...

A&A'smommy replied: I had brown spotting also when I was about that far along with Autumn it did go away but I also had cramping that never really went away it was almost like af cramps but not I would wait it out because it may not be anything

momofone replied: I had brown spotting when i was preg 8 yrs ago and the nurse told me it was the placenta forming

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I had some early spotting when I was pregnant with Claudia, it happened twice and I was just put on bedrest for a few days. I am really hoping that everything is okay with you and your baby!

boyohboyohboy replied: Jackie have you heard if you are able to make that appt with your friends OB?
how are you?

HuskerMom replied:

Danalana replied: I read your other thread, so I know it was a chemical pregnancy...I just wanted to comment about the pregnancy test. When I lost my first, my OB at the time did a urine test, which came out positive. But my blood work was only 37, and she said it should be a lot higher. Essentially, I was losing the pregnancy, but a pregnancy test would still register HCg in my urine. It was hard to get it through my head, so I took MANY tests after that...until it was negative. I guess I just needed to see it. Again, I'm sorry

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
The same thing happened to me when I had my miscarriage - I took a test to reassure myself when I was about 7 weeks along because I wasn't feeling sick anymore, and it came out nice and dark so I thought everything was fine. But when I started bleeding a few days later and went to the ER I found out that my baby had already stopped developing when I took the test.

I'm really sorry Jackie.