Wedding woe....

kimberley wrote: ok, i cannot use this icon enough for what i am about to post

i have a HUGE wedding problem that i didn't even think about until someone brought it to my attention yesterday.

i have been putting off booking the church because i am dreading marriage classes. Jamie and i are married over 2yrs now so it just seems silly to both of us. anyways, i finally called and made an appt to see my priest in a week and a bit. i mention this to a friend who then says to me... "isn't your hall booked on a sunday?" i say yes and brag about how much cheaper the cost is. i was quite proud of myself. then she hesitates a moment and asks.. "are you doing the ceremony a different day?" i am thinking she is on glue at this point wondering what would give her that goofy idea. i say no and she says "i thought catholic churches don't do weddings on sunday" all the blood drained out of my face! OMG!!!!!!! i think she is right! it didn't even occur to me that was a possibilty . i have no idea what to do other than beg the priest and pray lol. something has to work.

MommyToAshley replied: Oh no! I hope you can get things worked out!

If you can't have it in the church, have you thought of an outside wedding? Or, will the priest not marry you at all on Sunday? (I'm not Catholic, can't you tell)

Maybe you can get the hall for a different day.

I just have my fingers crossed for you. I must have missed this thread... when is the date?

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I wouldn't worry Kimberley, I am pretty sure that things have changed and priests are more lenient. Good Luck!

gr33n3y3z replied: I think your friend is right they only do Saturday weddings
Oh just Beg him to do it on Sunday.
Marriage classes oh my I remember those but we had to take 6 months of classes
or something like that it may have been bc I wasnt Catholic and Ed was.
Let me know how you do with the day.

amymom replied: Talk to the priest!! I was married in a Catholic church on a Sunday. It was 20 years ago, but........ you never know. Some churches will do it, some won't. There is no church law against it. There may be diocesean (never could spell that word ) rule but it is best to check with him. Can you meet with him sooner than two weeks so you don't worry all this time, if there is nothing to worry about?

Boys r us replied: I know this is your wedding and not to take away from your moment, but if you have to pull cards out of your sleeve to get this done, then perhaps you could use the one saying, well we're ALREADY married, so it's not a "real" wedding! LOL I hope that you get it worked out!!!! Until you do, take deep breaths!

kimberley replied: thanks everyone. Amymom, you made my day! i really have been hoping for someone to say they were married on a sunday! now i have hope ! i can't get a sooner appt because of Jamie's schedule. they tried for this coming week, but they are all evening appts and Jamie just got this job so he can't take time off. as for an outside wedding... i would do it, but again, i was told the priests just won't marry you on a sunday and it will be a lot of added expense decorating outside somewhere . i am going to beg and plead when i see him lol. as a last resort, my pleading will go to the hall manager but i really didn't want a friday wedding and we just cannot afford to do it on a saturday.

the marriage classes *shouldn't* be so long for us because he knows our situation. they want us married asap because we have kids. Nichole, in the eyes of the church, i am NOT married my faith is important to me and my family, so it is very real to us. i will let you all know how it goes.

A&A'smommy replied: Ugh well goodluck with it, I hope he will do it for you!!! I wish I could say more but I'm not catholic so I don't know too much about that, but maybe since he knows you and your situation he will!!

Lollie replied: Oh hun!! I hope and pray that everything will turn out your way!!!

You dont need extra stress on top of all the other wedding stuff!Im sure the Priest will understand.

DansMom replied: Yikes!! I hope they will be flexible---let us know what happens!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I hope it all works out for you and they will marry you on a sunday

jolene555 replied: oh - ouch! i know that my parish will not, under any circumstances, do a sunday wedding, but our priest is sort of a crab. just so you do know, outdoor weddings are an even bigger no no. last i heard it was strongly against Catholic doctrine to be married outside - you might find a priest to do it, but the church will not recognize it. i know a couple that wanted to be married by this waterfall thing, so the priest offered to officially marry them privately in his chambers, and have a ceremony for show at their spot. isn't being a Catholic grand!!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Hey Kim.... Iw ent throuhg that too.

the hall where we are having our reception has a service where they can accomodate you with whatever you need, dj's catering, MINISTERS.

Do they have that?

ammommy replied: Good luck! I'm Catholic, so I understand your position. If there is more than one priest in your parish, he may be able to marry you after the last Mass. In our diocese (I can't spell it either ), priests are only allowed to perform x number of masses, including wedding masses, per day. OK, I think that's Papal law, now that I'm typing it... Anyway, maybe you can get around it by not doing a full mass????
The Church across the street from us had a Sunday wedding last month, so it can be done. If that won't work, will a Friday wedding? Reception halls give discounts for Friday weddings, too. Good luck and keep us updated.

gr33n3y3z replied: Thats why I got married in a Catholic church this way they would see us as married
Oh tell the priest,Father or mnsgr, if they do it on a Sunday it will be much more holy then on a Saturday lol I'm sorry that just came to my head.

ammommy replied:
Well, it is a very improtant sacrament

kimberley replied:
LOL Lisa!! you crack me up! i would say something like that too!

Zach's mom... we are already legally married, we are only doing this so that the church recognizes we are married and for our families of course.. so getting a minister just won't do

friday is still an option (if the hall is willing to bend on the date) but most of our family and friends work, so it would be a huge inconvenience for a lot of people.

i am going to put on that catholic girl charm and woo the priest to see it my way! i am so going "downstairs" for that!

coasterqueen replied: Kimberley, hopefully something works out.

I'm Lutheran and I don't think our pastors will marry on Sunday either now that I think about it.

jcc64 replied: Lapsed clueless Catholic here. My own experience with the Church and all of their rules, laws, etc. is but a distant memory. I do remember those wacky marriage classes- the whole idea of a priest up there teaching us about how to have a good sex life still cracks me up.
As far as the Sunday thing, I think it's clear the Church is not predisposed to being flexible, but apparently it's doable by others' accounts here. If your own parish is being rigid, would you consider a move to another, just for the wedding? I know my SIL had to "shop around" to find a parish willing to accomodate her needs, but eventually she found one.
In my case, if the priest wasn't an old boyhood friend of my dad's, we never could have gotten married in the Church, which was fine by me, but being the only girl in an Italian family, would have been catastrophic for my mother.

lovemyboy replied: Hopefully you get it all worked up! Update us when you do.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I can relate!!!


We planne dour wedding.... we've started getting replies, some are No's.... but, to me, if they don't want to come, it's no skin off my back, it leaves seats open for my friends....

Oh well....

I'd say.... who are you getting married for? Yourselves? or your family?

Good luck, anyhow.... hope you find something to accomodate your needs!!!!