Well, I am officially as single as they come.....

~CrazieMama~ wrote: I called my ex-husband to ask him about getting my boy this weekend and popped the big question....I asked him if he wanted to get back with me.....He said "no". I am heart broken, but at least I know now. Now I can move on. He said he was sorry if he hurt me in saying that... I told him it was ok. I will get over it. He said he can not trust me and it wouldn't be fair to me if he could not trust me if we were together. I told him that I understand. Oh well, what am I to do? I know I don't want him to be with me if he can ot trust me... that would be wrong. So, now I move on. Although I don't think I will find anyone.... not in this town.... they are all old..... I mean grandpa old. No joke... or they are teenagers. No one my age... the ones that are, they are in college in other counties. So, I am back to being a single mom with no one interested in me.

kimberley replied: oh Michelle, i am so sorry to hear that. i was really hoping you guys could work something out. don't lose hope. you never know when a handsome stranger will walk into your life and make everything sparkly! also, don't knock the younger ones i thought no one would ever want me with 2 boys then along came Jamie (5+ yrs younger) and sweeps me off my feet . your prince will come sweetie, it's just a matter of time.

~CrazieMama~ replied: Thanks for the supportive words.....but I have really lost all hope.

A&A'smommy replied: dont let go someday he will come along, its never when you expect it though or at least for me it wasnt. if you want to talk you can pm me or whatever i dont know what your going through but i can listen i do understand feeling lonely! ((((BIG HUGS)))

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry to hear that it is over between you and your ex-husband! Don't give up on men I'm sure you will find someone soon!

~CrazieMama~ replied: Im just so depressed today.......

coasterqueen replied: Aww hon, I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but I don't. You need to grieve and eventually you WILL feel better. I promise. You need to completely get him out of your system and then you will see there are good men out there. I know it

There is one waiting some where for you! He's waiting for you to get over your ex and then he knows you will open your eyes and voila! he will appear

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry sweetie that you are going through such a rough time. I was hoping that things would work out between the two of you. But, don't give up hope... I know that is hard when your heart is broken, but things will change. You are always saying that things happen for a reason, so maybe you weren't meant to be with your Ex-DH. There is probably Mr. Right out there looking for you now. He'll come along when you least expect it.

Just an idea, but does your Church have any kind of group for singles or young adults your age? If so, I encourage you to go... who knows who might be there.

We're here for you if you need to talk.

~CrazieMama~ replied: They have a singles thing at church, but all the single are in college.... But they are all so young... im 25 and they are all like 19, 20, 21 years old. Not ready to take on a family and deal with my ex-husband.

Guest replied: I am sorry to hear how you feel- I guess we have all been there at some point in our lives

AS a man i guess i have a different perspective on these things , I watched for many years my mother soldiering on in difficult relationships where she was not happy- simply because she could not bear the thought of being alone, she was unhappy but fear of the unknown kept her where she was-and is.

I cannot comment on whether someone will come along in your town- but I do strongly believe that the most important thing is to be happy in yourself and with yourself, and of course with your lovely baby. Look at yourself and remember it is your husbands loss that he will no longer share his life with you.. concentrate on the good in your life, your friends, your family and especially your child.

I have a friend whose Husband left her after 1 year of marriage saying she was boring- it was the best thing that ever happened to her, 7 years later she is Happy, self-assured and extremely successful as a finance director of an auction house.

We can never know exactly what God has lined up for our future, but only know that it is all good and all we have to do is stay on track.

There will be the perfect person out there for you to share your and your boys life with, but first concentrate on being happy in yourself and with yourself, don't rush into anything- you don't need anyone else to validate you as a person or as a mother be patient, be happy and it WILL all work out I am sure

porksdad replied: oops that was me by the way- not logged in- sorri new to this

~CrazieMama~ replied: I am not the type of person to just settle for anyone just because I don't want to be alone. I have been alone for some time now and have been rather happy. All up till now. I poured my heart out and he said no. I know that God has good plans for me. I just wish it did not take so long.

I will not get involved with anyone just to have someone there. I am all about the heart and feelings. But like I said before, the singles in this town are all in college. I highly doubt any of them would want me and my little girl and then my son every other weekend. That is alot for a man to handle. I don't know of any man that would do that.

I will not settle for any man. I have high standards (not physical).

porksdad replied: LOL yup being patient and waiting on God's time rather than our own can be frustrating at times, but ALWAYS worth it

Kaitlin'smom replied: Big hugs....my sister went throght this same thing and it was hard for her and very hard to watch her being so hear on herself, Unlike you I think she needs someone around, I hope this time she will find the happiness she is looking for, but right now I am unsure of that, they have not been together very long and things are just ok, they have tons to work out and need to actually date. I now things are low rgiht now and I am glad you are not in the mind set of needing someone around that is a good start. You need to let your heart heal and then find your own happiness, and maybe someday the man your supposed to be with will be there just waitng for you. hang in there hon, I am here for you.

jen replied: ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) michelle, I know how hard it is. I hope you find someone soon that is worth your time and rocks your world and brings as much to the table to give as you do Have you ever thought about getting out of your town and doing something maybe every other weekend with another group maybe at another church. Maybe you could broaden your horizons as far as meeting people go anyway and find a new group of people your age.??!!!? just a thought! I mean there are churches everywhere and single groups at most of them!