Well if Kylie wants to go we are going to let her - Pre-K

coasterqueen wrote: I just got back from Kylie's Pre-K screening. She did exceptional, as the testing ladies told me. They only have the ability to test up to 59 months of age because they only test pre-k, not Kindergarden and Kylie tested up to 59 months with no problem. The lady said she bet she'd test much farther than that if they had the ability to do that. I was kinda shocked...and happy. They said most kids don't get tested past the 2nd level and she got to the 5th (59 months). She tested exceptional in everything except gross motor skills which she did 'good' because of her tippy-toe-ness and the other thing she did 'good' in was that she had to be re-directed constantly. THAT one I knew I'd hear. She can't sit to do one thing for more than 5 seconds unless it's an arts and craft activity. They had her draw a picture and the lady said most 5 year olds can't draw that detailed and had her color in a picture and the lady said the same thing.

Ok, so I'm not trying to boast about my child. I know she's very bright for her age, but she does have issue with direction and sitting still, so I know she's going to be a challenge in school. I know I was.

Anyways, Dh and I talked extensively about this and even though we really want to wait til next year to send her, Kylie has expressed extreme interest in wanting to go. We thought about it and I guess it's not going to hurt her, even though we are extremely worried about her being bored. I'm even more worried about her sister if Kylie goes to school 1/2 day, but that's another story. So we'll talk to Kylie a bit more and IF she gets in we'll let her go. We aren't even sure she will get in. There is a waiting list already but they are opening new classes, so we'll see.

This is happening all too fast. Since they are opening new classes she won't go til mid September so I have a bit of time, but not much. I don't think I'm ready for this. I know I'm not. I've had all along that I have one more year...I'm seriously hyperventilating about this and crying. We had so many things planned that will have to go to the waste side if we have to follow a school schedule this year. I wanted that one more year to do a bunch more stuff before we had to adhere to a school calendar for the rest of our life. Ok, I'm SERIOUSLY hyperventilating now. I don't want her to go. Oh I wish Dh would have stuck his ground. He didn't even want her going to Pre-K at all, but after our lunch he threw me for a HUGE loop saying he thought we should send her if she wants to go.

boyohboyohboy replied: Kylie, is going to love big girl school, and they are more creative about getting the kids to do things...and I have noticed that kids tend to listen better when their parents are not around.
hugs to you for letting her go!

coasterqueen replied: I'm sorry but she can't go. I can't let her. I need one more year to adjust to this and be able to go do whatever we want when we want and not adhere to a schedule. I have no school clothes, book bags, supplies, nothing. I can't do this. I'm secretly hoping she can't get in. That is SO terrible of me.

C&K*s Mommie replied:

Kaitlin'smom replied: Karen BREATH. AGAIN. AGAIN feel better? Is this a public or privet pre-K? I am sure if she can get in and you decided to let her go it will be fine, yes hard on you but she will be fine. Good luck with your decision.

coasterqueen replied:
No, I don't feel better. Sorry. I seriously thought i had one more year to do things with her. When I go on work trips I thought I'd be able to take her and now I won't be able to if she gets in. I have a 5 day one coming up and everyone was going to go for 2 of those days, now they won't be able to. Then I won't get to be with either of my girls. I know, selfish reasons, but I really would have made MORE of this past year with her if I knew it was my last before we had to start following a schedule. We have this huge vacation planned for early next year we won't be able to do now. I'm seriously freaking out, I'm not ready.

It's public pre-k. It's the school we want her to go to thru highschool.


Ok, I've eaten about 10 handfuls of m&m's now.

Kaitlin'smom replied: BTW congrats to her.

Karen if your not ready and you think she can still benefit from Ms Teri then dont stress over it.

Who is to say she cant miss a few days here and there. They dont assign homework (do they?) So you still might be able to atleast take the trip next year. Kait will miss 4 days a school in early sept and I am not worried about it, she goes year round so she is goign to have to miss here and there if we are to ever do anything. Talk to DH let him know your concerns before you let her decide. Also make sure they have a spot before she says yes.

wanna go have a foo foo drink?

coasterqueen replied: YES! I think I need about TEN foo foo drinks right now. My boss just called and mentioned I sounded down and I told him what was going on and he said the same thing about them missing school. I guess because my parents NEVER let me miss unless I was dying or someone else was so I just didn't think twice about letting my kids, kwim?

Dh and I both agree she'd benefit from Terri just as well, if not better, but since she is so advanced for her age, education isn't a factor. We do worry about the re-directing issue and wonder if it would be better corrected in a classroom setting versus with her sitter, but who's to tell what really would be the best for that, kwim? BUT she's been begging to go for a while now. I know part of that is the kids at daycare are now going, but I know she'd also like it. I just think she'd be better at Terri's..so DID DH, but like I said he's changed his mind. Darn him!

We will wait to see if she gets in before asking her, but I know she's going to say yes. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I'm going to gain 10 pounds over this, I'm serious.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Karen, there is no right or wrong decision. Whatever you choose for her, she will be fine either way. Think of it that way.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I know you dont want to hear this however ( a fancy but) IMO and this is just my opinion I think the re-direction problem would be better (at least for us it was) in a classroom like setting. Now Kait did not have a hug problem sitting still, but still had one and she does much better now with her patience in waiting for things. Most kids at this age still cant sit still for very long there attention span is just not that long (for most, there are exceptions). I do believe Kait is better than she would be if she was not in school.

However your susitaiton is abit different you have a sitter that from the things you have posted works really well with the girls, talk to her and see what she thinks about the re-direction and if she thinks she can help or not.



oh and 10 No way could I drink that much with out needing a good nap

booey2 replied: Karen, hugs and congrats. We didn't do any testing on Thomas and he started JK (like pre-K) last fall at 3.5 and he had the same attention issues it sounds like K has. She will be fine, he was and can't wait to get back there this year.

Now back away from the M&M's.

Terri

amynicole21 replied: Karen, if you don't want her to go then don't send her! You have equal say in the matter. She'll do fine either way.

jcc64 replied: Sorry, Amy, disagree with you. Not wanting her to go b/c letting go is too hard is a bad reason to hold a kid out of preschool. If she's begging to go and she's clearly ready- let her go. All of your concerns about boredom or being a slave to the school calendar are nothing but big fat rationalizations, Karen. (this is your girlfriend talking here) You can pull her out to go on vacation, business trips, whenever you want. It's not like she's gonna miss a big exam or something.
Sending your child off to school for the 1st time is a big deal, a milestone, but it's a happy one. Her world is expanding, and that's what you should want for her. You can cry about it, but wipe the tears away quickly and send her on her way. Parenting is one big farewell party. This is but one of many dress rehersals. I know I sound harsh, but I have one that is 4 yrs away from leaving home FOR GOOD. And while it will break my heart to see him go, it would be a whole lot worse if he didn't. Then I would feel that somehow I failed him. Our jobs as parents are to raise our kids to be ready for life away from the nest. If he was afraid to fly, that would be saddest of all, don't you think?

coasterqueen replied: SEE this is why I LOVE you guys!!!!!!! First off, I'm balling, sorry, I've been balling all afternoon and I don't even know if she's going to get in or not. I wish I would have asked how long they are going to make me wait.

Yes, she is begging to go and it may just be because the other kids are going right now, but I know she'll like it. I'm not ready, plain and simple. Now I must say DH's and my decision before to NOT send her this year was not because we weren't ready, but because we thought that was the best for her. We've talked about this over and over and over again, and decided that if Kylie wants to go, it's not going to kill her so why not let her. But now that DH has said that, and it really is true, I just am not prepared. I really needed that year to help me prepare. I have issues with things like this. Just like I still have issues of Megan coming a month early and feeling robbed of my last month of pregnancy. I know that's why down deep inside some days I want to be pregnant again. It's all psyschological and it's all because I have to have things certain ways or at least be prepared for them or I can't handle them. KWIM?

Ahhhhhhhh, I've got to find a way to prepare for this and QUICKLY. I know some of you might think I'm a real big dufus for freaking out about something like this and about not having time to prepare, but this is just who I am. If I prepare, I can handle it. If I'm blindsided I can't. Weird, considering the type of job I'm in and I'm blindsided on a daily basis, yet I can handle it.

Again, thank you ALL for letting me say my feelings here and for telling me your HONEST opinions. I truly value honesty whether it hurts me or not and it means a lot to me. I'm so glad I can come here and get advice.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Well, that says a lot about Kylie and is such great news.

ITA with Jeanne..it's time to let her fly. It's not easy, but you will do just fine (and so will she)

mckayleesmom replied:
I agree....If she is expressing a yearning to go...then its time to let her spread her little wings.....I know its heartbreaking Karen, but Im sure you will do great once you get use to the idea. Its hard to let them go and do things without us....but its only fair to let them go when they are ready.

Part of parenthood is following our childrens lead and Kylie's is leading you to preschool...

Nina J replied: I agree with Jeanne.

Best of luck with whatever you decide, things will work out in the end. If she gets in and you send her, it might be a struggle for you for awhile, but not for long