Well said Aimee

CantWait wrote:

Just wanted to say well put.....

mckayleesmom replied:

skinkybaby replied: I agree 100% with the not judging part.

I'm not sure why we're not allowed to voice our opinions just because we're new though.

Oh well. I like the board and will continue to post

C&K*s Mommie replied: very well said Aimee!

There is no harm in posting your opinions simply because you are new. I think the question is raised when you are new or have a low post count, and you start or reply to strictly controversial threads. Sort of a way of pushing buttons hard, getting feathers ruffled & then leaving, does that make sense? I could be wrong though.

luvmykids replied: ITA!

MommyToAshley replied: It may have raised a red flag because you posted only to a controversial thread, but I can understand how it would be hard not to respond to something you feel strongly about. And, you should be able to whether you are new or not. You are entitled to your opinion, and we respect that. I have actually learned to look at things from another perspective by participating in some of the discussion we have had here.

Welcome to Parenting Club, I am glad decided to stick around and I am looking forward to getting to know you.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am sorry... where are my manners? to Parenting Club, Kat, Ellie and skinkybaby!

Kat replied:
Perhaps 'newbies' who respond to threads deemed controversial don't stick around simply because they're chided for voicing their opinions, rather than because they're trolling.

Just something to consider.

Kat replied: And thank you, nix4noles.

jcc64 replied: I think Aimee said it well. If you're new to this board, or any board, it takes awhile to figure out the board culture- that is- the way we like to converse with each other on a broad range of topics. If you spend enough time here, you will quickly learn that we tend to like things drama free- though we don't shy away from controversial threads, we do try to keep it civilized and not at all personal. On many other boards, the drama IS the attraction, the gloves come off pretty quickly if you kwim, but that's not the way it is here at PC. That's all that was being said- and we do value your opinions, whether it's your 1st post or 1000th. Stick around, and welcome, btw.

MommyToAshley replied:
I agree. Thank you for saying that.

MommyToAshley replied:
You have a valid point. That is why the thread was closed... whether it was due to an old timer or a new member, the thread was no longer a productive discussion.

msoulz replied:
IMHO, this is the exact point of having these types of boards, to learn from others. A good debate is very enjoyable, but by "good" I mean that we are respectful of others' opinions and do try to "hear" what the other person is saying. That, of course, goes for all sides whether or not we agree with them!!

I have no idea what caused the comment but I sure do like it!!

ashtonsmama replied:
I think the "chiding" is just trying to keep the peace, not that you can't voice your opinions. Hope you stick around and post more.

Welcome.

Jackie012007 replied:
well said! I am still relatively new to this board, and came from another board where it was drama central (of course you get 50 pregnant women together with crazed hormones and see what happens ) but I really love this board because the hard topics can be discussed without bloodshed and hair-pulling... I like how what we post is challenged in a tactful manner by other members... it makes you really think about your stance/view on a lot of controversial issues!

I appreciate the intelligent, tactful debates on this board and the fact that we are all so diverse in our opinions! Conversing with you guys keeps my mind challenged, as I sit home all day with a dog and the boob tube to keep me occupied until January!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I just want everyone to realize what a great community this is and how much we all care for each other. It's so much more than controversial topics. When posting to these topics, we typically know each member's personality and what topics they have strong feelings about. So we take what they say in stride and know their 'tone', etc. A person with 2 posts couldn't possibly know this. Not to say you shouldn't participate in discussions, but when the only discussions you participate in are heated topics, that looks a little suspicious. We'd like to get to know you better....we really are a caring, loving, supportive group. And most of us are very close friends, even though we don't always agree on every topic.

Sorry if you were offended by my statement or felt pushed away. That was not my intentions.

luvmykids replied:
I think your last sentence is a perfect example, Aimee, of everything else you said. Those of us who have been here a little bit know that would never be your intention.

It's hard to be a newbie and not know personalities and tones, it does not mean you shouldn't participate but keep in mind that not only are these people knew to you, but you are new to them as well. And it is very easy for tones and statements to be misinterpreted on a computer.

Kat replied:

That's very true.

I am, however, fairly annoyed by the PM I received asking 'what's your problem'. How lovely of someone to think enough of me to send it.

luvmykids replied:
Please bear in mind, that is one person in a group of many.

Kat replied: I know

It was just a little childish and silly.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
That's the kind of thing you should feel free to discuss with a mod, any mod, in private. We try hard to keep the peace here, and we try to resolve a lot of issues, not the least of which is personal conflict between members. I could see how you'd be annoyed at that type of comment...

Please understand that some people come here to stir trouble. Not saying you are one of them... members are just wary. Don't take it personally!!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
if you run into problems with any member feel free to PM a mod or adm and we will be happy to help.

C&K*s Mommie replied:

Kat replied:

Nah - they're not worth the effort.

skinkybaby replied: Thanks guys! I post on another board that is always full of drama, an dyou're right, it does get old!

I got a very sweet PM welcomoing me, and the girls on the TTC board have been so nice!