What a loser

kit_kats_mom wrote: I emailed my dad's long time Girlfriend as hers is the only email I have. I talked to him before I had K to let him know he was going to be a grandfather and to find out about any illnesses that ran in his family, since I dont' know them at all.

Last week, I was thinking that maybe I should give him another chance to meet his granddaughters before he dies (he had laranx cancer last time we spoke) so I emailed Lisa asking if he's still alive and if he'd welcome a visit from us to meet his granddaughters.

no response.

what a pitiful, sad human.

lisar replied: Can you call him? Maybe she just isnt telling him

mommymommy replied: You have done everything that you can on your part..It is sad, and he is the one missing out..What a shame!
Please try not to dwell on it as it is him and not you!!
I know that it is easier said than done and I can imagine that it hurts, so I am so sorry
Good luck with everything!

mckayleesmom replied: I agree...Maybe he doesn't know you are contacting him.

gr33n3y3z replied: Heck I would go see him anyway bc maybe she isnt telling him or at least find away to contact him

Calimama replied: I agree that maybe she isn't telling him. DH's step mom would delete our emails and voice mails for a long time. Or perhaps that isn't the right email address anymore?

A&A'smommy replied:

kit_kats_mom replied: nah, I think he is genuinely not interested. He was only part of my life for the first two years. When he lost touch, he never tried to find us weather he thought he just didn't have to pay the $70 a month child support or whatever. When I was 16 I found him and paid him a visit but he never called again.

I just think it's kind of pathetic. I mean, dump me, ok. Dump my kids? That's just wrong.

mckayleesmom replied: He shouldn't be excused for dumping you either...you should have been just as important. Just remember...you might not be important to him, but that is his loss, you and your girls are important to others.

BAC'sMom replied: Sorry girl that stinks

MommyToAshley replied: I'm sorry.

But, you're right -- what a loser. It really IS his loss. It is probably hard not to think about it, but I hope you don't let this get to you. You are a wonderful woman, mother, and wife. K and Lauren take after their Mom, and you should be really proud of yourself.

kit_kats_mom replied: Thanks guys. I am doing my best not to dwell on it. Honestly, he only occasionally comes to my mind. Mainly I don't want to find out he's dead and that he never had the chance to meet the girls. I suppose I feel guilty for not trying harder KWIM? I'm realizing now that perhaps he just isn't interested in "this" part of his life and I guess I'll let him be.

HuskerMom replied: I'm sorry