What do you and your partner argue about most?

Danalana wrote: For us, it's finances...that's pretty much the only thing we argue about.
What about you?

grandma replied: Second marriage here, so we don't really argue.....

stella6979 replied: I think finances is a big one for most couples. Aside from the finances though, I would say it's Jeff's selective memory. He will move stuff and then can NEVER remember where he put it. It drives me crazy and no matter how many times I ask him to make an effort to remember he never does. He says he has a bad memory, but I just think he's lazy. I mean...how can you move something and the next day not remember where you put it???!!!!

sparkys2boys replied: Hmm, we dont argue much anymore but if and when we do it's over stupid things like who is right and who is right

In our younger days we argued alot and it was over money to.

grandma replied:
lol - your in trouble when he get's older. You should get him one of those reminder recorders, as seen on tv....

Calimama replied: I say shopping. He hates it when I buy something but gets super excited when he sees how good of a deal I got. Yet the next time he starts all over with the, "do we NEED it?.. but again gets excited. It's a never ending cycle.

He says rearranging furniture and how I make him move it 500 times before I'm set. Um I think he has me confused with his other wife, I only make him move it like twice.

He's also way way way too overprotective but we don't argue all that much about it. He just gives in.

stella6979 replied: I would like to add that we hardly ever argue at all. Jeff is my best friend and I'd say we get along at least 97% of the time. His forgetfullness is just one of those annoying pet peeves that we all have and even then we don't really argue. Sometimes, I'll make subtle little comments about it, but it never turns into an arguement. We'll both just start looking til we find what we're looking for, but it still drives me bonkers!!

mckayleesmom replied: We don't really argue a whole lot and its mainly over something stupid like who's tv show sucks worse...

A&A'smommy replied: I don't know stupid stuff we go through spouts where we argue a lot and then we don't argue at all for a while. Usualy though its him playing on the computer too much (he plays this game called war of warcraft UGH i hate it) and then he doesn't have any time for me and the girls it drives me insane and also his issue with throwing his clothes wherever he feels like it and I literally have baskets all over the house just for him

Calimama replied:
My best friend is going through that. It's getting to be where her DH gets home at 5 and plays until 2am, goes to bed and repeats it the next day.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Stupid stuff. You wouldn't believe it if I told you.

He likes things done "his way" and I like to do things "my way." Most of the time I get my way b/c I'm the only one here, but when he is home, overlooking my tasks, he tries to tell me how to do things. That doesn't go over too well. There's nothing that irritates me more. This has gotten better over the past few months.

We are finally at an agreement on finances and no longer argue over that, but it took an act of God (literally) to bring us to this point.

And we don't have cable so we don't argue over him watching too much TV anymore.

We used to argue b/c he worked too much as well, but that hasn't been brought up lately in an argument even though he is working quite a bit.

We argued a lot in the past, actually. I rebuke strife when it enters my home and that helps a lot. But for the most part, God changed my heart and made me realize that arguing is not effective communication. Go figure.

I have such a wonderful husband that really I can't complain at all. (at least not today. )

luvmykids replied: It used to be him playing way, way, way too much golf. But he mellowed out plus I learned to appreciate the release it gave him from all the other tensions....we worked together, lived together, etc so it was a good way for him to decompress.

We don't argue much anymore, when we do it's over money because he just doesn't pay attention to what and when he spends.

DillsMommy replied: Anything and everything. Unfortunately we argue a lot.

msoulz replied: Arguments are rare here too, but most disagreements have to do with sex. The usual, he wants more, I want to sleep!

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I'd say that's our #1 argument as well. #2 would be money and other than that it's mostly stupid stuff.

A&A'smommy replied:
LET Me tell you that game seriously is the root cause of many divorces

boyohboyohboy replied: we rarely argue because I was blessed with a nonconfrontational husband..
but if there is one thing that would cause an argument its the way he cleans...anything

luvmykids replied:
Uh, yeah, that would be on our list too

Crystalina replied: Well, we got most of the arguing out of the way within our first 10 yrs of marriage. Now we realize that it just isn't worth it. We have really only two major things we argue about. Politics (which thank God will end soon ) and his friends coming over and calling all the time. It just rubs me the wrong way when we're sitting down to eat and one of his friends call and he takes the call. Or we are watching something and he will get up right in the middle and answer the phone and then come back and ask me what he missed. Or it's a Sunday morning and I hear a honk in our driveway and look out only to find one of his friends waving back at me. I've complained about this on here before. His friends don't know when to go away or when to quit and he doesn't want to tell them. I've gotten a few to back off with my remarks and obvious agitation at being honked at but there are a few that just don't care.

Oh see, now I'm all mad and he didn't even do anything.

lovemy2 replied:


We go through spurts - sometimes its anything and everything sometimes its nothing at all - sometimes we just argue for the sake of arguing -but one thing we don't do is argue in front of the kids....

momofone replied: discipline issues mostly.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: We really dont argue about anything. My husband is so easy going and doesnt really get mad about anything.

The one thing I get mad at him for his how much he plays on the computer.
I try to let him have "his time" since he does work really hard...but so don't I and I dont get to do my own thing as I please.
Lately though, he has been awesome and spends more time with alex and asking me what he can help out with around the house.

moped replied: Ummm maybe the double standard that this life is - he gets so much freedom etc, selfishness, and maybe my shopping but not really

jem0622 replied: I'm with you, Dana. Sometimes, we have tiffs if I get home later when he has to work (he's home days). He still ends up on time (every once in a while there is a snafu), but he 'prefers' to be there earlier than the tail end of our agreed upon time.

Nina J replied: Nothing to serious, just silly things. We don't argue about money or anything like that because we both usually agree on those kinds of things.

Mainly if we argue it's just about who should clean the kitchen, don't leave your clothes on the floor, wipe the bathroom bench when you shave.

jacobsmama replied: I would say it use to be money...But now it is a little Different.

We argue mainly about Jacob. LOL

He is WAY to rough with him all the time. Especially Wrestling, playing rough, acts like he is 12 when he is only 4! I get mad and then Loren says he doesn't whine except when you are home and we are playing...UGGG and who and when is gonna discipline him and making it stick.

Brias3 replied: We don't argue much, but if we do, its usually over the kids. This has always been a consistent argument for us though, regarding discipline, etc. He's gone so much that I like him to take in some responsibility for the kids when he IS around, but then he lets them get away with whatever since I think he has guilt around being gone so much, so its an ongoing battle

Besides that though, I can honestly say we get along super well and have hardly ever fought in the 14 or so odd years we've been together.

DVFlyer replied: The dog mostly.

TheOaf66 replied: wow this is one of those questions that would drop a husband in boiling oil fast

gr33n3y3z replied: We dont really argue about anything just his snoring maybe
As we get futher on working on this house ask me then

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: We argue most on the weekends! And its about what we plan to do with our time. I'm a planner, so I like to be out the door early, have a set place to go, have lunch packed. Make it a good FULL day. Where DH flies by the seat of his pants, totally spontaneous. Sometimes it works out, but most times if I go his way we end up doing nothing because we've spent too much time diddly daddling around trying to figure out where to go. Oh, this bugs too...When I have planned a day out for the whole family, like going to the zoo, DH will throw something spontaneous in there. Like "Oh, on the way to the zoo, do you mind if we just stop real quick so that I can get my haircut?" Drives me NUTS!! I feel guilty saying no, but at the same time, it always screws up our plan because it NEVER turns out to be quick, then the boys are a mess waiting around. We totally argue about that!!

redchief replied:
I don't argue. She does.

luvmykids replied:
Still? How's obedience class going?

DVFlyer replied:
Yup.

OB class went well. Of course when we were done, she commented on how she didn't see much of a change in Ginger's obedience... like 6 classes was going to all of a sudden cure any of her issues. I took the class to learn how to continue her training.... correctly.

The latest issue was because I was "talking sweet" to the dog. She doesn't like the fact I don't talk to her like that....

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I am thinking you mean World of Warcraft,, my DH plays it some but not like when he was hooked on Everquest (or evercrack as I call it) it was way to adicting and i was happy he gave it up years ago.

we dont argue much and when we do it seems to be over lame things and we then tend to stop and say we are arguing over what?

lisar replied: I dont argue. I refuse to. Its my way or the highway J/K but we really dont argue.

MommyToAshley replied: We are together 24/7 since we work together too. We never used to argue, but now if we argue it's usually over something with the business. We have different ideas how to run things, but it usually results in a better solution than either of us could have come up with on our own. We also have different parenting styles to some degree, so there are disagreements there once in a while. We have little spats here and there, but it's not excessive, and we usually resolve them pretty quickly.

Rae, I'm a planner and DH is the more spontaneous one too. This is good to some degree, except when he plans to go away for Fourth of July weekend without making hotel reservations -- that was no fun. Let's just say that I refuse to get in the car unless I know we have reservations now. But, on the flip side, I was glad he said, "Let's stop there" as we passed the sign to Cumberland Falls on our way home as it was beautiful.

my2monkeyboys replied: DH and I rarely actually argue. There might be a day when one of us doesn't feel up to par, maybe didn't get enough sleep or something like that, and we end up being grumpy to the other one. But the "victim" will call the other one on it and whoever is being the butt will lighten up.
We never really have argued, even when we worked together in an old business. He is just laid back and I'm not a demanding b*$#@, so it works out pretty well for us.

jcc64 replied: We don't argue- I nag and he ignores me.
Mainly about the fact that our house is falling down around us and he's always off at some baseball field.