What would you want to pass on to your kids?

MommyToAshley wrote: What is the one lesson, trait, value that you admire about yourself that you would like to pass on to your children?

What is the one lesson, trait, value that you see in yourself that you hope you don't pass on to your children?

kimberley replied: very hard to chose just one but if i had to, it would be forgiveness/acceptance. it is so important to be able to release negativity from our lives at any age and be able to forgive those who hurt us and most importantly, forgive ourselves for our mistakes. with that, you have to accept that nobody is perfect.

"He lives without sin, shall cast the first stone"

i really don't want my kids to be stubborn. i mean, there is a time and place where you should stand up for yourself, but not everything should be a battle. i am getting better with age, but have a huge history of flying off the handle at a moments notice when i feel someone has done me wrong. that anger and attitude gets you nowhere in life imho.

mummy2girls replied: A question to make me think..LOL.

I hope Jenna grows up to appreciate things and people around her. I have a huge passion working with kids that are disabled and have such an admireation for them. To be very loving to people around her and people in her life.

I dont want her to get my passiveness! And shyness! I hate that for me saying no is a struggle. I guess that is why aron and my sister walk all over me all the time! They know i cant say no so they take advantage of that. I want jenna to be able to stand up for herself, and give all she can give....

MommyToAshley replied: I just realized that I didn't put my own answers before hitting enter...

I would like for Ashley to have confidence and believe in herself. She will face a lot of peer pressure throughout the years, and I hope that she has enough confidence to stay true to herself, her morals and beliefs.

I have a tendancy to clam up and pout when I am mad. It always bothered me when my Mom did this, and now I see myself doing the same thing. I have been trying to change my ways when I catch myself doing it, and I hope I don't pass that along to Ashley.

A&A'smommy replied: it is hard for me to choose just one but if I had to the one thing I would want her to get from me is love I want her to always love and to never forget how....grrr and so much more....

Also I don't want her to learn impatience from me that is my worse trait I am a VERY impatient person and I have always been that way!

My2Beauties replied: I definitely want Hanna to learn that people are different and just because they are different we shouldn't make fun of them or hurt their feelngs. There are too many kids nowadays being bullied and it's really sad. Whether someone is black, white, poor, rich, skinny, big, dirty or clean she has no right to judge them and should treat everyone with respect and kindness! I know what it's like to be made fun of, it hurts! I think all kids have been made fun of over something (nomatter how small) in their life and it is a crappy feeling. I had a big gap in my teeth when I was younger and people always made fun of it!

What I do not want to pass on to Hanna is my jealousy! I am so jealous of DF sometimes I could croak! I'm not bad when I am with him like if another girl says something I just laugh it off because I'm right there, but when he goes out with the "boys" I get stark-raving crazy thinking about any girl touching him when I am not there I'm getting better though!

Lollie replied: Hi mommies!!

I'd love my kids to have my irrisitable charm.....hehehe...kidding!

I'd love my kids to have my self confidence,compassion for ppl from all walks of life and to have a special place in their hearts for the disabled...(My little brother has Cerebral Palsy).

Mmmm....I dont want then to inherit my b*tchiness and my stubborness!!

redchief replied: I would like my children to be able to step back from a trying situation and be able to look at it and react with thought and conviction.

I hope they are not so strong in their convictions that they fail to listen to wise advice of others, regardless of how they feel about those persons. I'm still working on this

5littleladies replied: What I most hope to pass on to my kids is my faith in God. My faith defines who I am and what I do and is the most important thing in my life.

What I don't want to pass on to my kids is my stubborn nature. If I make up my mind about something, good or bad, I have a very hard time budging on it.

jcc64 replied: I would want to pass on empathy.
I would NOT want to pass on my tendency to be a world class worrier, although I now see it already in ds#1.

due_any_day replied: i hope that maggie earns my ability to forgive people no matter how hard it is.

and i hope she never learns to use a persons most painful weakness when shes mad at them because i do that a little too well

Boys r us replied: Wow!! Great question!!!

The one thing I hope to pass on to them is the ability to love strong and passionately!

The one thing that I would rather them not get from me is my temper.
It takes a lot from me to explode, but when I do..it's all she wrote!

kit_kats_mom replied: I hope my girls inherit my independance. I know that I'd be perfectly fine if DH left/passed etc...wouldn't like it, but I'd live and make do. I also hope that they have the ability to laugh at themselves and their mistakes. Humor has kept DH and I almost entirely argument free for 3 years now.

I hope that they don't inherit my lack of confidence or my worrying. I "caught" both of them from my mom and I hope to be able to stop it here.

DansMom replied: Hmmm...

I want to pass on to Daniel a sense of responsibility and concern for the well-being of the planet, other people and animals.

I hope he doesn't inherit my tendency to suppress the truth just to avoid hurting people.

tanner'smom replied: I want my child to inherit my love of everything natural and outdoors. Not be cooped up in a concerte world. I want my children to all know what it is like to run at break speed on a horse back wind in there face and no that they are at one with god and everything is right in the world. I want them to now how to give compassion in a way that doesn't down cast anyone.

I don't want my children to be afraid of being hurt to the felt that push people, friends, animals and god away.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: This kinda made me cry because my answer is very personal. It has to do with the road I've traveled this year, dealing with a Mental Illness, fighting it and having the strength to get through it! I would have to say my STRENGTH! Never giving up, always trying your best and you can do ANYTHING! Okay I'm in tears now! With my DH the quality that I would love that they got from him would be his DEDICATION to me and our family! Even when the road was tough, he stood by me and never looked back!

due_any_day replied:
*big hugs* that made me cry. and it sounded like you needed a big hug so there ya go.

coasterqueen replied: Wow there's lots of things I hope to pass on to her and lots that I don't. I guess I'd like to pass on to her to think for herself, educate herself whenever possible (meaning just don't go through life "as is" when college is over with) and to be truly forgiving.

I definitely don't want to pass down my temper, my impatience, my inability to forgive and leave those things in the past, and my stubborness.

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
Awwww Thanks!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

You have been incredibly strong this year! You made me cry. You are so sweet.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I would love for my kids to inherit my faith in God and my strong conviction. I truly believe both have kept me on the straight and narrow...especially in the house I grew up in. I also feel that I am very independent and strong willed. Not a bad trait for a girl to have.

I really do not want them to inherit my impatience or my temper. And I am pretty self conscious. I wasn't very good in school, either.

Oh, you only asked for one! Ooops!!

mama3x replied: This is a difficult one for me...well I'll try.

First what I hope both DS and DD DO NOT inherit from me: my lack of self-esteem/confidence.

What I hope DS does inherit: passion for things he believes in

What I hope DD does inherit: compassion

The only reason it's different is because of their dispositions - I am afraid my DD will eventually beat up someone She is a feisty one. DS is overly mellow.

Josie83 replied: I hope Jason and I pass on good manners, tolerance and open mindedness to Cassie, so far it looks like we have/ I would prefer it if she didn't become and actress and I wouldn't be particularly ecstatic if she had a baby at the same age we did . . . but apart from that, whatever she does is fine by me! xx