When is enough, enough? - Behavior

wcs40110 wrote: Okay, my little girl is one now. She has certain things she does that I don't know if I should crack down or let go.
A: She climbs out of/stands up in her high chair. My options are:
-Let her
-Grab her and sit her on my lap
-Ignore her
-Set her back down, tell her no, and don't put up with it.

Then while shopping, she climbs out of the cart. When in the front (Where Im not susposed to put her) She will bawl until I pick her up. Usually so she can scream because she wants down. Where I can:
-Let her cry
-Carry her screaming
-Let her walk like she wants and just do at a slower pace watching every move she makes.

When do you say its not a cute little baby doing it anymore? I know moms have a lot more patience for their own kids but if I let her cry you her people going "Id beat that kid." HELLO, Shes only ONE, shes doesnt really understand!! Then if I grab her. "I'd let her cry, you cant always give her what she wants''
Just polling for opinions.

Thanks everyone.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I'd sit her down in the high chair and tell her no. As for the cart, what I did always varied by the time I had. If I was in a hurry, they would sit in the cart and cry - but if we had time, I would let them walk.

My parenting style has always leaned towards stronger discipline - I don't let my kids get away with much. Even at 2 and 3, my kids know that mommy is the mean one and daddy is the softie.

luvbug00 replied: I'm also the "law" arround here.
the high chair i say distract her attention. I'd also tell her no very sternly, look her in her eyes so she knows you mean business.

as for the shopping carts ( and because i could give a donkys hiney what people think) I would strap her into the proper seat and let her scream and take your time. she needs to know that NO amount of crying will get her what she wants.

good luck!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I agree, who cares what others think. Yeah, no one wants to shop with a screaming child nearby, neither do you, but you have no choice right, you have to get groceries. I would let her cry. Like Nadia said, strap her in. It is the safest place for her to be IMO. I know to some people it's gross, but can you offer her snacks while she is riding in the cart or maybe something like a toy to distract her. I always carry lots of snacks on hand when I'm shopping with the boys. Sippy cups too. Wil's new "distraction" are stickers. I give him a whole bag full of stickers and a book with pages he can stick the stickers to. He loves it and it keeps him busy the whole shopping trip. Wesley just needs like a couple goldfish and he's good to go.

I know I just posted about my climbing kiddo, so I'm really no help with the highchair. Wesley does this too. He does it on every chair. I just say "no, sit down" and put him on his tush. He tries to get up again, so I put him on the floor. Then try putting him back in the highchair (the proper way) after a minute or so.

GL!

luvmykids replied: I can't add much else, everyone else sums up my opinion. Whatever you do, be consistent....don't fight the shopping cart battle for a trip or two only to let her sit elsewhere the next time , and don't let her climb in the highchair sometimes but not others.

gr33n3y3z replied: Set her back down, tell her no, and don't put up with it.



-Let her cry
-Carry her screaming
-Let her walk like she wants and just do at a slower pace watching every move she makes.
All the above sorry not much help there

moped replied: Well how about the seat belt on the high chair and the shopping cart??? To keep her in and for safety reasons

wcs40110 replied: Thats what everyone keeps saying but she squirms her little 18lb butt out of them.

moped replied:
Well make it tighter - she shouldn't be able to get herself out of them - I know it sounds harsh but I still use them in carts and the stroller

kit_kats_mom replied: Katherine learned to walk at 9 mos and she NEVER rode in a stroller or cart after that. She just fussed the whole time and it was too crazy. She had legs and wanted to use them. So, I got her a little baby doll stroller and a small shopping cart. She could push them around when we went somewhere. She learned a lot by helping mommy shop. I'd let her carry some things in her cart and she was terribly proud.

Make some lemonade out of the challenging behaviour.

Of course, once her sister came along, she started riding in a stroller.

wcs40110 replied: Ive thought about getting her a shopping cart because she LOVES to push the cart, thats how she started walking. She will walk with us but sometimes she gets distracted, as many babies do. They're only like 10 bucks and we could keep it in the car and break it out when were shopping. Shopping is our only hobby. It sucks.

PrairieMom replied: seat belts, seat belts, seat belts. make them tight enough so she can't get out of them and if she screams, let her scream. I tend to be pretty strict, but I am not about to let a one year old call the shots. I am Mommy and I know what is best.
You have to be consistent too. Eventually she will get the picture.
I feel your pain, I have had a screamy screamy freaking out kid for the past 2 weeks at the grocery store.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Ditto...could have written that myself!