Will I love him? - like I love her

Mommy2Isabella wrote: With my due date fast approaching and I had a baby shower last sunday the reality has hit me, IM HAVING A BABY!!

Well, I am excited but it seemed at this point with Bella that we had her room finished all the sheets on the bed THE WORKS. Washed all the clothes everything. We went to babies r us last night and spent 100 dollars on stuff ... it didn't seem the same as buying stuff for her. While we were there I kept putting stuff back like no we dont need that ... yadda yadda yadda. I think some of it is just we had so much stuff with Bella that we didn't need and never used and we are trying to avoid that this time around.

SO, the question is ... will I love him as much as I love her? I am so nervous about that, I hear most moms are with their second child, worried they won't love the new baby... blech ... please tell me it will be ok!

luvmykids replied: Of course you will, you'll be awed by how much love you have for him without crowding her out, and how easy it is to fall in love with him just as it was with her

My3LilMonkeys replied: You will. As soon as you see him it'll be impossible not to.

grapfruit replied: I'm positive you will Your heart will just double in size to have enough love to go around

PrairieMom replied: Stuff does not = love. We learned a lot with Ben so we were able to avoid a lot of senseless spending with Al. We re-used everything including some clothes. Poor Al is just now getting her owl pink jammies and not wearing Ben's old blue ones, and I love her very much.

Calimama replied:
I agree. It's not going to matter to him how much stuff he has, as long as you guys have what you need to take care of him. I'm sure deep down you know you'll love him just as much as Bella.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Of course you will. And like the others said, the kid won't care whether he has less than his sister, not at this point anyway. You are a more experienced mom now and know what you need and don't need. Look at that as a GOOD thing. BRU makes new parents feel like they need everything under the sun, but as you know, you don't. Having a toddler has made you more busy, and more tired, so that is why you probably haven't prepared as early this time around. Don't think it's related to how much or how little you may love this baby. You'll love him, don't worry.

msoulz replied: For me the love came more quickly with #2 because we knew what to expect and weren't so darned scared about taking home a tiny stranger. It felt completely different and there's enough love for all!!

Mommy2Isabella replied: Thanks guys!!

I knew you guys would make me feel better

lovemy2 replied: If anything the "handing down" of stuff makes it all that more special - I found with Dylan whenever I used something that was Olivia's I was like Awwwww - look he loves it as much as she did....

jacobsmama replied: I have been trying to concieve and often wonder the same thing. I know we will love our 2nd though as much as our first!

Brias3 replied: Yes, you will. You totally will. Even when you think you can't possibly love anything as much as her, this new little person comes and you just DO.

A&A'smommy replied: of course you will!! But you will have to reasure me when the I start getting nervous, ok??

Bamamom replied: You totally will

But...


Don't be freaked out if it takes a couple of weeks. I remember sitting in the floor holding a screaming Katie Grace when she was about a week old and crying, whispering to DH "I just don't love her like I love him." Now understand that within a month or so I was head over heels about her but it didn't happen immediatly or even overnight - AND THAT'S OKAY! Just cut yourself some slack if the emotion is not there immediately.

My2Beauties replied:
Same here, I was so nervous with Hanna and worried about all the little milestones and when will she do this, when will she do that, that I don't think I enjoyed her as much as I did with Aubrey. With Aubrey it's like people are asking oh is she doing this yet that yet and I'm like well yes or no if that's the case but I haven't even thought about how old she is and at what rate she should be doing it, I just say oh she sat up, yeah and take pictures and relish in it, I don't say oh she's 6 months old now, she needs to be sitting up...that's how I was with Hanna. I just enjoy watching her more. I am more patient with her too, because I pretty much know what I am doing now.

ShannanRenee replied: I think you will. I just found out I am pregnant with my second and I think about that too!

gr33n3y3z replied: I never had any doubts with any of my 4 children
I love them all the same