Wish my mom some luck

mckayleesmom wrote: She is going to the courthouse right now to get paperwork to file for custody of Timmy. My brother did fax her a paper saying she had custody for 2 months, but my mom doesn't trust him and she doesn't want Timmy to go back to him at all. She is going to get a restraining order on him also. My mom is going to get everything in order this weekend....letters from the neighbors and doctors she worked with that treated Timmy ...they treated him as a favor to my mom because my mom couldn't get my brothers ex to send her Timmys social security card or anything....come to find out my brother wasn't in rehab when she was calling...He knew Timmy was sick and did nothing. Then my brother called yesterday and wanted Brittney's (Timmy's birth mom) address. My mom said over her dead body was she getting Timmy back...shes a druggy and she was the one that claimed Timmy on her taxes a couple months ago and hasn't seen him since he was 6 months old...My mom will just tell her she will sick the IRS and she is too stupid to know they would just make her pay it back..so she will probably back off.

My mom said that if Brittney dares to show her face she will not only ask for custody, but get child support from her too....But I told my mom that hopefully Dustin will just drop it and not contact her and she should just leave Brittney out of it......that way this goes smoother. We don't want Brittney cleaning up for a month and the courts giving Timmy back to her.

I really hope that my mom gets custody. Trying to kill yourself in front of your 3 year old has to count for something right?

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am not sure but are there more legalities to taking full custody of a child?? Is there a long process to take over custody? I do not know for certain, but I would like to think that no one would be able to go down to the courthouse with papers in hand asking for custody of my children. Does that make sense?

I wish everyone (you, your mother, Timmy) very well in taking this, and getting this done and over with so he can begin to rebuild and renew his spirit in the loving arms of you and your mother. I will pray for this, that you guys can put this behind you and Timmy can move on with more love that he could have imagined. The love of you and your mother.

Please keep us posted. I want to see that he has a great new start.

Momof3inMe replied: I hope everything goes her way. I hope that Timmy can start to have the life a 3 year old should have.

mckayleesmom replied: Well...there are alot of favors towards my mom. My mom has had him for 6 months.....4 of those my brother was suppose to be in rehab and he wasn't...SO basically he was abandoned.

He tried to kill himself in front of his 3 year old son. He was also drunk and disorderly when he they came to the house...he had drank 3 bottles of Vodka.

He doesn't have a job and hasn't paid a dime for Timmy in 6 months.

His mother hasnt paid a dime or seen him in over 3 years.

A while back my brother was caught drunk driving,,,Timmy was not only with him, but not buckled up or in a car seat. Just walking around the back seat.

He hasn't paid his fines and a warrant will be out for him in a couple weeks.

He has no place to live....so timmy would have no place to live.

MY brother had an arrest record.

The list can go on. Im sure it will be a process, but I hope it goes in her favor.

kayla's mama replied: Hope things go smoothly for your mom and she is granted full custody of Timmy. I'm saying extra prayers for him

kimberley replied: good luck to your mom. i hope everything works out.

gr33n3y3z replied: I hope everything goes well
will be saying a prayer

CantWait replied: Good Luck. Timmy deserves better than what his dad can give him that's for sure.

ashtonsmama replied: (((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) to your mom! I'm sure she must be dealing with alot, physically and emotionally...she'll definitely be in my prayers.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Good luck to your mom. Make sure you keep us posted on how things turn out, we will be sending many P&PTs to Timmy and your whole family.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I hope that once this ball gets rolling it will turn for the better of the obvious, and Timmy will be allowed to remain in the loving home environment he is in.

Prayers for your brother too.

Nina J replied: I'll be praying that everything works out

MM'sMama replied: P&PTs Timmy deserves a wonderful life. Lots of luck to your mom shes doing a wonderful thing for him. I hope everything settles down and works out soon.

redchief replied:
It does, but not usually enough.

Gaining permanent custody of Timmy won't be easy, at least at first. It may even be impossible without your brother's cooperation, but if I were she I wouldn't let that stop me. I'd do all in my power to get that poor child into a stable environment.

Most likely (almost certainly, but family courts are weird places where they talk about what's best and stability, then make temporary decisions) your mother will be granted temporary custody. Courts don't like to remove children from birth parents permanently, until it's proven to them that the birth parents can never offer him a stable home. Your brother will be ordered into rehab by the courts along with psychiatric counseling. Also unfortunately, your mom is probably going to have to deal with the birth mother in the same way as with your brother. His regaining custody will be contingent upon showing the court irrefutable proof (that is, the counsellors in charge of him will have to testify that he is clean and committed to remaining so, and that he is no longer a danger to himself or others and is capable of holding down a job and providing for Timmy). If, after a period of time it becomes evident to the courts that your brother can never offer Timmy a stable home, or he gives up permanent custody voluntarily, then the courts would order permanent custody to your mom. This is going to likely be a long and difficult fight for your mom unless you all can convince him that giving up custody of Timmy permanently is in everyone's best interest.

Good luck and my prayers to your mom!

mckayleesmom replied:
Oh...I know its going to be a fight, but Im hoping he gives up.