Would this bother you? - About a 'friend'

Edward's Mommy wrote: I have this friend that I've been having issues with. Her son is six months older than mine and she doesn't just make suggestions, she plain out tells me that I'm raising my son wrong because I believe in attachment parenting. I told her once that the way she raises her son just isn't how I want to raise my son. I told her that I didn't think she was doing anything wrong, it just didn't work for me.

Plus, her husband tells her he has a job, but never comes home with a paycheck. One week, when he was supposed to be at work, he was at my house. I called her because she has a year old son and she's pregnant again, I felt that since they already had one son and another child on the way that she had a right to know that her husband wasn't going to work. She told me to "f-off" and mind my own business. I said 'okay.' and backed off. My husband just got a new job and we don't have a car, so my grandmother comes every day and takes him so we don't have to spend what little money we have on him taking the public bus. But my friend and her husband are under the impression that my grandmother takes my husband to work to "make sure he actually goes." But husband isn't like that.

I feel that my friend is sticking her nose where she told me not to. Would this bother anyone else? Or am I being over sensitive? And should I confront her about it? We just started talking since I nicely asked her not to tell me how to raise my son and she decided that I was insulting her parenting abilities and stopped talking to me. Should I just end this friendship because I don't see how she's really being a friend.

kimberley replied: she doesn't sound like much of a friend imo. very immature. if it were me, i'd move on with my life and make friends who are supportive and caring.. not judgemental and rude. there is nothing wrong with AP. as you said, it's a personal choice on how to raise your child and she should keep her mouth shut.

gr33n3y3z replied:
I agree with Kimberley
Move on

luvbug00 replied: ditto, move on!

TeagansMom609 replied: She sounds more like an enemy to me. I think she is being very rude to someone who is supposed to be her friend. It sounds like she is jealous of you in some way and thats why she keeps on spitting out negative comments. I would kick her to the curb.

C&K*s Mommie replied: ITA with the ladies above, find a more supportive friend or circle of friends. One that will not be so defensive when the tables are turned.

luvmykids replied: I had a "friend" like that for many years. It took a long time to realize how miserable I actually was when I was around her or even heard her voice on the machine. I thought b/c we'd been friends for so long I just had to accept her but finally got fed up and took out the trash! And I've never even missed her!

fashionmumofboys replied: You don't need people like that in your life, just to make you feel miserable all the time.

I would say move on, and don't look back.

Good luck.

ions_momma replied: She doesnt sound like a very nice friend if you ask me. How you want to raise your son is totally your choice. I think its time to find a new friend and move on.

moped replied: Totally that would bother me - everyone raises their children differently. I have a freind who gives me the what for because I don't practice attachment parenting! Everyone has their own views!

Edward's Mommy replied:
It's really funny you say that because she has to take medication for her bi-polar condition plus she had PPD. And she has tried to tell me that I'm bi-polar and had PPD after my son was born. She tries to tell me that my son isn't comfortable around me and he and I haven't made the "mother-child" connection yet. But strangers on the street have commented about how my son has " eyes for his mommy." So, I just figured she was trying to take everything she's going through and pin it to me so she doesn't feel alone or like she's the only one dealing with these issues. My son has two teeth and I use the Hyland's teething tablets and on the bottle it says to put the tablets under the baby's tongue. Well, Edward chews them. And she told me that I should put the tablets in a spoon with a little bit of water. "that way the baby won't choke on it," but the tablets are so small I don't see my son choking on them, plus they dissolve! But what do I know?

akelly replied: It sounds like she's unhappy, and rather than face her own issues, she'd decided to glam onto whatever she perceives as YOUR shortcomings. An energy vampire! LOL! I'd steer clear of her, but I'd try to be subtle about it....in other words, be sensitive that she obviously has issues (like the BP), but don't let her take you down with her! As she gets less and less info from you to "use" for her "mill", she'll probably just look for somebody else to critisize.

3xsthefun replied: I really agree with everyone else. I wouldn't keep a friend like that.

MamaJAM replied: Honestly - that doesn't sound like a 'friend' to me. Sounds like she needs to feel superior -- therefore she'll look down her nose at everything you say and do.

If it was me - I'd cut the ties now and save myself the heartache and pain of this 'friendship'.

MyLuvBugs replied:
ITA! Get rid of dead weight. She's not your friend.