Would you be upset if

Boys r us wrote: your husband and some of the fellas from work went to Hooters for lunch?

Story:

My DH had to do some errands yesterday at lunch, well 2 of the guys who work for him tagged along. DH had to pick up a part from the car dealership across town, so while they were over there, they decided to stop at Hooter's for lunch. Well, one of the guy's wives called while they were there and when he told her where they were she had a COMPLETE MELTDOWN! I couldn't really imagine that when Rick told me. and not to be mean or anything, but given the two guys who were with him, I have to say , I'd have far more reason to worry over someone eyeing my husband than the two "dorky" co-workers who were with him..but stuff like that doesn't bother me at all. So I guess I'm just not sympathetic that it bothered this other guys wife, it actually seems kind of funny to me. Am I just cold? would this have bothered you?

ediep replied: nah, Hooters is no big deal....now if it was a nudie place, then yeah, I might be a little angry

MomToMany replied: Yes, it would bother me. I'd be like the wife who flipped out. I guess it's because I'm so insecure about my looks.

Would your husband care if you & some friends went to Pecker's? I know my DH would be upset if I went to a place like that.

Thank GOODNESS those trashy places aren't anywhere near here!

six_kids_at_28 replied:


All we have is mom and pop restaurants

Boys r us replied: Edie, Me toooooo..if it were a nudie place, I'd have blown a gasket! But at Hooter's...it's not like the women are dancing on you, it's a girl in a tank top and shorts bringing you your food.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I really wouldn't care. My hubby really would have gone there for the wings.
LOL.

Boys r us replied:
Mine too!! Haa!!

moped replied: No, nothing like that bohters me at all.......................I think it is funny when women overreact like that...............LOL

ions_momma replied: It wouldnt of bothered me either.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Nope doesn't bother me.

I prefer not to go.. but I don't care if Dh and some guys have some hot wings and beer at lunch..

No biggie..

If it was nudie bar I would kill him.. If he has extra dollars to spend he can spend them on me.

My best friend got married a few years ago. And Randy and I were both in the wedding. Us girls went to a club to dance and drink. And Randy and the guys went to a "Nudie" and he told me they were. I didn't care b/c it was a one time thing.. but he didn't last long. He took a taxi to the bar we were at before 11 .. he was to worried about who I was dancing with to look someone else..lolol

I thougth it was funny!

Kaitlin'smom replied: nope does not bother me at all, he has one close to work. I usually ask if there was anything worth looking at.

jcc64 replied: Hooters is like Chuckie Cheese for guys- lots of junk food and visually appealing entertainment, but all pretty meaningless in the big picture.

moped replied:
Is there such a place???????

LOL

Kidding!!!

mckayleesmom replied: nope...I could care less. Its just a restaraunt where they where tight shirts and hot pants.....You can see worse at the mall.

kit_kats_mom replied: With my Ex it would have bothered me but it was a combo of my insecurity and his wandering eye. Now, I don't give a hoot....get it? Hoot. bwahahahhaha

coasterqueen replied:
You always know what words to say Jeanne. That put a smile on my face this morning .

It wouldn't bother me in the least bit because I know my husband. Although I must say it would bother me if he took me there. I just don't like going to a place like that so I told him to never take us there.

Boys r us replied: Jen if you have one there, I'm on my way! We can go have some beers and a few smiles!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
can I join that

kimberley replied:
LOL that is funny yet so true!

i could care less if DH went there. trust is crucial to me in our relationship and i'd only be torturing myself worrying over nothing.

MommyToAshley replied:

MommyToAshley replied:


Jeanne, I just love you! I can always count on you for a good laugh!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
PRECISELY!!!

No, Hooters doesn't bother me at all. There is a running joke in my family about Hooters and this other place called "Bone Daddy's" Scotty passes Hooters every night on his way home and he'll call and say "I'm gonna stop by and get some wings at Hooters" The funny part is, he thinks it bothers me. Nothing about those girls in there can intimidate me. I'm not THAT insecure.

A&A'smommy replied: I don't like hooters and I wont go in but I don't think that I would mind if my dh went.. I guess I'm becoming more secure of our relationship BUT if he would have went before or even right after we got married I would have reacted like that woman!

aspenblue1 replied: Stuff like that doesn't bother me.

moped replied:
Cool!!!!!

See you soon then!

six_kids_at_28 replied:
so true!!!!

3_call_me_mama replied: First of all that wouldnt' happen casue there isn't one near us and DH has no interest to go there (friends in Massachusetts have asked him to before)
I wouldn't be melting down but it might upset me. I hate places that use sex appeal to sell stuff, wings or not. I am very insecure about my self image and if that is hysterical to people then I feel really bad that they get their kicks off peoples insecurity.

I'm gonna shut up now. Bet a few of you are glad to hear that.

six_kids_at_28 replied:
No!!! I for one like your posts

kimberley replied:
you are very much not alone in how you feel and i can understand insecurity very well and would never mock someone for theirs. i guess some people who don't outwardly have these issues cannot understand those who do. sorry you are upset. i also like your posts

Insanemomof3 replied: Would not bother me a bit...He comes home to me. Who cares if he looks at others. He is married not dead.

Boys r us replied: Wow..Guess that was directed at me, but I apologize if my post made you feel bad. I don't get my kicks off of anyone else's pain or insecurities. I was merely saying that to me, it seemed bizarre that someone would get so worked up over something like that and it seemed funny..not really in the sense that I'm sitting here laughing about it, but funny..odd..what have you. Cripes!

gr33n3y3z replied: strip clubs and hooters dont bother me lol
But like Mel said send me the $$$$$
Bit then my husband sleeps with single woman 12 hours a night at work and they are all looking. So like I said the other 2 choice are a drop in the bucket

My2Beauties replied: Hooters is no big deal and the ones here in Louisville, OMG those girls are NOTHING to look at! Nichole, we went to Hooters about 3-4 weeks ago, and this was funny there was a preggo Hooter's girl, I'm not trying to be mean I didn't say anything at all but boy DH and his buddies sure got a kick out of that one, of course we were in the redneck part of the city so it was a big joke! Anywhoo - I just thought I would share!

Please no one bash me for my PG thing, I had nothing to do with it it was my DH and his friends - I was just along for the ride!

Also - I don't think Nichole was poking fun at anyone's insecurities, blowing up about something like that is more than just insecurity it's called being a Control Freak and I, for one, could never be with someone who didn't trust me to go to a restaurant! Another side note: If there was a restaurant called Pecker's I would be there with Bells on and my DH wouldn't care at all

3_call_me_mama replied: Actually Nichole it wasn't directed at you or anyoen specific. Just the way I feel, I see too many people getting kicks off ithers pains.. and I'm kinda grumpy today. The post didnt' really upset me, jsut kinda hit a spot that has been ruffled a bit to omuch lately. So no I'm not mad jsut dont' care for peopel that get pleasure form others pain.

Boys r us replied: Well..it seems apparent that you must think someone here gets pleasure from it..otherwise you wouldn't have responded with that, yet a 2nd time.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: None of those places bother me...Hooters or even a strip club! DH has to go sometimes for after work type things and I could care less. If he was choosing to do that every single night and blow a lot of money there, well yeah, I would probably be upset, but my DH would never do that.

I would totally go to Hooters for the good wings and beer too!! It's just a bunch of girls in those old orange dolphin shorts we used to wear in the 80's! No biggie IMO.

We had a Coyote Ugly at my old work (I did marketing for a mall) and the girls dance on the bar...it's the same thing. Nothing topless. Just like Jeanne said, you get a little show every half hour or so like you would at Chuck E Cheese!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I know what you mean Carrie...sorry if it made you feel bad.

3_call_me_mama replied: Sorry you feel I am a liar. I sincerely wasn't directing it at you or at anyone here in particular. I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to bring real life feelings and experiences to the board. I know REAL people that are like that in REAL LIFE, guess I shouldn't have assumed that I was allowed to express that here. Again Sorry.

MomToMany replied:
Hugs Carrie! I know how you feel. I think people laughing at other people's insecurities is very mean and childish .

six_kids_at_28 replied:
I'm just a little confused. Who made fun of someone's inseccurities? My computer is very slow right now and I can't go back and look for some reason ($%#@^& computer )
to anyone who is feeling sad now....the day started off so nice

Boys r us replied: I didn't call you a liar, no one did..and I don't care to argue about it, either. But the following quote seems to be directed at some of the comments made here, so I'm very sorry that I read too much into this and in addition to that, that you though I was calling you a liar.




You see, I mistakingly thought that b/c I said it was "funny" to me...that you thought I found it hysterical that people are that insecure, which I didn't and wanted to clarify. and I mistakingly thought that when you said you were going to shut up now and you bet that a few us were glad to hear that, that it meant
someone here, not in real life, were glad to hear that. So again, my apologies are in order here for mistakingly thinking things like that.

Apparently the world is still suffering from the ramifications of the full moon on the 17th!

CantWait replied: HOOTERS, not really, maybe a bit. I think that just tells you how secure I am in my relationship with my husband though. It sounds like you and dh have a great relationship, so why should you worry. Maybe her and hers are having some problems, or something else that's underlying and that's why she's upset.

CantWait replied: Also, HOOTERS is a family restaraunt, children are welcome to go in and eat as well, so that's another reason I don't think its a big deal.

Boys r us replied:
I couldn't agree more! and you're right it is a family restaurant, in which both of my boys have been to at least once. Actually when Tanner went, he was 4 and was with myself and 3 other girlfriend's of mine for lunch.

kimberley replied: lets remember here that everyone has their own idea of what is acceptable or not for their family and believe *their* opinion to be the correct one, but there is no right or wrong answer. we need to respect each other and accept that we cannot change other people, only ourselves. after all, we are all moms and dads who love our kids dearly and make choices we feel is best for us. lets not judge each other please.

i am locking this thread because it doesn't seem to be able to stay on topic and feelings are getting hurt.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: It's funny that you should ask this. My DH and I have had this conversation a few times. It really doesn't bother me at all. I completely trust my DH. When my cousing and her DH would come to town, my DH and her DH used to go to the strip bars for a few drinks. It never really did bother me.