Would you believe this dad when he says this...

mummy2girls wrote: The story is he usually drops his dd off at daycare then drops his wife off at work then goes to catch the metro to work. Now on this day they were running late and he drops his wife off at work first completely forgets his dd in the back and catches his train to work leaving her for 8 hours strapped in her carseat in the heat. Would you believe this story?

Now wouldnt you hear the child in the back talking and making noises. (she was almost 2 years old)? and getting out of the car wouldnt you see your child in the back seat?

He was found not guilty.

amynicole21 replied: Ugh, that's awful Did she survive?

Kaitlin'smom replied: WHAT? I am sorry I dont believe him unless he was sleep walking or something What about the wife? Should she not have wondered about the kid?

The daughter did not make any noise? I know Kaitlin can sometimes be extremly quiet but that just prompts me to check on her and make sure she is ok.


that is just so horrible

kimberley replied: not guilty?!?! that is awful! and why wouldn't the mom make a comment about why he was dropping her off first? it sounds fishy. poor baby

MylittlePaige replied: You know I remember hearing a story similiar to this about GrandParents. It is so hard to believe that someone could do this though. I just can't even fathom it. What a scary world that he could be so rushed with work to forget his own child in the backseat...
Alli and Paige

mummy2girls replied:
No..the dad found her when he returned to the car 8 hours later saw her unconsious and rushed to the er. She didnt survive.

mummy2girls replied:
well she was dropped off at work by the hubby and he was suppose to drop his dd off at daycare but forgot. She foubnd out after the fact...

Kaitlin'smom replied:
okay but if he drops dd off first would that not make her ask why have you not droped her off first.....then if he siad I will before I get the train then he did not forget.......and if it were me I would have calle dto check she was okay when he droped her off.....this is so sad I want to be with Kaitlin so much right now

DansMom replied: Right before I was going to return to work from maternity leave I was watching a court case on Court TV. In this case, a working mom had gone outside of her usual routine and dropped her older son off to his Daycare first, intending to drop her 9 month old daughter off at the babysitter second. They were running late, she had been up late doing reports, and she didn't want her son to miss the breakfast at his Daycare. Well, the little girl was fast asleep, facing backward in her carseat in a minivan with tinted windows, and mom, because she was so used to dropping her daugher off first, continued on to work as a hospital administrator and parked all day in 90 degree heat. She didn't find out her error until she picked up her son at daycare and went to put him in his carseat. Remembering this mother's testimony still disturbs me so much. I haven't watched Court TV since. But after seeing this, even though I don't believe that I could ever make this kind of mistake, I do believe that good people can make a horrible error like this if they are overwhelmed with responsibilities and commitments---trying to do it all and have it all. I guess seeing the testimony live convinced me that these were good people and committed parents and not generally negligent. She was acquitted in the end.

What is worse, the babysitter tried to reach the mom several times when she didn't drop the little girl off, but it just happened to be a day when mom was away from her office in meetings most of the day and the sitter didn't leave a message.

You can imagine how I felt going back to work full time after seeing this case. It did teach me, though, to recognize my limits, not take on too much (even if I get poor reviews at work for it), and keep my priorities and roles very clear. If I'm not well-rested, I keep our activities low-key and close to home so that I'm not driving, since I don't drive well when I'm tired---stuff like that.

amynicole21 replied:
I agree with Dansmom. Even though I would hope I would never make that kind of error, I can see how it could be done. That's simply terrible and heartbreaking though.

Lily replied: I find it infinitely hard to believe that a person could just "forget" their kid in the car. That's crap. IMO

megsmommie replied: I have to say that I do believe that he could have forgtotten his child. Thinngs happen. Even though we would all like to Believe we are "perefect" an dwould Never do such a thing, it happens. My cousin did this with his child. I don't remember the exact detials because it was long ago and I was a teen, but he just was oblvious to the fact he forgot to drop one of his kids off. Luckily someone heard the baby crying and the police came an dgot her out. But, it does happen. My cousin felt extremely bad for what happened, but sometimes things happen when we are rushed, nervousm anxious, upset, etc. I feel bad for the whole family all together, but imagine how the dad feels knowing he accidentlaly did this. I am happy the child was found, and is still alive, other wise he would be facing worse emotions and jail time right now.

coasterqueen replied: How horrible. That's all I can say.

paradisemommy replied: we just had a case here in hawaii within the last year where a lady taught classes at a YMCA. she drove to work and forgot her daughter out in the car and same thing - the little girl who was under a year was unconscious by the time she found her. they said that they got in the drivers seat and sure enough, you couldn't see the car seat/child (i guess she was sleeping). she, too, was acquitted of all charges. hard to believe but they said she was absolutely hysterical and i can't imagine having to live my life out knowing i hurt/killed my own child. i think that's punishment all in itself.

MommyToAshley replied:
I think this will be worse punishment than anything the court could give to him. Could you imagine having to live with knowing you've killed your daughter? How sad!

Elle replied:
I was about to say the same thing.

But (there's always a but), just try to see things from the other side. Maybe this father hadn't slept well, he was under a lot of pressure, stressed out because he was running late... This can't be called negligence because he changed his usual routine and messed up things. I'm not trying to justify anything, I still think this is really awful, but I'm just saying that no one must be feeling worse now than this father. The worse punishment for him will be having to live knowing that his "stupidity" (or whatever you want to call it) killed his DD. And that's hard enough for someone, I believe.

A&A'smommy replied: UGH what a horrible situation I PRAY that this will never happen to me or any of my children!!