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Maddie&EthansMom wrote: Living in the city or the country? If you lived in the country would you prefer living on 1 acre of land in a gated community (with pools, ponds, trees, deer, turkeys, but restricted and private) or would you like to live on 30+acres?

DH and I are having a debate and can't decide what we had rather do. Of course we have a while before we build, but we would like to go ahead and start looking into purchasing the land first and paying it off. My best friend's in laws live in the gated community and it is really nice. I like the idea of it being gated and private as well. I'm ready to get out of the city. DH and I have dreamed of being in the country and raising a family there. There is just something about looking up and seeing stars at night. DH really wants 30 acres or more, but I don't know what we would do with all of that land. I'm not interested in farming and he doesn't have the time. Our taxes will drop by about 80% when we move to Oklahoma. There is no argument, there. It seems like the right thing to do. There are things I would miss about the city, but really we wouldn't be that far. We are also about 2 miles from a HUGE lake and I wouldn't even mind living on the lake (DH doesn't want to, though). wink.gif Land is so cheap right now, but it will go up soon b/c that area is growing (another reason we want to go ahead and buy).

His job also comes into play when making this decision. I would like to know that he will be there for awhile. Of course if we buy into the dealership, he will be, but it will be awhile before we know for sure. I wish it were so much easier. I wish we could just put our house on the market, buy some land and build our dream house tomorrow. rolleyes.gif

Oh well, lots of time to think about it. Just wanting your opinion! biggrin.gif

momof2girls replied: Hmmm that is hard...
How about one of each? lol

I dont like it right in the city and not way out in the country either....

but good luck!!

aspenblue1 replied: well since I have lived in both. I like the convience of the city but love the privacy of the country.

If I had my choice it would probably be in the counrty on land so I could have horses.

Mom2Boyz replied: I'd have to go with the city. It's so convinient to have everything so close, but on the other hand, the privacy of the country is nice too.
Good luck on your debate wink.gif

MomToMany replied: Definitely the country. We have 60 acres now, and looking for more. It is so private, peaceful, and most of all QUIET! Seeing the stars at night is great, and meteor showers are spectacular! One time we counted well over a hundred meteors!

We would LOVE to live by a lake. How come your DH doesn't want to? I'd love for DH to be able to take the kids fishing whenever he wanted. It would also justify the purchase of a boat, which he desparately wants.

Boys r us replied: I prefer the country! We live in a bedroom town of a bigger city. So we have the best of both worlds, a nice country setting to live in, but the good malls and so forth are only 10 miles away. We live on 80+ acres, with only probably 15 of it developed..the rest of it are fields and forests. I like it...there is a whole subdivision of houses across the street but technically we have no neighbors, ya know! I don't have to worry about the kids being outside and all of that. It's a nice feeling! there is just something to be said for country living and I'm SO NOT a country girl!!

MommyToAshley replied: One more way that DH and I differ. biggrin.gif DH would say country. I would say suburb. LOL. I wouldn't want to live in the city, but a nice suburb. I am so not a country girl and love the convenience of having the big stores close by. blush.gif DH on the other hand wants a lot of land just like your DH. We plan to build in a few years as well, when Ashley is a little older and in school and we can concentrate more on growing our business. I suppose we'll have to compromise when the time comes.

I hope your DH buys into the dealership and you get to realize your dream home sooner than you thought! grouphug.gif It's good that you are planning now!

coasterqueen replied: I prefer the country. We have 3.5 acres of land and that is enough, but I would like to have some more for horses smile.gif. I just love the peaceful life compared to the "chaos" I find in the city. I also like I walk outside in my robe if I want and not worry who's looking at me. tongue.gif Just less nosey neighbors in the country wink.gif.

Sunflower04 replied: I would have to say the fast pace life of the city is for me. My mom has a house with alot of land and it creeps me out being outside in the dark.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I would love to live in the country. Someplace private with an acre or 2 of land. I don't think I could live in a gated community.

My2Beauties replied: I"m a city girl. We visit the country quite often because DF's relatives live there and while it's relaxing for the weekend I would go bonkers if I lived there because there is absolutely nothing to do wacko.gif I love the convenience of the good hospitals and stores nearby. I get scared that if I lived in the country it would take an ambulance forever to get to us in case of an emergency, but that is just something us city folks always think about the country, it probably isn't true! rolleyes.gif

coasterqueen replied:
Living in the country does not mean you have to live that far away from the city wink.gif. I live in the country and don't live that far from the city. Unfortunately the city is growing closer to our area of the country which I hate. But we still go to town to do things..but enjoy the quietness of the country and not stepping 10 feet out your door to the next house. tongue.gif

Kaitlin'smom replied: I would like more country/suburb. I want to be close to the city and still have privicy. my MIL lives out in the omish country with I think 15 acres I like going there but I would not live there its to far ways from things it takes usually 1 hour to get anywhere. It way to out there for me. We will probably always live in the suburbs. Now if I was single I would live in NYC in a heartbeat. I love it there.

TANNER'S MOM replied: country!!!!!1
I can't imagine leaving in the city. I live on 120 acres, in rural Arkansas. I have to drive over 7 miles dirt road daily and cross two creeks without bridges. And I know that extreme is not for everyone, and in the winter it's not for me. But my children know God in such a different way where we live. How many children have seen a new baby deer just hit the ground? Or the watch a baby calf suckle for the first time? We see everything from owls, to wolf's and coyotes. But we see the colors changes, . We get to ride our horses everyday. My children get to watch my neighbor plow his garden with a mule? Most would never see that. It really installs a work ethic in children....they know that the animals depend on us so they get fed before we do, they learn to be good to your neighbor b/c if you have a flat you better have a good relationship so they don't drive by. When our barn fell in a storm, two weeks later my neighbors had it fixed while my husband and I were at work. And another to look at is, the country school are excellant in my area. My children have always been straight A student's and excelled in every area. There classroom sizes are around 10-15 students per class, so they get one on one.

And the nearest town to us is where the Univ of Arkansas is, so if we want culture or to see a play, even go to the mall we have a 30 min drive.

I wouldn't change it for the world. Another big plus is we can run around in our drawers..and no one can see us.. and you would be surprised how many times that has come in handy...(muddy and have to strip off)..lol

And we don't have to worry about our kids getting kidnapped. They can play out side and be happy and care free like kids should be.

MomToMany replied:

Yep, that's the way it should be!

BTW Tanner'smom, where in Arkansas are you? My sister lives by Oak Grove in the NW corner of the state smile.gif .

5littleladies replied: Country with acreage! No doubt about it. I would love to live away from the noise of the city and have a place where my kids could go out and play and not have to worry so much. Someday DH and I hope to do that, it won't be for a while but someday. smile.gif

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

Exactly. We would be just minutes from the nearest town (which isn't all that big) but it has pretty good shopping. I just need to get away from the city. I love my neighbors (they are all oldies), but we live pretty close to an apartment complex and the boom boom boom of the cars drives me INSANE! wacko.gif I can't handle living this close to people, either. I want more privacy and I want to feel secure. DH laughs and says "But you were raised this way!" Yes, but my parents house is across the street from a golf course and on a really secluded street. We just didn't get noise and stuff. It seemed more private.

Anyway, I'm glad I asked you guys. I'm thinking the 30+ acres sounds nice now. DH might be right. We could also get Maddie a horse (she loves horses). wink.gif Now my best friend's mother said I would never be able to handle not being near a mall. I'm not really a mall person, but get me too far away from a Target or WalMart and I just may go crazy. The nearest 'big' town is about 30 mins away. Where they have lots of shopping and restaurants. thumb.gif The gated community is really nice and is a country setting, but I think it is still too close to people. tongue.gif

Oh and of course if I were single I would be in NYC!! LOL! rolling_smile.gif Boy how family life changes you!! I'm not a country girl, either, but like the idea of smaller schools and bigger yards for my kids. wink.gif

Thanks for sharing your views everyone. I think we will look into some acreage now! biggrin.gif

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Good choice! happy.gif I would definitely pick the country with acreage... I grew up in the country and I miss it! sad.gif I would like to be a little closer to the city than I was growing up, but if that wasn't possible I'd still pick the country! wink.gif

chloe&tysmommy replied:
That is the best thing about living outside the city...no worries about someone kidnapping my kids, although you still have to watch them. When I go to my moms who lives in the city I don't let Chloe out of my site!

Good choice! You will LOVE the country! I was a city girl before I met dh but I adjusted living in the country no problem! (although I wish we lived a little closer to the city for shopping reasons-it's a little over an hour away). It's a great life to live-very peaceful happy.gif

TANNER'S MOM replied: I am from a small town called Wesley, we have pop of less than 100. But the nearest town is Fayetteville, where the U of A is, pop 60,000.

A&A'smommy replied: dh and I are going to build someday and we want 30+ acres but we will see!! Good luck with what you choose!! thumb.gif


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